Confront them????

I would never believe my best friend is saying things behind my back because she is the type to tell me to my face. So i would be wondering the other person is up to by telling me this. I would go and tell me best friend that its going around that she is talking about and ask her what she did to tick someone off for them to be saying such things or if she knew what i did for someone to be wanting to hurt our friendship.

Something like this has happened to me about 10 years back, but I didn't consider the person as my best friend. He was a supervisor at work whom I had great respect for. But he used to flatter people a lot in front of them and tell bad things about them when their back was turned. This trait made me lose some respect for him. But still I didn't openly cut him off because I was a newbie and he was my supervisor. Some years later, one of my best friends at work got so angry at me for talking to this supervisor as if he was my friend because this man had insulted me behind my back for years and my friend was just fed up with me for putting up with him. I knew what he had said was more than 90% possible because that's how that supervisor treated other people and I knew I needn't be any exception. So, for my friends' sake and mine, I cut off his friendship - it was the first and till now, the last acquaintance that I cut off by myself. So, what I am trying to say is, it would depend on how much I know my best friend. If that friend happens to be someone who backbites then, what I learn can be possible and I might confront them straightaway for an honest explanation. But the funny part is, if I come across someone who does this to others, then probably they wouldn't be my best friend after all .

Well first let me start out by saying I have two best friends one of them is my fiance who I love and loves me,and she always knows how to make me smile,make me laugh,and make me feel better if I am sad,upset or in a bad mood,my other best friend is a guy I met in school,we have the same birthday except I am three years older than him,and that is part of the reason we are so close,and he would do anything for me,just like I would do anything for him,and if someone told me my fiance was talking about me behind my back I would not believe it because she would never do anything to hurt me,just like I would never do anything to hurt her,and if someone told me my other best friend was talking about me behind my back I would not believe it either because he is honest,and he will tell you how it is to your face, and before I confront him on anything or believe any of our other friends,I will talk to him first.

Well , I think it is always best to talk to your friend, you may have to warn him or her that if you wouldnt be honest with you, you rather believe on the one who told you. Bestfriends are people whom you relied your deepest secrets yet when he/she talks behind you at the back, that person is not your friend at all. One better keep distant or otherwise leave the friendship and find someone much reliable and worthy to be called bestfriend. Have a wonderful day !