Does it make you feel sad when someone cries in your presence?

United States
October 18, 2008 1:23am CST
Sometimes, when a friend or loved one cries in my presence, I will start crying, too. And, I don't know why. Maybe it's just a way of empathizing with the other person's pain. Do you ever feel sad or start crying when someone else starts to cry? Do you feel uncomfortable when someone cries in your presence?
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Yes, I feel sad... I really don't cry, but tears do form into my eyes.. And my heart feels very heavy.. Inside my chest, I feel like crying.. It is like the tears want to come, but I am heavily saddened..
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• United States
18 Oct 08
Yeah, I get that way too when I see other people sad.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
I feel bad when someone cries in front of me. Cause I don't wanna see anyone who feels sad. I can listen and advice or help in my own small way. I rather give my strength then being weak also. Life is so hard now a days I see alot of people everyday it also affects me, but I can't help when they see me weak. My gf absorbs problems everyday, by listening to them, and helping people to uplift them, and she tells me I have a head ache afterwards, I just smile and make her smile too. Have a nice day!
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• United States
18 Oct 08
That's a very sweet thing to do!
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
18 Oct 08
I dry also. I don't care if I know them or not. I am not uncomfortable, but am glad that they have told me and maybe took some off their own shoulders.
• United States
19 Oct 08
It's nice to have friends to share with.
• Canada
6 Dec 09
When I see someone cry, I am usually pretty tuned into why they are crying. If they are crying over something that makes me sad, then I will cry with them. If they are crying out of their own frustration or upset, I'll sympathize, but I won't be brought down by their crying. Sometimes i'll feel like I need to be the strong one, and will take up that role, othertimes, I'll cry with them if it's something that affects me equally.
@jbb316 (1779)
• United States
18 Oct 08
I feel very uncomfortable when someone cries in my presence. I guess it is because I feel like I don't know what to do. I want to help them but then again I want to give them their space. I want to ask them what is wrong but then again, I don't want to pry. There must be something wrong with me because I am like that. But when it comes to my children I am completely different. Its like I go into "Mommy Mode" and I immediately know what to do. I have 2 small boys. Jacob the oldest is 4 and Caleb the youngest is 13 months. And when one of them is crying I will go over and put my arm around them and say what is wrong baby. Tell mommy why you are crying and that always works with them and it makes them better. especially when I give them a big hug and kiss afterward. I don't know why I know exactly what to do with my kids yet when a grown up is crying I freeze. They can't be that much different.
• United States
18 Oct 08
I am the same way with my daughter. I always know what to say to make her feel better when she is crying. And when she's crying she always comes to me for a hug. I think all Mommy's are the same with their own kids. It's just built in.
• United States
18 Oct 08
I think there is something inside of us that trys to emulate what others are feeling to help us understand better, thus when we see someone else crying we want to because of that thing... I know there is a scientific term for it but cannot think of it, sorry :(
• United States
19 Oct 08
Empathy? I think that's it. Maybe it's a prehistoric thing that dates back to when people lived in clans. Sort of synced the group.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
18 Oct 08
I have done this a few times in the past myself. Felt so bad for someone like a friend of mine or a family member that it made me cry also.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Yes, I feel uncomfortable when someone cries in my presence. I remember crying for absolutely no reason at all when I saw my mom crying. I must have been about 6 years old. It wasn't the first time I did this, but it was the last time. I felt silly for crying just because my mom was. I didn't even know why she was crying. From then on I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't cry just because someone else was. And before I had kids I was pretty much able to keep it. I can't say the same for nowadays though...
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I am a very emotioinal person. I cry when things are sad or when they are happy. Yes, if a friend starts to cry in front of me, I feel so bad that I usually start to cry too. Just Thursday this happened at my sons football game. One of the moms and I were talking about stuff and she got upset and started to cry. I tried to comfort her and I started to cry too....what a bunch of silly moms we looked like!
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
It really depend on the level of our friendship if he or she is a really good friend or a very close friend perhaps I can easily symphatized that sometimes made me also cry. It also depend on the reason why she or he is crying if she or he cries over nothing or to a very nonsense situation, I don't cry.
@eliezl (610)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
yeah it does. i do believe that the moods of a person and those surrounding you is contagious. thats why people always say surround yourself with positive energy. anyway, aside from that contagious thingy, i do emphatize the feelings of the person. i am a sensitive person you see, so its really easy for me to cry when somebody cries. i could just envision myself in his or her situation thats why i easily get affected as well. many people, friends included told me that its not healthy so as a way i do try to smile a lot and surround myself with positive people. :)
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
19 Oct 08
I never feel uncomfortable when someone cries in my presence but I do feel for them and I will cry as well. I tend to turn all protector and try to comfort and reassure them. I think it is an empathy response and is quite natural.
• United States
18 Oct 08
It happens to me a lot actually. More so when it's someone close to me. I hate when people around me are depressed because in some weird way I can feel it with only one step into the room. I empathize a lot with the people around me and their problems. Maybe I'm in tune because of my writing? Who knows. But the ability to tune into people's emotions is pretty common so it makes sense that if someone around you is crying it makes you want to cry as well.
@jelai24 (221)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
yeah always,when there is someone to cry in my presence i cry also huhu...i don't what happen to me maybe i feel to give myself sympathy to her...i don't know why really...
• Malaysia
18 Oct 08
Sometimes it also happen to me. I was not in the emotion to cry but I cry after seeing my friend cry. I can say I am not a person that cry easily because of anything that happen. But I can't stop myself from crying after seeing other people cry. My tears will star dropping without feeling sad. My tears will drop even I am not feeling sad if saw my friends cry.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
18 Oct 08
If someone is crying in my presence, I will start to cry to it is very heartbreaking to see anyone crying and sad.
• United States
18 Oct 08
I don't feel uncomfortable if someone cries in front of me but I will cry with them--every time. I am a softy and I hate it when people I know are upset. I cry with them but reasure them that things will be okay. Eventually I can get them to laugh and then we are both laughing and crying at the same time. I get teary eyed when watching TV shows or movies too and I can't look at anyone when I do this because I would start to cry.
18 Oct 08
Ya if someone cries infront then obviously the facing person will be sad bucause its the nature of human but there are few who dont feeel so.they are such a type that thay never care about any one and just keep doing whatever they wanted ..but i can hold i feel very sad when someone cries infront of me .....
• United States
18 Oct 08
I would feel sorry for them but I don't neccessarily have to cry with them. People cry for everything. It's good to cry and let it go so that you won't hold it in and get sick over it. Crying could be a good thing sometimes.You should cry and let everything go.
• Poland
18 Oct 08
yes it makes me sad. especially since I myself am a big chunk of a Pole and I cry a lot especially while viewing tragic scenes in moovies, this is why my wife if planning on takin me to a shrink.