Arranged marriage

I'm totally against arranged marriages. I think being married is or at least should be based off of a love for each other. I think it's wrong to force your kid to marry someone that they might have absolutely no attraction for later when they are older. It would suck going through high school knowing that you can't even think of going out with anyone because you already have an arranged marriage waiting for you to turn 18.

It is all about thinking. Many people on internet are of free will. They want everything. Most of the people inhere are atually thinking of love marriage. Of course it is about love in High School. Many people get this thing called love and get into marrying. But then what happens, so many divorces. reason is simple. We loved each other, but now we discover we dont. Wow are you sure now? the fact is nobody is sure about their own heart. many people are just not able to know what is right what is wrong. People in Europe and America want to be truly democratic. They dont want any laws. They dont like restrictions. People in India like restrictions, discipline. Because people in India aare just so backward. But the advantage of this backwardness is children dont have to call the husband of their mother as father though they have a real father. Advantage of European and American system is you can love as many times as you can, you find true klove on number of occaisions. This is not known to the poor Indian people. India is a pathetic country as it tells its people to make your parents wish as your wish and feel really proud about this. Now is this not a bogus idea? Parents are just for bringing children to earth. They should not have any expectations from their children. After all India is ademocracy. Where the hell there is independence then. OK the Euroean and American system of marriage is producing many children who do not know who is his/her father. as their mothers are finding true love in High school itself thrice. Still then it is the best system. We can never allow parents to control our lives. If they are going to do that we should take some examples from our famous Hollywood child actors who have successfully charged their parents with allegations regarding illegal control over their lives. Thes parents are just sick people. But the problem is today's children are going to be tomorrows parents. ==================================== Jokes apart I dont think parents can judge the bride better than the groom himself. But parents can judge the bride's parents better than the groom himself. In India marriages are of a different kind. It is the collaboration of two families. Not just two people. Indian marriages are arranged for other reasons also. From ancient times people have been of different strata according to economic and social posseisions. So it was natural for parents to tie up with people of their same sttus. Arranged marriages are a way of finding suitable person in a particular social strata. USA is a country that has been made by Eurpean migrants . So naturally it does not have that kind of social stratification as India has. So it is not a good idea to compare India with other countries. But now as westernisation is happening in India, people are migrating more to cities they are coming to a society similar to USA i.e. without any social stratification. as they have come out from their city or village. so now they are thinking of getting married by love. It is personal thing.Still if somebody in your family is hurt why do it. In USA nobody is hurt if you plan to marry somebody . At best parents want to know what is the name and where is the wedding. so they can attend and bring presents. In India it is totally difernet. People become unhappy if you marry out side cast, religion, state, country. So it is a matter of if you are making somebody unhappy by marrying someone, is it going to be a happy marriage?