All alone in a world full of people (Going on 7 billion or something like that)
By rs38bj
@rs38bj (2)
United States
October 23, 2008 8:09am CST
So many people like to spit out that mantra of "just being yourself." If people accept you the way you are, then they are your friend. Well, there is a slight problem with that. Being the realist I am, I've done the math so to speak, and realized, that if I truly deliver myself to others 100% the way I feel that I am as a person, it pretty much leaves me alone. No matter which way you slice the population pie, I am going to end up by myself in most interpretations of the concept of companionship. Some days I'm happy and content with this and others I am not. But whether you get all wishy washy and emotional about it, being yourself can have it's negative impacts, and for me it means being pretty lonely in this great big world.
2 responses
@sdgroth (6)
• United States
11 May 09
I agree. Being yourself is about the worst thing that you can possible do or be. For example, by being myself, I attracted the most wonderful girl in the world to be my wife. Now, after ten years of being myself, she is sick and tired of me. I'm not like all of her other guy friends. I'm not talented enough, not buff enough, not funny enough, not outgoing enough, not this, not that. The list goes on and on. Now, she wants out of the marriage so she can go find some other Mister Right. I have tried to be more of what she wants (or thinks she wants) and that doesn't work, either. Because when I try, she rejects it outright because it out of character for me.
You're right, some days I am content because I'm absolutely sure we'll work out our issues and save the marriage. Other days...well, let's just say on the other days I'd rather die than to live with the heartache of losing the perfect wife.
@paid2write (5201)
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23 Oct 08
I feel strong in my individuality because it means I'm not dependent on others and I am free to live my life as I want to.
I can be friendly and sociable when necessary, and I do like helping others, but I don't intend to conform and pretend to be something I'm not. I spent too many unhappy years doing that and now I live my life my way and I'm proud to be who I am.
I appreciate any friendliness and love I get from other people, but I am able to get on with my life on my own, because I am very self-sufficient.
I never feel lonely because I know I am connected to all the people of the world through my love and concern for humanity. I don't need to know them all individually.
