Do you prefer hearing sweet lies than hurtful truths?
By diannebcrs
@diannebcrs (1549)
Philippines
October 17, 2008 12:29am CST
Lies and white lies. I tell lies and white lies, and people instantaneously believe me. I tell them the truth, and they call me a despicable liar and then hate me. I don’t like it, but I suppose I deserve it, having lied to many people more times than I care to count. I mean no harm in telling lies or white lies, though. More often than not, I make people happy because of telling them what they only want to hear – and frequently, they want to hear lies and white lies. And more often than not as well, I refuse to hear truths, most especially if they hurt.
It’s turning out to be a irresistible habit, I reckon, considering how I can easily and deliberately look straight into people’s eyes and lie. I can even make myself believe the lies and white lies I tell to people if I want to. Sometimes, it’s better that way, believing what I want to believe and making people believe what I want to believe. It’s easy and uncomplicated… though disgraceful and decadent. But it’s like being in your own world, like you’re in control.
But I know deep inside the honesty is still and always will be the best policy… and that the truth will for all time set you free.
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19 responses
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Lying to prevent hurting someones feelings is doing far worse damage IMO. By being honest with them, you could be saving their lives or keeping them from a life ruining mistake. You never know.
I believe the problem is not in the honesty itself, but how its being delivered. Too many people are rude and insulting of others dignity when it comes to telling someone the truth and that's when offense is taken.
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
17 Oct 08
Any time you tell people something they want to hear they will accept it and like you, if you tell them the truth they will either argue or hate you.
Its a matter of convenience.
If the truth is not convenient then its out.
In Trinidad the politicians do that constantly and people support them.
The country is in a downward mess and they support all the liars and thieves either because they are getting something or because they like to hear crap.
Its the world we live in.
A place for convenience, not truth.
White lies are wrong to tell, by the way.
Better to say nothing.
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@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
I prefer hearing hurtful truths than sweet lies. Hurtful truths will just pass away while sweet lies will always be remembered. Sweet lies will hurt you not directly but one you know the truth, it will hurt you a lot. I made sweet lies many many times but in the end I am the one who suffered. As many people say, the truth will set you free. Good day!
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@joy4you (641)
• India
17 Oct 08
While the truth might be hurtful, by its very definition it means exactly the way things are, at least you can now do something about it or deal with it. By lying you are just cheating everyone, it is like if you have a sweet dream and don't want to be woken up, it might feel good but it doesn't solve anything but rather multiplies your problems.
Some lies might be alright, like not telling my parents when I am sick so they don't worry but one must know when to draw the line. This is especially important in relationships especially the life long ones, your lies get caught eventually and the betrayal or damage to the relationship is then forever destroyed no matter how much you apologize or wish it never happened. Sorry if I sound so glum. Hope it helps others or wakes them up from their sleep and face reality.
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@donn_juan (325)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
i would take the hurtful truths..truth always hurts. id rather be told the truth than be lied to. sweet as it may sound - the lies, but what good can you get from lies? ;o)
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Lies are lies... whether they are just small ones or white ones... but i prefer the truth... it might hurt... but it will indeed set me free from whatever it is tha is bothering me... i will get hurt... but that will eventually fade... since in the long run i will be happy that i heard and know the truth...
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Lies are lies... whether they are just small ones or white ones... but i prefer the truth... it might hurt... but it will indeed set me free from whatever it is tha is bothering me... i will get hurt... but that will eventually fade... since in the long run i will be happy that i heard and know the truth...
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
18 Oct 08
I prefer the truth, even if it hurts. I can always look back later and say...at least that person cared and respected me enough to be honest with me. I know it is hard to tell someone something that you know will hurt them. In those cases, it is important to think deeply before you speak....there is always a caring way to tell a hurtful truth. We all tell little white lies on occassion but it sounds as if you have gotten a bit carried away with it. I think you will feel better about yourself if you try harder to be more honest with others. From the sounds of it, you aren't a very good liar if they are all catching you in these little lies. Someday, you'll really need someone to believe you and they won't. It's never too late to change. Sounds as if you've taken the first step just by admitting that you lie all the time.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
I like having half-truths. :) If a lie is too sweet then I would be suspicious and I won't necessarily believe it. I will probably be driven to investigate the situation myself. Hurtful truths on the other hand are just plain hurtful. :( No body wants to get hurt. :(
@Chastised_Dreamz (559)
• United States
18 Oct 08
I would rather take the hurtful truths but I'd prefer if they weren't given to me in a mean way to make it hurt more than is necessary lol. I'd rather know the truth than to go on decieved about something. It would make me feel like an idiot for believing it. I would also prefer to hear the truth than lies because I'll be mad if I find out that that person was lying to me later on. I'd rather just get the truth about things up front.
@joyruthmae_1977 (9)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
well, white lies is still a lie... it's not really good to tell a lie. in the Bible stated that devil is the father of all lies. God never want us to tell lie. well, you cantell people everything you wanted to but God will never be happy for us if we re telling a lie. there's harm in telling lies specially when we lie and the one we are telling the lie know the truth..... it is a great shamed.
@Vincentchiu123 (11)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I would prefer hurtful truths because its hurtful yet true so theres no getting out of it.
@roque20 (518)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
i know i tell lies but base on my experience i prefer hurtful truths than sweet lies. for example in our friendship, i dont like my friend in terms of this(unspecified) but i dont want to hurt her so i tell sweet lies but then i just make her tolerate her behavior and i feel guilty when i see it or observe it.so now that its over i tell her frankly and she get mad at me i just show concern to her but she take it badly so i just dont mind it.
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
17 Oct 08
Truth is always painful. There's a proverb in Hindi language [Indian], that says that 'The Truth Is Always Better'. And it sure is. But the good thing about it is that you do not have to hide our lies from others and be ashamed of it. Once the truth is known, the people who understand it will know the importance of saying it and will be proud of it. Other than that you wont have to lie another thousand times to cover up the initial lie.
bourne
@stryker5 (52)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I prefer to be told the truth. The problem with the truth and lies is that it is all a matter of perspective. Our personalities, likes, dislikes and beliefs are, for the most part, built on past experiences. For instance, telling only part of a story, may be viewed by some as lieng. (Don't think I spelled that right.) While others would view it as being truthful. That is just one tiny example.
For me, I try to keep an open mind and try to look at the situation from every angle. (Doesn't always work though.) Lies are just a part of life. I prefer to know that whom ever I am talking to is someone I can count on to give me their honest opinion.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Id rather hear the truth no matter how painful it is than hearing sweet lies from someone. I would not be fully aware of it and i was not aware that i need to change or something about me that annoys other people. I wanted people to tell me with all honestly if i did something wrong or if there is something about me that needed to be improved. I think by doing that he/she will help me become a better person than just keep on lying and faking infront of me. It is ok to lie if a persons life is at risk or it could ruin once reputation. But if you keep on lying to the person your not helping the person be the best that he/she can be.
@SylverDeimos (58)
• Romania
17 Oct 08
i tend to shy away from society, therefore if it is a lie, or a truth it doesn't really matter to me, but i guess knowing the truth is better, you might be able to do something about it, if it's a lie then you're pointed in the wrong direction from the start.
