Would you rate your respondent in mylot negative if they disagree with you?
By mayrah
@mayrah (1144)
United States
October 18, 2008 2:25am CST
I have some experiences here in myLot where I posted discussions and had received some responses who disagree with what I have stated. But I'm not upset with that, in fact I I tried figuring out their opinions or views and found out even though they disagree with my point, they also have a good point. I believe that's why it's called a discussion every one is free to voice-out his/her own views as long as they didn't post responses contain abusive word. I also enjoy reading their responses no matter if they agree or disagree co'z I'm open to ideas and I know I could learn a lot from hearing different ideas/views. How about you? how do you react with respondents who disagree with you? and why?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Oct 08
We are posting discussions here to know about the different kind of opinions from mylotters. We can't expect all the time a favourable reply. In fact I felt happy when getting an opposite reply because I can gather the other side of the fact. It is really a nice experience and we are able to learn many things from each one's opinion. So I am rating always positively and on that way I am showing my gratitude to the respondents. I would like to help all the people here.
@mayrah (1144)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Just like you Sreekala, I always rate my respondents positive, and it's a good experience to learn from their ideas. Actually I believe nobody's wrong here as long as they could politely speak their ideas. Because maybe we just have different way of comprehension, some may view it in a literal way, while others go deeper in comprehending things around them.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Oct 08
Hi Mayrah, I appreciate your thinking. You are right most of the populations in mylot are polite and some are more proficient in language or some are able to express their opinion in a realistic manner. Some are try to brief their opinions and some are trying to descriptive. I respect all and all are doing wonderful job. Let us do it as according to our ability.
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@marcialoyd (1173)
• United States
18 Oct 08
It comes back to the old saying "we agree to disagree" Everyone has the right to their own opinion. How boring would this world be if everyone thought the exact same way! The only way I would rate someone badly is if they were hateful or mean in their response.
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@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
20 Oct 08
I take everything and learn from it. Like you said being in a discussion is all about reading other peoples ideas and thoughts even though it totally disagrees with your own. That is what sharing is all about. Other wise I would have to say those who don't get it are in the wrong site in the first place. And yes even if the response was totally contrary to mine I would probably rate it if it is really good. cheers!!!
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@chiaeugene (2225)
• China
18 Oct 08
it would defeat the purpose of having a discussion in the 1st place if u cannot accept the opinions of others and should not be allow here to participate. while each is entitled to their own ideas and opinions, it is wrong to critisied or rate others negatively if they do not agree with you. it is also sad that some users are immature and not able to accept others. in this forum, we come from different cultures, have diff values, shared diff religions etc so obviously we are all different and think differently. therefore it is important to learn and appreciate others and not critised others. i dislike it when people start making claims like, this religion is not right, we are the best race of people in the world etc. it kind of show how narrow minded they are without seeing the rest of the world.
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@mayrah (1144)
• United States
18 Oct 08
hello chiaeugene, I agree with you, that's the purpose of discussion to share differences so as we may be informed of others experiences and principles. I also hate those people who argue and insist they are superior or better when it comes to religion and they do not accept others opinion.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I would not unless they are very nasty about something. They would have to really be rude and nasty. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. That is what it is all about.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
18 Oct 08
No! I would never rate him/her negative if one's thoughts are not matching mine or if some one disagree with me! It is very natural that every body does have one'sown identity and accordingly the feelings and ideas are will differ ! Just the way I have put my ideas about a particular subject he/she may also put his/her own ! Just the way if I think that he/she is wrong, the particular person in participation too can think in the same manner! I think life is a coin and it does have two sides heads and tails. So it is the side at which you are looking at that particular time as can can never look at the both sides simultaneously. Thus it is perception about a matter one time after considering pros and cons of a particular subject to come to one conclusion and that is your perception about the subject and since you have given a lot of thought before arriving to any conclusion, it holds true for you under the given time and circumstances, which may not be true with another person! Thus in nut shell in this todays free World every one does have the right of speech or freedom of speech and it gives him right to express his/her feelings.These feelings may not be agreeable to others , but that doesn't mean that because of this he should be banned from the society! Similarly here also in Mylot we should never rate negative to the person who is disagreeing to our thoughts! Thanks! Good Discussion!
