Losing a Baby
By ememCz
@ememCz (139)
Philippines
October 21, 2008 12:10am CST
A temporary excitement of having twins because of sudden death of the other baby. Never in my life I have imagined that I will see how my little girl at 1.3kg can't survive hospital infection. I saw her struggle and fight for life. What's keeping me going now is the fast recovery of my other baby. How can I cope up with that?
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@kezabelle (2974)
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25 Oct 08
I think you cope because you HAVE to for your other baby, what you wont ever do is forget and im sure there will be a part of your heart that wont ever get over it either, nothing anyone says or does will help. I think though as time goes on you learn to live with what happened it never goes away and it will always hurt but I do think time gives you the ability to not break down everytime you think of your lost baby for now take time to grieve aswell as getting to know your other baby
I really am so very sorry for your loss xxx
@ememCz (139)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Hi Kezabelle. The pain is still here in my heart. Sometimes I close my eyes and I can still recall every single details that happened inside the Neonatal ICU. I know this will last forever, but, ofcourse I have babies to take care of, the other twin and my eldest who is only 3 years old. Thanks.
@runner0369 (641)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Unfortunately, there is no one on earth who can take your pain away. If you believe in God prayer is the best comforter in my experience. If not, meditation can have similar effects. Remember also that you have another beautiful baby, a priceless gift beyond measure. Know that my prayers are with you! Whatever you do do not blame yourself or anyone else. Regardless of how/why it happened the blame will only increase your suffering and the suffering of those around you. Good luck!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
I guess you could cope by realizing that there's another baby, her twin, who needs his/her mother 100%. Yes, you could cry and question yourself or other people, but remember that things happen for a reason and you can't bring back your little girl and holding on to her wouldn't only make you feel weaker but would also keep you from being a mother to the other twin.
Enjoy your time with the other twin and remind yourself that you did whatever you could but maybe it's her time to move on and for you to move on too.
Don't let the sadness overcome the happiness of life. Pray and ask God for the grace of moving on and become the best mother the other twin could have!
Congratulations!
@ememCz (139)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Hi laydee! thanks for that. Sometimes I think that yes, maybe everything happened for a reason. God has plans for us and what are those plans I still don't know yet at this point in time. Maybe in time, when all the pain is gone I can move on and fully accept the lost of a child in my arms. It was really a fulfilling experience to carry and bring into this world a beautiful child and it was really the most painful experience for a mom to carry her own child to her grave.
@jho_anne2426 (75)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Sorry to hear that. It's really hard but you need to be strong for the other baby. Look up on the sky, I know God has a purpose in your life. God knows how much pain that you are experiencing now. Remember that life is coming from God. Accepting the fact and learn to give it up to God. I know that God is still there to hold you on. Hoping that this encouragement may give you comfort but still the source of comfort is from Him. Hoping that we can be friends more. Thanks. jhoanne
@kenchihi (121)
• Malaysia
21 Oct 08
Hey, I feel for you. I think all is not lost, instead of weeping over the lost, you should appreciate the one still with you. Don't take her for granted. My mother miscarriage 2 older siblings of mine, and she still thinks about it every now and then, but there is really nothing we can do about it. Appreciate what you have, don't ever ever take it for granted :) I wish you the best
