How Many Times Would You Forgive......?

Well, I easily forgive but it takes time to forget... If he/she lied once or twice I can still forgive but of course I need to know his/her reason /s why she/he lied to me and it must be a valid one... Sometimes,lying (not exactly lying) hiding something can be for a better cause; what I mean, maybe he/she has a good reason to avoid more damage or maybe to protect you for further harm... who knows... Maybe it is a good intention... I won't judge him/her right away I need to know the reason first... But if it is a constant lying... that's another thing... How can you continue the relationship if you know for a fact that your relationship was full of lies...maybe, I need to do a lot of thinking and weigh things, if that would be the case.

I think it's all up to you. Sometimes even it's hurting so many times you never let go because you are really blinded with your feelings and emotions. You don't seem to know anymore what is right from wrong. Sometimes also you just embrace the pains as long the love is is there. There is nothing wrong to forgive how many times even a thousand times but if it keeps on repeating the same mistakes that is a different matters already. It's just upon your patience, how long would it last it's your ball, and alot of thinking to do and to make before you decide. We make our own life, we also make our own mistakes, and we learn from this. How long can you handle, how can you accept him even even his mistakes and faults, just because you love him. Let time decide for you. Have a nice day!

Hi eihdra, No relationship can last if it is based on lies, but it may depend on what the partner is lying about. If he/she is seeing someone else and lying about it, for most people, it would probably only have to happen once, twice at the most. I can be a very forgiving person, but as I said earlier nothing can remain for long if built on lies. Blessings.

Hi eihdra, I don't quite know how to answer this question. My boyfriend has a nasty habit of lying and it really makes me angry. I don't know if I will ever trust him or believe him ever. He is always lying about something. Even if it is something small and insignificant. He just can't seem to tell the truth. So I try to ignore it as much as possible, but how can I? He has gotten a little better than he used to be because we have gotten closer. But, once someone is a liar you can never fully trust them that I know. My father was a pathological liar so I am really aware of how a liar operates and I know when someone is lying to me even if it is just a little tiny lie and I can't deal with it. This is why I have a major problem with my boyfriend. In fact, I don't really trust anyway for that matter, not fully.

If my partner lied to me even once, I would be constantly worrying if he is lying to me again. Still, maybe once is forgivable. Everybody makes mistakes. If I felt that he was sincerely sorry, then I would forgive him and try to move past it. If he did it again, however, it would be over. I can not stand liars and don't want to waste my time with one.

PARTNER is bound in legal relationship or you are talking about girlfriends and boyfriends.

I honest to God can NOT answer that. I have been asking myself that question for 6 months now. My lovely husband has been asking for a divorce for 6 months then every time I say okay and walk away he begs me to come back and I keep going! Am I stupid or in love?

My husband and I both agree and believe that lies are unforgivable, and if we want someone we can lie to, we'd better go and find another partner, because neither one of us is going to take it from the other person. I would not forgive someone for lying. We understand that and respect that. We have a very honest relationship.

[i]Hi eihdra, I guess I can forgive once but when it is constant, I will be making it as an issue..I hate to be paranoid and to be stressful with a relationship with full of lies so, I cannot see myself forgiving and tolerating my partner once he constantly lie to me...I am open to everything so I am expecting the same![/i]

Forgiveness is something that comes from the heart of somebody, let say that am forgiving same mistake or problem for more than twice then, the third will be a warning. If the person does not take my warning seriously then we either just part ways if we were friends. But I will be really interesting to hear his or her story why they are doing the same thing repeatedly, probably they have a good reason for doing it. Some people would like to play with and might not take your warning seriously, and this depend with the level of relationship.

its been my trait that i do forgive easily...but i never forget. i can keep forgiving but once i am fed up...then it's really over. i can not and will not tolerate lies for as long as i'm with him