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I am ok with people who disagree with me, not all of us have to think the same way, there are things that happens in our lives to make us the way we are and we all know different things, that make us think in a different way.
So I respect others people thoughts and opinions.
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@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 08
For me, I think every people will have their different view in a matter, different opinion, different comment, there won't be a right or wrong answer.... it is just depend on whether you can accept it or not.... for me, I will just accept it and try to think from their view also... because sometimes we got stuck just because the view site we are standing is not what we expect....
I never rate anyone negative here.... I think it is just their comment so if i rate, normally i will rate positive...
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@AltheGreat2430 (2716)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
Hey there! i already now that from the moment I post something there are some people that would disagree with me. But, I never rate someone negatively just because they disagree with my opinion. I find some of their responses or comment constructive and reasonable, and that helps me to further improve my self. Some times rate a person negative if I find his/her response offensive. I won't just rate it, I'll report it.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
18 Oct 08
I think that is ridiculous for people to do things like that altogether.
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@sweetbabyjane (1929)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I would not rate a response negative if all they did was just disagree with me. If there were abusive words in the comment I would rate it negative or report it.
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@Lazers (152)
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18 Oct 08
No! I wouldn't rate negative just because they disagreed with me. If they disagree with me, and have a point, i will probably rate them positive.
Just because someone doesn't agree with what you think, doesn't mean their contribution is any less worthwhile than someone who agrees completely with you!
I think that people who only mark people positive who think like them, are very closed minded, and not open to a discussion that may waver from what they want to hear!
So, in all, I would mark any worthwhile contribution positive.
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@Leixa003 (867)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
I agree with you. It is right to go against the opinion of others if you really feel that you have a point. I do like those who voice out their opinion even if they agree with the topic starter than those who blindly agree with you just to have a positive rating. At least those who responds even negatively understands what the topic starter is saying.
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@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
23 Oct 08
The same goes with me. I will not give a negative rating just because a person doesn't agree with my opinion. This is what we call discussion, yes what you say is correct. Anyhow, there are some members in this community who go way beyond discussing a point. It is starting to get some of us annoyed and I understand why some people will rate a negative on someone. This is because the same person is not respecting other members every time she or he gives a comment. It is like getting into the nerves of the person. However in my case I will try not to get offended because I understand everything that is done must have a reason behind it. So I usually think first before doing anything.
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@gtdonna (1738)
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22 Oct 08
For me I look at it in this way, if everyone in this wide world shoudl agree with each other, the world would probably be a boring place with nothing to discuss since everyone has the same opinion and nothing new to add.
When others disagree with me, I respect their views and still show appreciation for them allowing me to see the discussion from another perspective other than my own.
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@ruby222 (4847)
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18 Oct 08
No certainly not,the whole concept of Mylot is to some extent be able to voice your own personal opinions,and if you are unable to do that then the beauty of the forum Will be removed.In any forum you should never be afraid to state your mind,to put down on paper what you are truly thinking.If someone has a difference of opinion then the whole discussion becomes much more interesting,it starts a semi debate,and then you start to see the conversation from all angles.As for voting a conversation negative if it fails to side with yours ,that is a childish thing to do,and no one should ever do that,it is taking things to the extreme.
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
20 Oct 08
Only if they're ignorant and don't argue their point properly.
Like, just saying, "I disagree, this is dumb, blah blah blah."
Sorry if you don't understand my discussion, so uh, get the heck off this page, to at least educate yourself on the topic. OH! and most likely, that same person rates ME negative for "Not making sense". I hate people like that.
@chaska (170)
• United States
21 Oct 08
I do not get angry if someone disagrees with me. I ask since I want to know a second opionon. sometimes a different point of view is good. sometimes otheres can give a different perspective and way of thinking in different situations.I try not to criticize others and truly objectively listen to the advice given to me in every situation.
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