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why are some mothers so uncaring? well i guess my mother isnt really uncaring, shes just not willing to help if she has things her way. so this is the situation: im getting married in a few months, and im renting a few chairs and a round table that im going to use for a candy bar. a while ago i sold my parents my blazer for a VERY low price{2000.00) and i got myself a little intrepid. well that was a few months ago and they still havent paid me all of teh vehicle which i dont mi ndm but anyway, the point is, in my car i can probably fit all the chairs that im renting, its only about 40 and they fold, but theres no way that ill be able to fit the table. my parents have a trailer they can hitch on their suburban, but before i even mentioned that my mother made sure to advise me that her and my dad would NOT be hitching up the trailer just for my wedding (like its nothing), so not to even ask her. well i asked her if maybe the table would fit in the suburban and she asked hwo wide it was, i told her it was about 6 feet and she started going nuts, saying that it would never fit. i said ok, whatever thats fine. so i reviewed the contract to the rental place and it turns out that the table is actually only 4 feet wide (yay me, so i thought) so i called her up to let her know that the table was smaller than i thought and according to what sh etold me, it should be able to fit in the truck. oh my, she went mad..at this point i realized that it wasnt so much that the table didnt fit in the truck, just that she was looking for an excuse not to help me. oh and the reason she doesnt want to help me is because she wants to stop me from settig up the wedding in the reception area. the situation is that my fiance and i arent getting married by church, and theres so place thats we can get married in so what im gonna do is rent nice chairs and set them up in the middle of the dance hall, along with the arch and so on, were gonna get married there which shouldnt take long, after that the groomsmen are going to move the arch to the back of the reception storage are and the chairs back to the tables while all the guests are eating. i mean, i know its not the smoothest thing and it might look a little tacky, but him and i are planning the wedding out of our own pockets with very little help and were gonna do the best we can. but the whole point is that she thought i was going to force her to move chairs and other stuff like that which is stupid because she knows im not going to, so she wanted to make sure that i didnt get the chairs to the dance hall in general. isnt that just messed up? i mean im not expecting her to help moneywise, im barely getting any help from her when it comes to the centerpieces, invitations and my bridesmaids bouquets im making myself, so why would she assume that it ask her to move chairs? i mean moving chairs isnt that big a deal, i would even move them if i wanst going to be in a big poofy dress, but i know how big of a drama queen she can be. any idea that isnt traditional, she is totally against. there has already been alot that i have changed because of her, from the wedding venue, which she said was too big because it held 500 people( and our guest list is now at about 350 and getting bigger...) so this is something that im definetley not going to get rid of. i alreadt regret not getting the first venue, but still im happy with the one i got and ive got no one to blame but myself about that because i let her get to me. unfortunately, i depend on my mothers opinon alot, but she doent seem to realize that or care. i remember when i was looking for my dress, i kept asking my mom for her opinons on dresses and she started getting annoyed by it, and i think the seamstress could see it and she told me " you know, id wish my daughters would ask me for my opinon on things, but they dont care."so i dont know whats up with my mother and why shes behaving like this, another thing that bothers me is that people have offered to be padrinos (friends of family members that offer a small contribution to the wedding) and shes refusing to even talk to them about it because she wants to save face. she just keeps saying "your father and i spent over 5000 on your quincenera out of our own pocket so we wouldnt ask people for money, so dint expect me to to be asking anyone for your wedding." and also theres teh whole "you know i dont get along with many people" thing also. shes alienated most of her friends.the annoying thisng is that were not begging for moenty these people offered to help, but im noty gonna call them because theyre her friends not mine! i dont know shes just trying to make it difficult for me i guess.