Shoud I marry someone w/ Bipolar Disorder?

Bipolar Disorder is manageable with medication but if he slips or needs to have his meds adjusted, he will experience episodes of what you described. Even worse, your kids can inherit it. Yes, love can overcome this but the love has to be very strong. Looks like you are already having your doubts, which indicates the love you both experience is not as strong as it needs to be to survive in an environment like this. You are young, marriage is supposed to be for a lifetime... can you deal with this for such a long time? On top of everything else relationships usually have to endure? I think you will have a lot of soul searching to do before you make a decision on whether to go on with this relationship or to end it. You also have to think about what you want from life, how stable you want your life to be, ... lots of things to think about. And yes, it's time to be a bit selfish. If you think you can't do this, get out, don't feel sorry for him. I will pray that you will make the right decision for yourself.

I have been around a bipolar personalty a little not a lot. I can see where it would be hard to live with a person with this on a day to day basis. My husband works in the mental health field and knows several people with bipolar and when they get off their meds it can be hard to handle. If you are asking yourself these questions than you need to take a hard look at this and see if it is what you really want for the rest of your life. Please ask yourself if some of your feelings are out of guilt that you think he needs you to help him. So many of us make this mistake especially women. As time goes on and day to day life wears you down you will begin to resent him and it will show in how you handle your relationship. One thing for sure you at least already know of some of the problems you will be facing, Good luck and hope you will be very happy with whatever decision you make.

I think that question can only be answered by you only. You have to answer this question to yourself can you overcome this situation which your BF is suffering from? I can easily say that you can conquer it but its you who can feel, see what your situation is better than me.

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a hard time like that, the final answer is your tho, Can you see yourself living like that for the next 5 years? 10 years? 20? I wish you good luck.

hmmm, that seems very difficult, I could not to it myself, but you know him better than I do and you are probably more used to him since you have been together for so long. But if you make this decision keep in mind that there will be a lot of stress for the rest of your life from this unless you have it completely predictable, which is unlikely. If you are the slightest bit unsure about it then don't do it, you want to be completely comfortable with your decision. There are possibly many other people are you compatible with in this world, so if you are ready to settle for this one you have to forget about all the other possibilities... Happy mylotting and have a great night or day. Looks like we have similar taste for screen names.

5 years is an awful long time. i was involved with a girl who is bipolar and although i recognized her mood swings her entire disorder never really came in to play in our relationship. whenever anyone is considering marriage the bottom line in my opinion is unconditional love. do you love and want to be with this person more than anything else in this world. "for better or worse"? "in sickness and in health"? these are the questions you must ask and answer for yourself. it is my understanding that bipolar disorder can be controlled with medical supervision and medication. best of luck to you!

I don’t think being a bipolar should be an issue if you truly love the guy. Bipolar is manageable with proper medication. You’re the one who knows the guy and with the five years your together it can be a base for you to marry or not. Hope for the best for both of you whatever decision you came up with.

is he trying to get help and maintain stability by medication or therapy? im bipolar and well i know that being married to a bipolar isnt always fun its not perfect for non bipolar marriages either.. if he is trying to get help and do right and be stable but still has problems then you cant really hold it against him because he is trying.. if he isnt and is just like out of control and doesnt care even if it messes up your life and plans i wouldnt.. he needs to want to be the best he can be for you and your relationship and if he figured he can be out of control and you will just put up with it then its not worth it.. i have been on a ton of medications (i have other health problems that are treated also so they have had to change my meds a lot because of interactions) and i will tell you that some times you just cant help having problems.. i had to stop one medication because i had a reaction to it and was almost hospitalized for not sleeping for 2 months!! i was seeing my shrink and following all the meds and rules but it wasnt the right mix and so i wasnt acceptably normal.. at least i am trying and god knows some times they have to change your meds a lot and some meds will just throw you INSANE and into a rage etc that you wouldnt have had but the meds messed with you.. you just have to figure out if you could deal with this the rest of your life and if he is trying his best.. and if that is good enough for you

I'm sorry for your situation. Because he is bipolar, he may not be able to control his actions at times. I know that medication can help him a lot, but that is still no excuse for him not taking responsibility for his condition. At least he has sought help and I'm sure having you by his side made him feel better. However, it is up to you if you can live with the constant changes that affect bipolar individuals. I believe that if it was me and I saw him raking the necessary steps to try to control his behavior through medications and therapy, then I would stay, but if he is not taking meds or agreeing to therapy, I would feel like he is using bipolar as an excuse.