Any wrong in boy marrying an older women?
By cosmopolitan
@cosmopolitan (1263)
India
14 responses
@Dluther89 (33)
• United States
22 Oct 08
7 years is a small gap! At least they were in the same time-frame, where things are happening in this world. If he can handle her being older, and probably being wiser, then good! It is very proper for someone to marry an older person, regardless of their gender.
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
22 Oct 08
I don't think so at all. If they love each other, what should any concern be about?
My boyfriend and I plan to marry and I am 4 years older than he is. We get along well, care about each other, can relate to each other... Why should it matter if I am a few years older than him? We are deeply in love.
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
22 Oct 08
Older women are more experienced ,that's a plus point.You are right, age is not a barrier to love
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
24 Oct 08
Providing the boy is over the legal age then there is absolutely no problem at all! Age is just a number and in actual fact the experience the older woman can give him would be highly beneficial! They have more things to share and talk about and if they truly love each other then it shouldn't matter. 7 years is not a big gap! I have known people to marry someone who is nearly twice their age and the marriage has worked. You only get one shot at life so if the two people are happy then there's absolutely nothign wrong with them being together regardless of the age difference.
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
22 Oct 08
why shouldn't they be together,that's the question I asked him but he is kinda afraid
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
23 Oct 08
But you said it correctly there is no missings.I hope I too expressed it correctly.
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
23 Oct 08
I see no wrong in a man marrying a woman that is older than him. I say this and my friend says the same as well, age is nothing but a number and sometimes love has no age limit or no limit at all. Sometimes you can't help who you love. It doesn't matter if the man is younger or older than the woman and vice versa
@TopazSkye (51)
• United States
22 Oct 08
People focus entirely too much on age.
As long as they're both adults, they have every right to be with whomever they desire
My hubby and I have a large age gap (21 years) We've been together 9 years. We're happier than most people and couples we know
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
23 Oct 08
WOW 21 years,that might be a really unique experience ,please share your feelings.I wish you all the best for your happy family life
@TopazSkye (51)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Side note: he is the older one between us. He was my first serious relationship. And I regret absolutely nothing!
@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
22 Oct 08
I think it depends on why they married and how their relationship is working out. People do not care if a woman marries and older man, so it should not be much different if a man marries an older woman.
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
22 Oct 08
what you said is logically right but I think our society is preoccupied with frowning at those who marry older woman.Need more awareness about married life.Thank you so much dear gardengerty.
@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
22 Oct 08
I think there is no problem at all. I think it is even better for a boy to marry an older woman, because she can tech him how to live and solve a lot of his problems. Older women are much smarter and knows a lot about this live, so I think there is nothing wrong at all.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Oct 08
A lot of people will say that it's wrong to marry someone who is considerably older then you but as I was saying in the other discussion about paupers and lord's, I believe that it does not matter the age as their have been marriages with people older then that.
@chiaeugene (2225)
• China
22 Oct 08
nothing is wrong in love. age, skin colour, size, looks do not matter as long as the two parties involved have the feeling and chemistry about each other. in short love know no boundaries. so why bother about what others think. and why bother talking about their love. their love is not for us to judge but for them to proof it. as long as they are happy together and it will be fine.
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
22 Oct 08
thanks shar,that's really encouraging.Actually he is a bit worried of what others would think of it.
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
22 Oct 08
sure, I told him this but he is still sceptical of the society
@ssj3goku (113)
• United States
23 Oct 08
In my opinion, age is not that big of a deal as long as it is not an obsene difference. You have to remember though that if they plan to have kids, the chances of diseases arising in children grows with the age of the women. For example Down syndrome does become way more likely in kids who are born from mothers over the age of forty. All that should be important in a relationship is how the two people get along, but other factors like how well their long term goals merge is also very important.
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
23 Oct 08
The medical reasons are correct,but what can be done when they are overwhelmed by the emotions.Thanks or the response