Is it ok to Discuss your "Past" with Your Current Boy/Girl Friends?

I think it is just right for anyone to do that. However, practically speaking, I would not choose to do that. I am actually the type who doesn't want to dwell so much about the past. Also, it seems so awkward doing that. I want to be happy with the present, however, if the need so arises, then I have no choice but discuss about the past.

The past will always be a part me, no matter what I do and I just cannot erase it in a snap. I think it is okay to talk about it but not all the time. We should consider the feelings of our partner that even though he is not complaining about it, it shouldn't always be the topic of discussion. Also, I think it is not proper to compare your current with your past. It's just a way of respecting your partner. Then, just be careful not to hurt his feelings because you see, some guys are quite sensitive about it. =)

It depends on the kind of conversation that you are having. If you are comparing your present to the past, now that's a big no-no. But if the past just came up because there was something you wanna share to the present that might help your relationship flourish, why not? I seldom talk about my past relationships to my present (if I do have one, LOL). It's always been my present who ask about the past for them to know me a little bit more. I don't mind. But I make sure I don't compare him to anybody in my past. It's not good to listen to comparisons.

Hi Its really ok to discuss the past with current boyfriend or girlfriend.Because in a relationship they should be truthful to each other and may help each other to better understand regarding them. Relationship stays for a longer period with trust and honesty.Its always better to confide past experiences with curent boyfriend or girlfriend. It shows that you are honest and really believe in true relationships. It provides a better platform to come close to each other. BYE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Me and my girlfriend have talked about the "Past". I actually enjoyed the conversion. this is probably mainly because she comforted me throughout the entire process. She kept telling me that she enjoyed anything that we have done together more than anything that she has done with other guys. This may also be because she told me that she hasn't done much with other guys. Even if it was the past, I would still have a problem if certain things were done. I mean I don't even like hearing that she has kissed other guys. I do think that it's fairly healthy and safe to talk about it, but I don't know if you necessarily have to reveal every detail to your partner.

Me and my boyfriend talk about it openly. In fact we tell each other what we think were our mistakes on those relationships, how we felt when that someone did something to us, and so on. It is a way to know each other deeper and better, and to avoid falling into the same situations/mistakes. Although sometimes the bruises from the past that are unsolved may create some kind of difficulty in the current relationship, but by talking over it, it gets easier to solve the problem.

It depends on the comfort level. also there are differenmt types of mentatlity attached. for some its easy to accept the ex relationships of partner. some feel jealous

it is just "RIGHT" that you should share your past with your current bf or gf or partner. Letting the person see your past is the best thing to have to prepare for the future.. not to be turned off but to accept you for who and what you are... that's getting to know you more...

Its always good to be sincere to your BF/GF. It is always good in a relationship to share your past to that particular person. Some will have problem listening to that but its ok later when your relationship grows that will help you that you had been sincere to that person.

Sometimes, it is unavoidable. Either you end up blowing off the discussion, with the possibility of later coming off as perhaps hiding something, or you are open at that moment it comes up. It can be awkward, but sometimes it seems like a better idea to be open from the start. Always take others feelings into account though... have tact.

Hey there! There's nothing wrong with that. It's okay to talk about it. You'll get to know your boyfriend/girlfriend well. You'll get to know his/her behavior with a certain situation by talking about your past. Me and my girlfriend talk about our pasts too. It's okay with us.

That entirely depends on your current other half. Not all people are alike, and you would be lucky to have a very open-minded other half (boyfriend or girlfriend that is). In most cases, it probably is better to find out first how your partner takes things. You should know if you have been together for a while. There are those who can't take what you have to share. My past experiences have mostly been haunting my current. Lol. And she's rather sensitive to a lot of it. That's why I'd rather keep it to myself to stay away from an endless conversation of my past. Lol. But there are those who can take it and leave the past as past. cheers!

Nowadays, boys and girls are so sportive...... and they are very clear about what they and even they are more clear about how their life partner wants to be....???? They want to be true to them after marriage, they just don't care about how they were previously..... So, we can directly discuss our past and ex...

it would be ok to discuss your past to your gf or bf but you have to prepare yourself if has done the same too. or you should prepare not to be affected wth it. be mature. sometimes past will hurt us

Well i dont think its wise to do that and i wonder why u need to discuss that u know ur past and mistakes and u can control and amend them and can convey in other way to ur current partner. I am sure if u have fight, he/she will quote ur past. so why let them give this chance Take care

I actually had a BF that would start an arguement and throw things from my past into my face. He would get very violent. About things that happen before i ever knew him. I find it best just to shut up and share what you only really need to.

It's okay to discuss your past with your current for as long as the stories will not offend the current. I think it depends on the kind of current boy you have. If he is a jealous type then discussing the past relationship is probably not at all necessary. However in your case inasmuch as your current seems not the jealous type then I see no problem at all.

LoL. I believe it totally depends. Sometimes discussing about your past with the "ex" multiplies love and affection with each other as far as I believe. If you are confident enough and have the guts to discuss about your past with your current lover, then it is ok! I am not married yet. My girlfriend is likely to be my second half in future. But I tell her everything about my past! About my past girfriends, about my past activities with them....and even how many times and where I have got "too much close" to them! LoL. My sweetheart does not kick me when I tell these stories to her. Instead, she enjoys them! Believe it or not!

they are the ones whom we can discuss freely our thoughts like happiness, sad or whatever. we can relieve our mental stress only by sharing our thoughts with them. i think this is the right way than keeping those pressure inside ourself. i still share my feelings with my best friend about the cheaters i crossed in my life.

I think it is a good thing to do, you can both learn from eachothers errors in past relationships. Also learn what eachother liked about them. The only time i think sharing about past relationships is a bad thing is when one starts Comparing their new partner with old ones. This is not fair to the new person, as they are a completely different person.