What is your opinion about Loneliness?

Man is a social being by nature and likes to be in the company of other beings,either friends,relatives or even strangers ,all the time.So its natural that people crave for company of other people in all their activities. But there are times when people tend to find happiness in their own company.Spending some time alone is a welcome option for us,to cater to our needs and thoughts and our interests. But there are many people who are all alone ,with not many friends or relatives,in different parts of the world.And mylot has helped me to reach out to few such people in different parts of the world,and to share a few happy moments with them....

I think as long as people communicate with one another or say each other, they should not feel lonely. I believe, no one should feel lonely, everyone has got some friends and near and dear ones and he can share his feelings, joys and sorrows and other happenings with friends etc. If I find that someone known to me is sitting idle and looking depressed and upset, I definitely ask about his problem and give him an opportunity to share it with me. May be, by venting out his grievance, he feels better. It is also possible that I may not be able to give him any concrete solution to his problem, but I feel if he discusses the same with me, he gets a different prespective to his problem. When I feel upset, I share my feeling with my friends and this makes me feel lighter. dpk P.S. - Heartiest Contratulations to you on touching 200 mark.

I'm a loner myself in my directions, although I have never been alone. I think loneliness can be disappointing at times and becomes monotonous after sometime, but it never leaves you with a hurt feeling as when you broke up with your GF/BF or parted your ways with a close friend. Loneliness has both merits and demerits, it is a matter of preference as to one will like living with it or not, in the long run. I, personally, like it relatively more.

yes we all have times when even we are around the people we know and yet we still have that lonely feeling its funny how these things happen but like you said we all have that feeling and its natural,what i do in such situation is just play some nice songs or i just call people i have not talked to in a long time and we catch up on some old and new stuffs and after that am cool

I have always been a loner. Two words i can not comprehend are "lonely" and "bored".

Sometimes it is just hard to find people to talk to, even on the intrenet. I have been lonely in the past often, and still at times. It is mainly due to the fact that my partner works a lot more now. For several years, we were together non-stop. Now that he works 50-70 hours a week, and only about 15-20 of those hours I work with him, I find myself in an empty house, hard to motivate to do anything, and sometimes just craving interaction. I have gotten into contact with old friends and associates, but for the most part, people are too busy to entertain the lonely. Loneliness and depression are often seen as interchangable to most people. I have noticed that on my less-that-perfect days, people are avoidant, as many are just trying to get through the day with peace of mind themselves. There are very few that I know that are lonely. The ones that I do know that are having that experience I reach out to, but some of them are unable to be contacted rather than in person, so it makes it difficult. I think some people have the impression that when someone is down, the best thing is to let them be and come out of it themselves. Not too sure if those same people realize that being alone is what is assisting in them not being as happy as thought they should be.

I'm so sorry for coming in so late.Yes I agree with you. After joining mylot, I never felt loneliness and bored. In fact, now I feel that I've too little time to be online on mylot.

I think you are right. It is part of the human condition. Everyone gets lonely. Unfortunately, some people stay lonely, either because of isolation, divorce, illness, or whatever. I think there is a lot more lonliness than we realize out there. I have taken time in the past to try to be friends with someone lonely.

Hi Sree nice discussion, loneliness is with in the person u can be lonely in Huge gathering. and u can be happy and feeling good while u r in Forest. And u can be absent minded while talking to some one, so i would say its state of mind, rather than some physical thing Take care

My opinion is that is sad that people feel lonely when there are a lot of people in this world. I wish these people would take the time to take a hobby (even if it is bingo) and go and see that there are other people who also feel lonely like them.

feeling of loneliness is psychological. people who felt like this is people who are sad, people who have problems and worries. they think that no one is around them but they never think of someone who loves him or her, he's/she's just thinking of himself/herself alone.

loneliness is the only thing, which gives calm and relaxation to mind from my point of view. what do you say

hi friends aaah i like the loneliness , cos i have spend my much time in loneliness. thanks for remembering me my good days. Prince Sad

