are you intimidated when you discuss things with someone more intelligent
By kens425
@kens425 (436)
Spain
October 17, 2008 8:50pm CST
recently my best friend who is a lawywer had a drink with me at my place, discussions opened when i took out a bottle of my favorite brandy from my collection soon he persuaded me to take out whiskey instead reasoning out that my favorite is only for cooking, i feel bad about it not being able to defend my taste especially when you argue with someone whose profession is to argue with different people. have you ever been in the same situation? share us your experience
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6 responses
@SketcherD (1114)
• Canada
18 Oct 08
If I have a favourite anything I would not let people change my mind. Even if someone has a higher IQ than I do perhaps I do not let that intimidate me.
My policy is and always has been: everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time so therefore they are no better than I am. They may just have some more knowledge on certain subjects than I do. That does not mean I do not know more than they do on other issues.
I would have politely said to your lawyer friend "I really enjoy this kind of brandy to drink and I don't believe it should only be for cooking. However if YOU would like to have a whiskey instead of the brandy I will pour one for you." Dipolmacy works.
@SketcherD (1114)
• Canada
18 Oct 08
Your welcome. My father and mother taught me well. My Dad is actual a mensa so therefore talking to someone more intelligent than myself happened daily until I got married. Of course then I had to marry someone who is very intelligent himself. But I still have my own topics that I know more than they do and can follow, at the very least, most conversations. At least I feel I can do so and that is all that matters.
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@20021114476 (691)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
Why would I be when I can absorb anything from him/her. In fact, I love to having them around(I like to exchange opinions, share knowledge, and suggest readings to each other). Surely, there are lot more exciting conversations with them(science, art, history, politics, culture, language and more.
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@20021114476 (691)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
I have lots of interests so I guess I can relate to them. If ever I dont know whatever they are talking about, I have to ask them(telling them that you dont know is ok) and if ever its one of my interest, that's great!
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@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
I would not be intimated when discussing with someone who is more intelligent than me. I would love to have discussions with such kind of persons. Through that person, I will be able to learn a lot of things.
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@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Well, if you want brandy, you have brandy! He can't tell you what you like. If you want to drink it, just laugh and tell him you'll drink it anyway. Myself, I guess I would say I can get intimidated sometimes by that, especially if I am talking about political things, because I don't read or understand everything, but I know what my opinions are and I think I should be able to keep them!
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@maureengrace (41)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
my bestfriend is more intelligent than i am...but when we talk, there are certain things that i'm more knowledgeable of...:) that's one thing you have to find out. if he's a lwayer, then you could be someone else he doesn't really know, right? try to discover it yourself ken...:) he doesnt know all the things under the sun...just because he is a lawyer..:)
@sev123 (45)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Yes, this has happened to me before. Usually I try to fake that I know what they are talking about or change the subject. Sometimes if it is someone I know well I simply ask them to teach me about the subject. If the person is just being cocky and showing off I simply ingor them!
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