Advice needed

She will have to see the light on her own. If you push it, then she may leave y'all instead. Let her live her life & make her own decisions. She will see sooner than later, esp if it is as bad as you say. Just be patient. We all learn in our own time.

i understand your concern for your cousin.. you can talk to her hear to heart, try ask her if she still loves himand if she is still happy with her relationship with her boyfriend. Tell her of the things that you have observed in their relationship.. asked her if she thinks they would still work out.. you have to talk to her sincerely and know how she really feels, give her your opinion but dont decided for her.. you can only tell her of what you think, but the decision is alwyas up to her..:(

I think I know how to settle this problem. But this is only an opinion from me and if you don't like it, it is up to you to make your own choice. I think the best way is to find your sister a new boyfriend. She seems like a nice girl but she looks like desperate to have a boyfriend. So because of this, it is better for her to have somebody than having nobody. Maybe this is the thing she is afraid of, not having any boyfriend. So what if you try and find her a new boyfriend. But please don't just find anybody. If possible try to find someone who really like her, and if there are nobody interested you can always try to match them and make them meet together so that the spark can happen. Where there is a will, there is always a way. Good luck!

Before I start, is that her first boyfriend? People tend to be foolish with their first relationship. I don't think you need to convince her because she herself knows that she's being used and is stupid enough to stay with the relationship. Don't worry, sooner or later she'd be full to the brim and would explode and break up with him. Otherwise, maybe they're a match: He's a user and she likes being used. Further, if you really like to help her. Influence her to be a bad girl by not following instructions (he doesn't have the right to stop her from doing anything, she has her own life and his life is attached to games). Tell her to be firm and ask for a compromise: like if he doesn't like her going out without her mother or sister, then he should stop playing games too. Plus, the best thing you can do right now is to introduce her to other people. To help her see beyond the boyfriend and see the good life with other people. Let her meet other friends or perhaps cuter friends? Hehehe.. Maybe if ever you didn't succeed at letting her decide firmly,at least you did your best to show her that life isn't all about having a boyfriend alone, it's having a real relationship not just with a special someone but with the family, friends and relatives as well. Don't fret, nothing is written in stone, just yet. =)

Well, tell your cousin truthfully and as frankly as possible what you think. Tell her that she has a problem, she needs to fix it. Immediately is the best, before it gets really really ugly to the point of no return, where everyone will regret not doing anything about the issue You could also consider talking the young man, and explain your stand, your views and your expectations. Hopefully, by taking concrete actions, ugly ugly scenes can be avoided. I wish you all the best. I am sure your cousin will be okay :)

I dont understand why your cousin doesn't break up with him. Check this out: Your cousin's boyfriend is: 1. Disrespectful 2. Immature 3. Controlling 4. Addicted to Games 5. Cheap 6. Got a dirty mouth Isn't this six good reasons??? I strongly feel she should break up with him before it's too late.

Some people are too digital and stubborn. They have to experience it themselves to be convinced. In the case of your cousin, it's possible that she might need to fall flat on her face first before she realize how foolish her decisions are. I know it sound bad, but it does happen a lot to too many people.

For whatever reason....she chooses to stay with this guy. there is absolutely nothing at all you can do. The families begative opinions no matter how justified, might actually push them closer together. Until your cousin is the one reaching out for help, there is nothing that can help here. The most you can do is be supportive of her in whatever choice she makes and know that she will learn from this experience...hopefully. It really isn't your problem to worry about. just be there for her.

I think it is a deadly embrace which only she can break. There are karmic forces which draws her into a lousy liaison.

maybe she has some security issue going on. who knows? from the way you said it, she said she'll dump him but it seems like she doesn't have the guts to do so. if security is the issue (the need to have someone to rely on no matter how unreliable he is) maybe she just need to go find some other guys (as friends) and see if someone can make her feel better and special and she'll finally dump that guy you don't like :P

there are people who are really blind when it comes to love or should i say smart but becomes st*pid when it comes to relationships..i hope she'll break up with her boyfriend soon because with that kind of attitude, i am certain that things will become worse once they get married..

There is only so much you can do.. your family can talk to her until they are blue in the face, but, until she sees it for herself, she will not leave him. I had a boyfriend like that, not so much into games, but obsessive and such, i didnt listen to anybody, and, by the time i figured it out, it was too late..he was a total whack job and my life was hell for about 3 years following the final breakup. You could always try asking certain kinds of questions to hopefull help her shed some light into her closet... what is it about him that you love? have you asked him what it is about you that he loves? is this the kind of person you eventually want your children using as a parental role model? why cant he support himself? really though, i dont think anything really helps..its a decision she will need to make on her own, and unfortunately have to suffer the consiquences when she finally does see it..lets only hope, that, when she finally does come around to seeing the light, it will give her the experience and knowlege so next time, she can see the 'danger' signs

Paint her a pretty picture of what her life will end up like in the future if she stays with such an irresponsible person. She may not realize and needs someone to show her.

sounds like shes in a dif place and 1 where shes trying 2 keep every1 happy(which doesnt work)she will c 1 day that he is no gd 4 her but till then just b there 4 her when she needs u and dont push it or she will keep hold of him longer 2 try 2 proove every1 wrong

This is a situation where she will have to learn on her own. If she badmouths him now, then she should leave,but for some reason doesn't feel that she can. I would talk to her and find out why she is staying with him. You can give your opinion of him to her,but she will have to decide to leave on her own. He sounds like a jerk and she needs to move on as he shows no signs of being ready for a relationship.

Sometimes if you push a person too hard to do what is right, they won't. I am sure that there will be a day when he forbids her to do something that she really wants and she will come to her senses. Until that day, look for signs of physical abuse and go after that angle.

does she live with you?? is your cousin a minor? maybe its true that she really wants to have a brakeup but, to tell you, its not easy.. let her do it in her own (if she is old enough).. just keep telling her your opinion 'bout the guy but avoid telling her what to do as this might trigger rebellion.. encourage her to prioritize her studies (if she is a student) and share to her your dreams of being successful someday and your ideals of a good partner.. spend time with her as well, she must only be lonely..

HI My frnd were love with his lover and she is bad girl.My frnd loves him sincereily but she avoids him.My frnd will spent a money for him a lot.My frnd is a poor guy and innocent person.She never understands his feelings. She having other boy frnd,They parents were worried about my frnd and he is an intelligent guy. So i don't knw how to convice him and he is my close frnd.What should i do.So who helps my frnd?HHHHEEEELLPP.

He sounds awful. I think if she is a wise girl, she will soon find out for herself what this man is. She will probably get rid, in her own time. Love is certainly blind. That relation ship will not work. Just let her get on with it for now.

Hi, This is one of those things that you dont know everything about. If you keep telling her that you dont like this guy then maby shes just saying "alright infront of my family ill badmouth him", but you dont really know what she thinks of the situation. If she really likes this guy or not is not up to you, but whether you give him a chance is. talk to the guy and tell him what bothering you. tell him that she might leave him. thats all you can do. All ways happy to help, Tevi