Are compliment good or bad ?
By zlp_amy
@zlp_amy (15)
China
October 23, 2008 12:53am CST
If we want to be good at complimenting people ,the most important step is to understand why flattery is helpful in building relationship.Another reason compliment is so effective, the essential reason for why compliment is so important is in accordance with a basic principal of human behavior :people crave being appreciateed. Despite the different culture background ,most peopele have the similar ideas.In Asia culture ,the desire to commmunity is stronger than individual recognition. In any condition ,people crave being appreciating exists universe.
people thought ,the pleasure from work itself is more important than external recognition.The joy of work maybe a drive .But even thought the people who get great joy from work such as scientists ?artists and photographers still crave the compliment and recognition .Otherwise they won't compete for the Nobel prize or display their works in some important exhibitions .
1 response
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
23 Oct 08
I think complimentary is good in a way. It makes us feel appreciated and loved. If a person compliments you, you may feel that he or she is caring about you. However too much compliments can kill you too. This is because if you compliment someone, it must come with sincerity from your heart. If you are doing it for the wrong reasons, for example if you are complimenting someone because you want to take advantage or him or her, then the beauty of it is gone.
Compete to achieve a reward is also good but never make it into a fight. If we fight just in order to get a compliment from the authority, everything else would not be important anymore to us. There will be no value to love, sincerity, kindness, etc. So just keep compliments moderate, that's the best way.