My Mom Lost Her Battle...
By LadyMarissa
@LadyMarissa (12148)
United States
October 23, 2008 12:43pm CST
I am devastated to say that my Mom lost her battle with Progressive Supranuclear Palsy at 4:15 this morning. As sad as I am to lose her, I must say that this disease had so ravaged her body & mind that it is a blessing that she was able to go quietly in her sleep. For the last 2 month she had been talking to her deceased parents & aunt. Now she is hugging them again happily chatting away with the 3 of them. That gives me a little peace too knowing that she is in the arms of God & back with her loved ones who she so desperately missed!!! I want to thank each & every one of you for your prayers when all this first started. Your prayers helped give me the strength to get through all this. It progressed much faster than the doctor thought. Even he is amazed that she went so quickly. If any of you run into a family member or loved one with this disease, please know I am ALWAYS here to lend an ear & a touch of advice or a sympathetic shoulder to cry on. Are any of you willing to share some thoughts of your Mom??? I need to get my head back to the good days... the days before her illness.
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44 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Oct 08
hi lady marissa I am sorry to hear you lost your mom, but yet it sounds like she went peacefully to be with her loved ones so that
is good. My mom has been gone for a number of years now. I still'
miss her though.She was a real love, some have problems with their
'mom but I had never had anything but pure love for my mom. she
was everything a good mom is supposed to be. Now I am crying inside as I will miss my best friend when we move in a few days.
Nelda and I have been friends now for years, and it will be so awful to know I will not be seeing her, but we can write, and email as necessary. we usually do anyway.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Thank you Hatley!!! Email Nelda daily & maybe in your mind she will still feel like next door. Just don't walk outside looking for her. Let her live in your heart!!!
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
23 Oct 08
My heart aches for you my dear friend, I am praying for you and your family at this time. Yes your momma is at a place where she is hurting no more and with her loved ones. The wonderful memories you have of her will live in your heart forever.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
23 Oct 08
Thank you Howard. You understand how close we had become. I'm finding it extremely hard to remember before this hit her back in August. I'm sure ALL those wonderful memories will come back. Maybe I'm pushing myself a little too hard to remember.
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@LouiseKnittel (4764)
• United States
24 Oct 08
All those happy memories will come back. Many things that you see will remind you of something!
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Thank you Louise!!! In all my talking about her, they are beginning to come back now...Thank goodness!!!
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@thedaddym (1731)
• United States
24 Oct 08
I am very sorry for you loss. But I know that it is comforting that she is no longer suffering. I lost my mom a few years back and it is one of the most painful things to have to deal with in ones life. Try to remember the good times with her, and try not to remember her the way you saw her the last couple of months. Remember her the way she would have wanted to be remembered. Again, I am very sorry for your loss.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Thank you daddym I am getting back to the place that when I think of her, I see the Mom I've had ALL my life not the sick Mom of the last couple of months. That is a BLESSING in itself!!!
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@mommamusic (882)
• United States
24 Oct 08
Hello,my friend you are in my prayers and my thoughts,i am truly,so sorry for your loss.My heart understands your great pain and also relief,for her.But my dear friend she will always be with you no matter,I know that this may sound harsh but it it is not meant to be i am nurse and we come across as not loving and kind and caring we do.You remember i love you yo are my friend and i am here for you,you just pm if i can help you in,any way.I have a lot medal degrees,but the best of them all is the one gave me,the one of strength, and that is the one i the most proud of,You need some one you dont know at all to reach out to i am here for you my.There are not words at this that are going to take your pain away but you have a lot of you have a lot of friends here,just ask and i will be here for you ay timeI love you.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
OMG, THANK YOU!!! As long as I breathe, my Mom will still be here with me in my heart!!! You are WRONG about how I feel for nurses. You guys are ANGELS!!! I don't know how you watch the things you watch & have any semblance of sanity left!!! As bad off as I felt Mom was, I know the nurses taking care of her had seen MUCH worse. Yet they treated her & our family with love & respect. I SO ADMIRE you & all the others in your profession. You do a much needed job that most of us could NOT deal with!!!
