When is it time to tell a person to shut up?

... it is my personal opinion to call people out on their lies the minute they say them.. not in a rude way... but instead of just listening to her made up story about getting married to "joe".. but you know joe actually moved to china.. say something right then and there.. If you just play along with her lies.. then in a way... you are kind of lying too.even if it isn't out loud. Again, this is just my opinion.. but even if you just question what you are being told.. and especially if you know the truth.. you should say something right then and there

I have to admit that I am in a similar situation. I have a friend that is constantly telling me lies about things in his life. I think the lies are to compensate for areas where he feels he is lacking and if I confronted him, or told him to shut up, it would embarrass him and he may not confide in me at all. So, even though I know he is lying, I just let it go. All I can really do right now is let him know that I am there whenever he needs someone to talk to and, hopefully over time he will know that I care more about him than the area where he is "lacking." Just be there for your friend. Trust me, I know how frustrating it is when you know someone is lying to you, but just be patient, and be a good friend.

My cousin's situation is somewhat similar to your friend's. We were the best of cousins growing up and we were both normal people, meaning with no serious issues or anything. Then when she turned about 19 years old, she started acting different, making up lies like your friend and it seem like she really believe those lies. I don't know if she's delusional or afraid to let her ex boyfriend go and move on with his life. She was telling people that she was getting married to him but he left her months before that, then she started saying that they actually married She actually bought herself a ring and said that he bought it and put it on her finger. On top of all that, she tells people that she's a defense lawyer, but she works at a daycare, but she mostly tells it to people who don't know her very well. She used to lie to me a lot but I caught on to her lies because I know her too well and I know when she's lying, I just don't know why she lies.

You need to point out to your friend that whatever she thinks about the most, is what will happen in her life. If she keeps her stories and makes everything fantasy, she is unconciously turning her life into a lie. try getting her to have REAL dreams that she can benefit from. Maybe get her to go to the SECRET website and learn about what is real and what is not. Sometimes we can help people by showing them a different way. Lies usually come from something someone wishes was a reality or to get sympathy. Either way it is a cry for attention. I hope this helps