Babies Having Babies

I am not sure what to think. I remember one of the first thought I had when I had my first period was "I could get pregnant now." It wasn't like I wanted to, I had serious paranoia until I was about 15-16, I really thought there were hundreds of men who wanted to rape me, so it was really an awareness that rape could have consequences outside of myself, I could end up with a child. I actually spent quite a bit of time thinking about the "what if" and how it would affect my family if I raised a child at 12 or 13. With that in mind, I don't think it is any surprise or anything unusual for a girl to think about the fact that, as her body has become a woman, she is capable of having a child. I find it disturbing that she would want a child so badly that she would try to get pregnant that young. There is nothing wrong with looking forward to being a wife and mother someday, in that order. But it seems to me that for a girl to try to have a child when she is not only unwed, but not old enough to establish her own home for her own family, she must have an extreme lack of love in her life, probably starting from her earliest years. Women/girls instinctively know that their future baby will love them unconditionally. If a girl grew up feeling totally unloved or rejected, that is perhaps the reason she would want a child. The need for love, when extreme, can completely block all logical thinking.

what they really need is love and not babies they are looking to be loved and someone to love them back if they have not had it in the home then they try to compisate for that in all the wrong places through boy friends and through babies i think that these really need counselling to find out what the deeper issues our and maybe the parents need some counselling on how to showw more love and compassion to there kids because there babies having babies and that will bring about more harm then good all they are really looking for is love and affection and attention and they need to find it elsewhere then in men or babies!!!!

I also get upset when I see young teenage girls pregnant or just had a child. I was like you, age 12 still playing with Barbies and not caring about boys or having kids. Plus my parents would have been royally angry! I am so glad that my daughters (20 &18) are not dating, not pregnant and still live at home with me. I am glad to see that they are not following this sad trend.

Maury is not "real", its more like a freak show. The teenagers that are purposely trying to get pregnant are screaming for attention. They say they want a baby and everyone flips out on them. It is all about attention.

whoa!!it happens to our family, when my 14 year old cousin got pregnant, it was a big shock to our family,becuase my GOD she too young to bear a child and even us her older cousins had not yet have our own kids, but it was too late it was their already, and we just accept it, anyways whatever they may say it was indeed a blessing to the family,

Is nothing,humenrights should be respected ,maybe is so unagreement,but evey body have their own way,is'n it?

Oh I think it is sad, I think maybe to them having a baby is like having a living doll but it is when the babies get older and these kids themselves have kids of their own and they miss out on a lot ot what should be the best times of their lives, going out and have innocent fun and learning about life and boyfriends until they meet the one that they want to settle down with, I just think it is all just so sad...

I so agree with you.. I think that this is sad an these young girls are looking for someone to love them because they dont get it at home. Its attention. Thats all they want. I think its there parents fault. Its all on how you raise your kids. And how they are raised make who they wanna be. I remember being 13 and i never wanted kids. I always was the one loving the babies weanting to babysit and all that but never wanted my own. Having kids takes away from you. No more new sneakers,clothes , purses all that its about the baby. Diapers , formula. Kids take a lot out of you and I would kill if my little sister had a baby. Shes in ninth grade. Shes not ready to have a baby.. Its crazy but I think if parents took time out an gave there kids a lil extra attention kids wouldnt be this way.

I think that if a child wants a child that young, that they are lacking something in their own relationship with their Mother. So they think that if they have a child they would do things differently and want to have a child right away to incorporate these ideas right away! They want to treat the child as they want to be treated.

I would feel sorry for those who've been in this situation. You're very right, I also cannot imagine a 12 or 13 year old pregnant girls. I am clueless of what kind of motherhood are they going to have with their own children while they are also needing it. If I were to be a parent, I'll try my best to avoid my children from being a tween. Being a parent entails a lot of responsibilities. I have peers who've been parents before their legal ages and from that point I observed they went difficult at those times and their lives went changed dramatically. Observing it, I promised myself not to be a parent until I am ready to be one.

I think the teenagers or even pre-teens who want to get children at their ages are pretty stupid and ignorant. They think they're going to have load of excitement to have babies at their ages and whatnot, well the first thing's first: they will need to be involved in the society more, and mature a little more until they can actually handle the babies without too much trouble. So they think they can support themselves without their parents, they want to stay way way away from their parents because they think their parents are too tyrant? lmfao... I don't think they are growing up too fast, it's just that I think that they are pretending to grow up too fast, and think that acting like full-grown adult is so cool to them, even they start doing some activities that adults would do, like drinking and smoking. See how stupid that is? Yeah, playing with one of those little barbie dolls at their age is actually, pleasing to both them and the parents, because it shows their child is actually having fun. Good luck to them if some pre-teens or teenagers are pregnant or actually have babies -_-;;

I think even if your 17 or 18 it's wrong to have a baby, way to early. But when you mentioned 12 year olds and 13 year olds, omg I can't even believe they would think about trying to get pregnant and try to, at the age of 12, 13! Now that's just wrong, these kids need to learn more. Like seriously, what's a 12 year old, still going in year 6 going to do with a baby?

I am not sure about your country but in my country the government have this crazy money system where they pay you(as a lady) when you have a baby and you get all this little kids having babies at young age just get that small amount of money from the government and you'll find a young girl trying to (gather) as many kids as she can,so that she will receive little bit more (free)money, but worse about it is that the government stop the money when the child is 8 years old and after that you are on your own You get this young girls going around with their little kids,mommy,mommy,mommy.this thing make me mad

i think it's crazy that they try to be sooo grown and do not know the outcome after they have ther baby. majority become single mothers after the baby is born and struggle in life. and it also puts a burden on the grandparents of the child because their the ones who usually raise them.

I think it is very wrong as their bodies are still growing. It is hard enough when a woman is fully grown to carry a child to term and give birth these children could cause themselves harm by having a child too young. Not to mention that they are not old enough to know how to care for it properly or do they hope their mother will do this for them. I cannot imagine what their parents are doing letting them do this. Have they taken them to counseling to show them the problems involved? A child is not a doll it is for life. What are they teaching them at school these days?

Kids mature much faster than when we were young, but having babies is a big responsibility a child of 12 and 13 would not be able to handle on their own. How are they going to finance themselves, what more a baby? I don't think these kids realise the actual consequences of their actions. This must not be encouraged at all costs. What's the world coming to?

of course i get mad,i think teenagers must do wath teenagers do,,,like study or do something important that it's positive