what can I do to help her???

October 17, 2008 8:11am CST
My friend is a girl who is 20 now,but she never go out with guys.And she longed for getting love.She always felt lonely and we introduce guys to her,but she even doesn't want to see them.She never make friends with other guys on her own.She has a standard for her boyfriend,which we now it can not work.How can I do to help her??
4 responses
Angel
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Hi there Shijiaxin! I think that maybe, she just haven't met the right one for her. Because even though how high the standards that we have, when you fall in love, you will fall in love no matter what. I guess that maybe you shoudln't be too obvious. Maybe just ask her to accompany you somewhere where there's a good possibility that she can meet new people like a friend's party or something.
shijiaxin13
@shijiaxin13 (66)
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17 Oct 08
Thanks for your reply.When we asked her out to make new friends or we want to arrange a meeting for her,she would ask how tall is the guy and what about her apperance.I thinl she cared too much about these things which also made herself twisted.
Angel
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
I see. I hope she'll meet the right person that she won't care about those shallow stuff anymore. Thanks for the BR.
sarazeng
@sarazeng (220)
• China
18 Oct 08
Hi shijiaxin13! Don't worry! Your friend is 20, actually still very young!! Maybe she just doesn't want to make friends by other's introduction. When she meet someone she have feeling, she will move on. LOL
shijiaxin13
@shijiaxin13 (66)
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18 Oct 08
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!
rocker21
@rocker21 (2716)
• India
17 Oct 08
if shes happy with her boyfriend then why the hell do you want some other guys to enter in her life?
shijiaxin13
@shijiaxin13 (66)
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17 Oct 08
She dosen't have a boy friend```
worldbestwriter2008
@worldbestwriter2008 (1633)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
well, age 20 is still..please don't rush..she has her own standard for guys qualifications. I myself also long for love i want to wish. maybe your friend is choosy for a boyfriend. she wont go out for a guys until she'll find out the qualifications she likes. but how will she knew, if she will not give it a chance for herself to be with that guy. I think she is also afraid. Let your friend see a guidance counselor, let it be somebody to take care of her feelings and emotions.
shijiaxin13
@shijiaxin13 (66)
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17 Oct 08
Thank you for your response.She desired for love but she couldn't get it.Things are always easy but she likes to make it complicated.She doesn't believe herself and lose condident on herself.She thought boys won;t love her which is ridiculous to me.