Christian wife with unfaithful husband
By aconner
@aconner (218)
United States
October 16, 2008 9:32am CST
My husband and I separated in late July and all through August. He filed for a divorce and left me for another woman. In September he left her and came back to me saying that he did love me and he wanted to live his life with me. Promising that it would never happen again, we canceled the divorce and started rebuilding our relationship. I do not believe in divorce because it's not God's will. I do know that in the Bible it talks about adultery being a reason for divorce, but even then it's man's law, not God's. Well a couple of days ago I caught him sneaking around and he had emailed her and told her he missed her. I'm of course giving him another chance because I feel that things will work out. We're still young, only 23 years old, and have only been married for 3 years. No kids, yet. I'm looking for some advice. Stories of your experiences with cheating husbands and things working out for the better or not. How did you get past it and start trusting him? Anything would be helpful. Thank you in advance!
3 responses
@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
16 Oct 08
everyone does mistake sometimes in their lives...even for couples. if you still love him and would want to give him a chance...then you and him can go to a marriage counselor. i hope everything works out good between you and your husband. take care
@CurveyGirl (20)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Counseling will only work if BOTH parties want to change. If he is still sneaking around, is he really showing you that he has changed? Actions speak louder than words. Keep going to counseling. But, while you're there, consider the discussion of why you are so willing to hang on to a man who is not willing to put in the effort for you. Remind yourself that you are worth having a man (your husband) fight for you. (Heck, you are willing to fight for him, right?) Listen, you have to do the work but, you can't be the only one working. If you have exhausted all of your efforts and there still does not seem to be any improvement, then and only then, throw in the towel. In the meantime, do NOT have any children! A child will not make him love you more nor will it save your marriage. You are very young so there is no rush. An ugly marriage and/or divorce is the worst thing for a child. Finally, a quote from my husband for those times when I don't know what to do...."Pray, pray, pray and when you are done....Pray some more!" Hang in there and keep the faith.
@ndaniel229 (419)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I would seek counseling and maybe even seek advice through your pastor, priest, deacon - I'm not sure who is the head of your church. However... if things continue, would it be worth being unhappy? Trust is the most important thing in a marriage and sometimes when broken, can not be repaired. Sometimes it's a mistake that only happens once because of whatever reason ... When I was dating, my first love and I were together 3 years. He cheated on me twice - after the first I forgave him... I should have ended it because he did again. But I was young and thought he was the one ... it's 8 years later and I married "the right one".
I'd try conseling def. they teach you ways on communication, trust building and how to argue affectively.
