Are parents always right?
By gracemanotoc
@gracemanotoc (641)
Japan
October 19, 2008 11:08pm CST
I feel that sometimes my parents are too controlling even if I'm already in the age of maturity. They have a lot of warnings and reminders that makes me feel they don't trust that I can manage my life pretty well and that I can do things on my own. I feel sometimes if i'm alone I question myself if I'm doing the right thing. Do you think parents should be like this? are they always right?
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37 responses
@workathomewife (75)
• Germany
20 Oct 08
No. Parents are not always right. They do however, have your best interest at heart. Try to listen to them and still be their little girl. No sense in growing up too fast. Your parents just want the best for you. If you feel this way though, then have a talk with them. That would show maturity.
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@kezza246 (82)
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20 Oct 08
I think that parents only ever want best for you, like say 'you can't stay out past 10' is saying that it will get dark and it is dangerous at night. But i also think that part of growing up is learning to make your own decicions in life. So i gess it is up to you to decide if what your parents are saying is sensible. :)
@abdulwahab468 (384)
• Pakistan
21 Oct 08
no. nobody can we right always. we can use our own mind also to judge certain things.
but...
good judgement comes from experience ,
experience is weak at tender age ,
so parents want their kids not to learn from poor judgement.
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Hi Grace
we all know that there is not anyone who is always right but the thing about parents is they are trying to protect you most parents are trying to lead you down the correct path in life instead of taking the ones they did when I was a teenager I would have never said what I just did but I now have 2 kids of my own and I want the best for them I want them to do better in life than I did to succed
In my opioion when you question your judgement that means you have a good head on your shoulders you are smart enough to think first even if your parnets words are running through your head I would say if youare thinking about someting your parents said then you are doing something they know is wrong
Just trust your parents they know what is best for now
@sweety23ash (74)
• Canada
21 Oct 08
im sure that even when your 30 or 40 even 50 your parents will always be controlling..its just in the nature of parents to be that way.. doesnt mean they are always right but just looking into your best interest.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
Nobody is always right. We all make mistakes. Parents are just protective. It's normal for them. You should be thankful that they are concerned about you. Be alarmed if they won't care about anything you do. We must try to understand them and what they advise us to do. Of course, they can make mistakes but you can always talk things over.
@bdsurf (703)
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20 Oct 08
Might be yes, might be no! Sometime my parents forced me to do works as their own decision, which I don't like. But in maximum cases I found that their decision is correct which were totally uncorrect seemed to me at first. But sometimes they made some wrong decision. This is because maximum parents are always worried for their son/daughter and they always thing their child are still small. But, if you can manage this problem carefully, in many cases same problem will never repeat.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
20 Oct 08
I know how you feel, Grace. At times it can feel like they're being a little too cautious, or something. But I think a lot of the warnings that our parents are giving us are simply reminders, even though we don't always need them. After all, as some have mentioned, our parents are older and have more experience than we do. They have had more opportunities to experience life.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Being a parent myself, I can honestly say that parents are not always right. With that said, know that parents do what they honestly feel that is the best for their children, the best way they can. When I was younger, I felt that my parents were too strict with me, and too harsh at times. Now, as an adult, I can look back and appreciate all that my parents have done for me, and realize why they did the things they did.
@gaisri (154)
• India
20 Oct 08
May be, you yourself can best answer this question if you become a parent yourself!!!. May be, they can fear that their past experience in life may be repeated to their dear and loved ones..Do not take every comment they make seriously..try an honest self analysis and see whether there is any truth in ..if yes, try to avoid it for your good, and if no, just ignore..cool
@reddbone (48)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Well actually yes they are always right your parents are always there when you need them but a total stranger is someone you should never trust because at first they are there and then if something happens let's say you go to jail that stranger won't be there but your parents will.
@23uday (2997)
• India
20 Oct 08
My parents control whenever i misbehave they will scold me not do wrong things always do the right things.The parents will advice the right things to do.some times i can manage my life they will encorages me?
@ssj3goku (113)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Parents do care about you, but they are not always right. Keep in mind that they were raised in a different time and environment. Case and point, I have a girlfriend that is of a different race. My parents strongly believe that you should always stay in your own race. I don't think this is right. I try to keep in mind that they always have what's best for you in their hearts. I suggest remembering that.
@basicblack001 (43)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
I cannot say with conviction that parents are "always" right, but there are times that "we" are so focused on our goal/want, we resemble a horse with covers on the sides of its eyes, we do not see the sides of the road. Parents are not there to "dictate or to rule over us", but to guide us along the way.... and we have to be thankful -- even how irksome -- if sometimes our parents are "on our case". It is not that they do not trust us... they do not trust the people around us.
We have to remember that what we are experiencing and had experienced had already been experienced by our parents, so in "a sense" they know what may and will happen "if" we do not take into consideration their advice.
@maribeth_log (34)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
i feel the same way before..but i always take my stand and tell them straight that a certain command or decision they make for me isnt right anymore.
sometimes it is wrong, sometimes looks wrong but its actually right for you
when i lost my mom years ago thought that i should have listen to every word she told me.. right or wrong i may think, i should have obeyed her still
i know i will make her happy for that somehow
as i think about those arguments we had, things i don't understand about her and her decisions for me..eventually i soon realize it was all good for me.. i am a mom now too, i fully understand everything now..it's just so sad i realize them so late
i missed every good thing she wants for me..
she just loves me so much and wanted the best for me
@omar0913 (942)
• Legaspi, Philippines
20 Oct 08
No! parents are humans and humans made mistakes, Only that your parents are very protective because you're a girl. It is right for the parents to guide their children to better ways in life. But just not too tight, children will end as rebels to their parents if severe strictness was imposed. As a parents as soon as my kids are young I will train them to do things the right way and make them decide what is just. If they reach maturity, that's the time I will let them cultivate their own skills and I will give them trust, but still with some little reminders. As you have said, sometimes you asked your self if what you are doing is right. Trust your parents, they only want the best for you.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
Parents are just human being who also make wrong decisions in life. But we must see to it that we honor our mother and father. It is one of the ten commandments of God. But that doesnt mean we should not weigh things first and figure things out first before we agree to everything that our parents want us to do.
Not all parents are good some are also irresponsible parents. It is very important to know at what point it is right to follow there wills and at what point it is not. Some parents force there kids to marry someone they dont love for the sake of money and that is just some of the instances that parents can also make wrong decisions. There is nothing wrong if you think about the things they advise you. If you feel that you are capable of making decisions on your own then do it. But at times when you are not sure what you are doing and you knew that they are right then you should also listen and follow there advise.
@karnavshah (72)
• India
20 Oct 08
hi friend,
i do think that parents are 99% right.
They are more experienced than us and know the world much better than us.
I had gone against my parents decision and have suffered by losing money.
But,parents are also human beings and they can too make mistakes.
So they can be wrong sometimes.
But we should always obey them.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
Most of the time parents are right. At first being parents has a hard responsibility because they handle thier children in a right direction. Parents are accountable to God if they cannot manage thier family into a good christianity. They think best and good for thier children giving them education and basic needs. But the most important thing is to give the child a good future with accompanying of greatest love ever. So, if parents are getting angry to their kids maybe they have the right too. Cause parents know what is best to their kids especially in descision making. Be happy to have a lovebable parents.