Friend possibly heart broken.
By aconner
@aconner (218)
United States
October 20, 2008 8:29am CST
I have a friend that is in a relationship with a younger guy. He's 18, she's 23. I go to church with him. I see him talking to other girls that are closer to his age and being extremely friendly. I also hear rumors that he's thinking about breaking up with my friend. I try to avoid the gossip train like this but since it's my best friend, it's hard to avoid sometimes. Should I just stay out of this or should I say something to my friend?
7 responses
@ememCz (139)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
I think you are just being malicious and that would definitely ruin your friend's relationship with her boyfriend. Maybe you are just being protective of your friend, but this is something that you should avoid. Rumors can ruin everything. You are not even sure if what has been the talk of the town is true. You will protect more your friend if you refrain from listening to this nasty talks.
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@aconner (218)
• United States
21 Oct 08
I agree! I thought about this last night and was telling myself that I'm not even sure if these things are true. He could just be being friendly and the things I hear could just be that... rumor and nothing more. Until I see proof of it (and even then I'll only confront him, probably not my friend) I'm going to stay out of it. By the way, I'm not being malicious, I am just protecting my friend, but thanks for the eye opener.
@DEVONECO (144)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Depends on what kind of friend you are to her and what kind of friendship you both share. Also what is your friendship with him? If your friendship is greater to her than with him, then its your duty to let her know that you've seen. But make it known to her that you are only doing this as your duty to a friend and do not want to get involved in any conflict with both of them. Very often, the couple would make up in the end but leave the friend who did her duty by them, a person "who tried to break it up"!!!!!! On the other hand, if you are more friendly with the guy, I think you have the right to talk to him about it and make it known to him that you may have to tell her in order to avoid a heart-break in the event he's no longer interested in that relationship. You will have to take the place of a "counsellor" - and that's what friends are for!!!!!! You have the option of remaining quiet and let them sort it out - but as responsible you seem to imply by reading your message, you may have to live with a guilt forever if your friend is hurt badly.
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@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
I think you just have to tell her so if anything wrong she is ready. Just ask her by passing that, what if your relationship doesnm't work out fine? Just listen to her opinion about it. But I won't say anything bad about his bf, she might just think your ruining her relationship. Have a nice day!
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@sujithakripesh (425)
• India
20 Oct 08
I think u should bring to her notice that u heard a rumour about that guy. And ask her to take it very litely and find out whether it is true or not...
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
It also happened to me before. I tell my friend about the rumor and i advice her to investigate first before going into a conclusion. Because there are some people who really love to gossips and they want to put people down. So it is much better i guess for you and your friend to investigate first. Whatever the outcome then its time for your friend to decide.
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