Does the child has the right to know?
By ajay_dhamot
@ajay_dhamot (258)
India
October 21, 2008 11:19am CST
Do you think that the adopted child has the right to know that he/she is adopted and if yes then wat age do u think ? if no then is that being protective towards the child ?
1 response
@capirani (2840)
• United States
22 Oct 08
I understand both viewpoints, but from everything I have seen over my lifetime, it seems better to me to raise the adopted child knowing that they were adopted. But also it must be made known to them that they are special, that they are much loved, and they were chosen. It is also important I think that they be told that it is a wonderful thing their mother did to love them enough to not abort them and to make sure they had a stable, loving home which for whatever reason she was unable to provide.
I don't think it is as difficult for the child to grow up knowing all this as it would be not to know and to find out by accident when they are older if they should come across the adoption paperwork or something, or someone else says something thinking they already knew about it. Also, telling a child when they are older presents other issues...like you mentioned? At what age is the right age to do this?
Well, how would you feel about it if you were that child? What kinds of thoughts and emotions would you have at different stages of your life in this kind of instance? I certainly would not reveal this at the rebellious teenage years. How do you tell a child that you are not their biological parents? It just seems so much better if they just grow up knowing.
Also, there is the issue down the road of possible medical conditions that might be inherited. Blood transfusions needed and the blood of the child and parents do not match...explanations would be needed for that situation.
I have never adopted, nor have I ever really known anyone who was adopted, so these are just my opinions based on things I have read and seen in other places such as movies, television and news. I am definitely NOT an expert on this topic.
@ajay_dhamot (258)
• India
22 Oct 08
Oh!!!! GooD fanx fo ur great N brillint reply bcoz ur reply in based on practical life even u got ur opinionz from the news television N any other sources but u have pointed out here very practically Thanx a tone onmce again