which one you prefer love marriage or arranged marriage?

Hi inarkel, I guess you haven't entered a married life yet. Well, I respect your opinion but this is mine: There's no way I'll prefer ANOTHER arranged marriage over love marriage. Yes, been there, done that. An arranged marriage with no love at all is pure hell, take it from me. I've been through all the consequences of letting my father decide for me and I'm telling you I'm not going through it again, I'd rather be alone in my lifetime than marry someone I don't love. Let me tell you too that I don't think family members won't help couples who entered love marriages, I mean, it's just too far out, what's the connection? These are family members, if they love their family member they will help, regardless what kind of marriage it is. I just don't get that statement, sorry.

Ohhhh... we dont have the same opinion. With my own experienced, love marriage is more great and good and though i have a love marriage and also my brothers and sisters, my family member are still there to help and fixed the problems we have in our marriage... I guess, it is depend of what family you have...

I believe that every relationship starts with trust and grows naturally..Whether be it love or arranged the relationship can only nurture if both the people understand each other well and go together.. Even love also starts when you start caring about the other person.. Problems would have come up even if you would have chosen to do a love marriage but its good that u came up well against them and learnt to adjust.. Oh about me.. I m still single ..i m just 24 yaar.. And neither i nor my family would go against love marriage if i do.. but i have to find a love b4 to think of that..LOL..So i don't mind what so ever it be because each of the two has its own pros and cons... If its an arranged marriage, it would have been with the consent of your family, so they will be always willing to solve any family matters, but ya if its a love marriage, you had ur own choice of choosing ur won life partner, so you cannot blame anyone for anything going wrong after ur marriage. But i still belive, it all lies in the hands of the couple, how they manage the relationship!!

I believe that the basis on why two person get married is still love.Not anything else.

I realize that in some cultures, arranged marriages are the norm, but I disagree with the concept. I think that a person should have the opportunity to choose with whom they spend their life with. No relationship in the world is perfect, even the best of marriages have difficulties at times. I think that it is the couples responsibility to wok though the issues and not rely on othes to "fix" things for them. Sometimes, that alone causes more problems than it fixes.

as you said in an arranged marriage the entire family is involved. so in case of some trouble they will be there to help you out. but at the same time you really need to love a person to be able to forgive and forget and get on with your life. you dont live life for just your parents but for yourself also. so in my view i prefer love marriage. am in love and am happy about it. am not sayin gthat parents have to be left out or disregarded but there is nothing wrong in falling in love. love does happen just like that but for it to grow i takes a lot of give and take. hope you find true love.

I don't agree if I have to marry a person if I don't love him. I don't really care if it is an arranged marriage or my own choice, the most important thing is I have to love him before I get married to him. Based on my experience, I got married to a man I love and until now I am happily married to him. I can still feel his love towards me and as time goes by everything seems clearer and clearer that he loves me very much. I never believe if I get married to someone my parents choose, I will be happy. Even though there are problems in our marriage, we made a decision from the moment we got married that we would settle our own problems. Until now my parents never had actually helped me in anything because our lives and their lives are different and they can never understand how it would be like if they are in our shoes.

it is long said topic. many individuals feel like you, many feel otherwise. Actually it is no surprise. but in my case i think its better to live life with some whom we know well.

that's not true at all. parents don't have to choose your partner in order to support your relationship. my parents adore my fiance, and love him for making me happy. in my opinion, marrying someone you don't love makes a mockery of marriage. your parents cannot know your heart better than you do. they should no more choose your life partner than you should choose theirs. it's not fair to choose someones partner for them, when only they can know the finer points of love that matter to them. how can anyone marry someone without loving them first, and think that it's okay to do so?

Hi dear..,I also believe that arranged marriages are the best!! Love marriages often have fights and causes many disturbances in the life..Loving is first of all a big headache..if our partner is really irritating...Most of them think that if we love and marry we can understand each other very well and there will will not be any problem in there future..They are really wrong!While loving we, try to cover our bad side and we show only the love we have...When we marry our love..,Slowly we will uncover our other side and then fights and miss understandings start and it will easy go till divorce...If we truly know our partner then we can solve our problems with out any ones help... Keep smiling!!

hi inarkel!!!i dont agree with what youve said about love marriage that when do they have problems their family doesnt help them!!!and anyways i do prefer love marriges, for i think it lasted more, because note they love each other, and when we lovesomeonewe tend to give respect to them and trust them and vice versa, but i dont have nothing to be against on arranged marriage, having a family of chinese it happens to us!!but i can say that really depends on the situations!!!happy lotting...

Hai inarkel According to me whatever it maybe love marriage or arranged marriage every thing happend in our life may be suffered the two persons only. One you and the other is your better half. No one can any role on the story. Nor the parents and friends.

Hi, In my experience arranged marriage is good.Because our parents have suffered a lot to give us a good living.They know what to give to the childrens.Whatever they asked us to do will be good for us.So, if we opt for love marriage we are showing disobedience to our parents and they wont be with us if anything happens after marriage. Regards PP

I believe in love marriage than in an arrange marriage. I totally disagree that in a love marriage family members will not help you. I thinks it's the other way around. In a fix marriage, families of both partners will not help them totally because in a first place it's just a marriage for convenience. A love marriage is creating a strong foundation in building a family. It means both families will do everything to conquer all the trials and find ways to solve problems immediately to strenthen the marriage.

While i do not disagree with arranged marriages i much prefer love marriages. There is good and bad in both type of marriages. I disagree that in a love marriage you do not get help from your family members as if you are having problems they are there to help you. That is one part of marriage being tolerant of each other and being able to overcome the problems.

I don't see a lot of arranged marriages in the United States, but of course you see people who marry for reasons other than love all the time. And to be honest, I don't know which is better. People who marry for love often find themselves disillusioned as the initial warm feelings wear off, while people who enter into marriage for family obligations, social status, etc, seem more tolerant of each other's flaws. They don't expect perfection!

Being a christian I have always believed in order to get married in Gods eyes you have to be truely in love with your partner. I can see where your coming from though as many marriages that occur through love nowadays often after the space of a year or so split up. It was never heard of once but it is becoming much more common now. When I eventually meet mr right I would like to marry for love rather than any other reason. I'm just not very optimistic about a very long future as many people separate and divorce. Many of my cousins who have recently married have now separated with their partners.

wonderful question! and my answer is i like love marrige because without know anyone it is impossibe to live with her . what you think you prepher love or arrange marrige? ihave read many mylotter ansewer and most of them like love marrige coz this is new generation and new trande. are believe in live in relashionship without marrige?

hi to everyone nowadays love marriage has become a fashion to get married.some love marriages will be better. for myself i will prefer arranged marriage is the better option to get married. The parents will check the exact matching is correct then they will see the kundali of both sides if nothing problem is there they fixed the marriage for both of us.In some cases love marriage is fixed as a arranged marriage that will be better.

I Think That an arranged marriage is a bad idea what if you dont love that person or he or she is soo unattractive or you just got problems with a person like that.. No its not cool because when you are in love with a man or women you know it you feel it and its there how can you be in love with someone your family picked for you thats weird!!!! anyways I say no on that Question and yes to Love in a partner that you see fit for yourself not one that someone chose for you to have.