The 9 yr.old fourth grader who thinks she knows more than she really does!
By mrsfred96
@mrsfred96 (85)
United States
October 22, 2008 8:08pm CST
My oldest daughter, who is 9 (excuse me 91/2) is a very bright young lady.The only problem is that when she comes home from school or more often, home from a friend's house, she has this huge chip on her shoulder. Suddenly she knows everything and I know nothing. I get the eye roll or just that look that tells me she thinks I'm nuts. It drives me up the wall. She starts with the attitude like the world owes her something. Or she will come home from the sleepovers with friends who have all the brand name clothing and then asks if she can go shopping there as well. Of course she is never happy when I tell her no but I am a stay at home mom and we live on one income- the last thing I am about to do is spend $30-$40 on a shirt simply because it has a name on it! When she gets in her moods she also treats her 5 yr. old sister lousy (her little sister absolutely loves her). She gets really short and snippy with her and talks to her like she doesn't know anything either- she gets really irritated with her. I can't stand it. Granted she isn't like this all the time but when she is it drives me up the wall. Anyone else out there dealing with anything like this or does anyone have any suggestions?
3 responses
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I think all kids, boys and girls are like this at that age, and beyond. My 11 year old son has that attitude so often, it also drives me crazy. He thinks that if he ignores what I say to him, he can get away with things, he thinks that I am just so mean because I insist that he be home when I tell him to, and I insist that if he goes to a friend's house, he stays there and doesn't run the streets.
My 8 year old son isn't so bad. He is actually very respectful. More often than not, he still accepts what I tell him and says,"Okay".
My 6 year old daughter on the other hand. Boy, she can give you a look that almost makes you feel like the dumb parent. LOL She is my stubborn one, and I know with her it is all just beginning.
I think that kids are way too influenced by what their friends say and how they act. My oldest son has said to me, "Well, so-and-so does it." My reply is always, "Well, if so-and-so, jumped off a cliff, would you followe?"
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@mrsfred96 (85)
• United States
27 Oct 08
So nice to know that I am not alone!!I have said that many times myself- I swore I would never do that because it drove me nuts when I was growing up but it works!
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
23 Oct 08
My son will be 10 in January and occasionally gets an attitude like that, the "know it all". We just punish him, keep him away from his friends, etc for a day or so and he straightens up. Unfortunately, this is just the beginning. Odds are it is all hormone related...
@Angellily (40)
• China
23 Oct 08
To much scolding will make kids lose confidence and deprive their curiosity of the whole world. A good parent should encourage them to tell what they think in their mind .
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
23 Oct 08
I think you are confused. Kids should be allowed to speak their mind however, when they are disrespectful or do not understand what they are talking about, they need to be corrected.
@Angellily (40)
• China
23 Oct 08
We should give our kids enough space and freedom to do things they like and to express themselves without any limitation. Kids are always curious about anything and believe what they have seen and what they are thin king in their minds. They may be eager to grow up like an adult who knows everything. When parents are talking to them, please just treat them like an grownup.
@mrsfred96 (85)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I agree that children should be allowed to have space and freedom but you have to be able to draw the line. They need to respect authority and respect their parents. Children shouldn't be treated like grownups because they aren't grownups. We are here to raise them well and teach them all that they need to know. We are not here to be their friends- not until they grow up. I let my children talk and speak their mind but when they cross that line then I step in and take over.