I went through a bought of light depression because of lonliness not to long about (about a 6 weeks ago it ended) it lasted 5 days but was like years and years was leading up to it... the last straw was a person whom was a good friend to me but I never saw anymore because she had left the church i go to... had come back for one evening but I was scheduled for nursery duty so I was psyched because I would see her right after... but she left way early... I cried so hard.. she was my friend...someone I could depend on...and she left... the one time I had seen her in months and she left... and that wasnt the first time she did something like that to me either... but then I started looking around and I realized i didnt have any relationship with any member of my extended family that went beyond aquantince, and I even have cousins I didnt know exsisted, my friends CANT be near me because of their parents. and my brother rather play his games than play with me...and mom needed to work even though she tried to be there for me.... I was alone. all alone save for God... 5 days later feeling like this...lashing out everywhere, pretty much going insane... something happened that had never happened before... that thursday My friend Stacy showed up on my doorstep and asked to go for a walk with me... which I dont think I've told anyone that I just want people to spend some time with me, to take a walk with me. and she did... I didn't even realize how badly I needed her that day till days later, immediately the world started spinning for me again, and I became a little less stressed... 2 weeks later I quit our youth group and joing the adult wednesday class and am pretty much back to my happy self... One of Gods mercies upon me is He very rarely makes me go through something all the way, he lets me taste it. and teaches me what its like... likely so that I can help others... but now that I know what its like... I just need to know HOW I can help others...

Hi Sreekala, if our daily life is fulfilling with favorite activities, with understanding friends as well as our loved ones, surely we won’t feel lonely. We know very well that not everyone could accompany us all the time, for everyone has his own personal affairs to busy with. So we have to spend our free time with the interesting hobbies like posting at mylot, watching tv and etc. Sometimes I like staying alone doing my liking, but this is not so-called lonely. I enjoy to be alone and having fantasy thinking freely occasionally. I did feel lonely once when I was far away from home. Yeah, I was posted to a small town few years back. Everything there was so strange to me. No friends, no tv, no pc in the unfamiliar hostel, but only the four blank walls in it the first day. I had the lonely feeling for a short while in the dusk. Yeah, the flying back home birds recalled the happy moment when I was with my loved ones and friends in my hometown. Happy posting and take care.

Dear friend, I hope it depends how comfortable one is with the loneliness that person is in. If it is well and good for that person I hope loneliness is not a problem but there are also people who dislike loneliness. Hence they have to find a remedy to eliminate their loneliness. But there are two sides for loneliness the better and bad sides and also these two can also give the two sides to one character too like a good character and a bad character.

Sometimes loneliness applies to people who refused to be happy. Unfortunately, many of them exist. They are those people who have people around them who needs them but these lonely people just didn't know it...maybe they need to be informed or be reminded?...

I'm a loner ever since. I don't go out with friends, I don't eat lunch with co workers, I don't shop with girlfriend/s, I don't sleep with somebody on my bed, I live alone. But I'm not lonely. Well, there really are sometimes that you wanted be with friends or somebody but during those times -- I just wanted to be with my family. I live away from them since high school 'cause I have to go to school away from home. Anyway, I'm good being alone. I guess I'd be lonely if I'm around with people. hehehe..

I think we all feel this way sometimes.Loneliness is an emotion we feel being alone.I felt like this before.It was really a bad feeling.I felt like no one was with me.Sometimes i would think of ending up my life but i am glad i had an angel with me which is my daughter.Sometimes problems makes us feel lonely specially no one is helping us.I hate to be alone.

Here's another latecomer. Isn't it nice in myLot when someone picks up an old thread and rejuvenates it? I quite like being on my own most of the time. AS you say, you are not really lone with virtual friends. The only times I feel lonely are when I want to do something that's better for sharing, like going to the theatre, and there is noone like-minded enough to go with me.