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@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
24 Oct 08
Ican not convey to you here how sad i am a your mothers passing. I can not speak of mine as she is still with us but I can speak of a great loss, as yu have jus faced. No ones words will comfort your soul and to hear "time will heal" will have little or no meaning for you right now. Only the knowledge that friends and family are saying prayers for your strength and that you are cared about will be taken inside.
I do understand and can fully relate to your hearts feelings of her peace and lack of pain now. I will not take away from your time of sorrow by long stories. Only to say that My Sheila suffered horrible pain for so many years.There were times I prayed that God either heal her or take her so she did not suffer any longer. Not for me, for her. I think t some this may sound cold but to you, I believe you understand the words. When you speak of how fast she went, i am reminded of how they told me My Sheila would remain in the hospital for another month. Then suddenly they were sending her home. I didnt understand it then. Today I know that God had taken it into HIS hands and he was doing what needed to be done to end her suffering. 8 very short days later, she was in heaven.
Sometimes things happen without us needing to know the answer right then.Take a small bit of comfort in knowing that your mother will never be gone from you and she is now where she can watch you from a birds eye view.
I pray God comfort you in a way only he can do.I am here to listen. Hold to your friends and loved ones as they will be more help than you could know. You will remain in my prayers. Hugsssssssss from my heart to yours dear friend. Always, Darrel
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Your words means so much to me Darryl!!!
There were times I prayed that God either heal her or take her so she did not suffer any longer. Not for me, for her. Those words do NOT sound cold as I prayed them daily. I knew she didn't want to be held captive in her body or mind. It's HARD to pray those word for someone you know you will miss terribly!!! When I first started this, I was having an awfully hard time remembering any of the good days (and there were MANY!!!) Thanks to ALL the WONDERFUL people here, not only do I have those memories BACK but I feel closer to her. I also know that I will have many good & bad days to follow. I will deal with those one day at a time. Maybe Mom & Sheila have met by now. THANK YOU for being here with me!!!
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
24 Oct 08
I am so sorry to hear about your mom passing. I am sure that she is much better where off she is. There is no more pain for her. It is best to remember the good times and to be thankful that you had her in your life. Please take care of your family and yourself.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
When I started this, I was having a terrible time remembering the good times. THANKS to each & EVERY ONE of you, I now have my WONDERFUL memories back. THANK YOU...I LOVE ALL OF YOU!!!
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
24 Oct 08
I am sorry to hear of this news LadyMarissa yet also happy to see that you have managed to also have yourself a positive mindset about this situation as well. It must have been a very difficult time for you and your family and I wish you every blessing from this point forward and always.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
It was ONLY with the help of my friends here on the Lot did I finally find the ultimate peace I was seeking. In talking about her, I managed to find the comfort I was so desperately needed!!! My journey has been almost as difficult as hers!!! Thank you for the kind words James!!!
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@BeautifulLife (262)
• India
24 Oct 08
I do understand that this is devastating for you. May your mom's soul rest in peace. We all have to go one day. Peace.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I've always said We are born to die. I don't know why we fight it so much!!! I'm not sad for her because she's gone. I am sad for ME because my security blanket is no longer here!!!
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Oct 08
I know you will miss her terribly. Think of this as a short separation--you already know she was greeted by her loved ones when she crossed and she'll be waiting for you when it's your time. You seem to have your head on straight about that.
It's never easy is it? No matter how much advance notice we have it's hard to lose someone we love so much. She must have been a precious soul for God to take her so quickly.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Oh dragon, if I talked forever, I could NOT express what a precious soul she was!!! When I left her on Wednesday, I knew in my heart I would not be seeing her again on Thursday. I said to my brother I'm just not ready to let her go. He asked me When will you be ready??? I knew the answer was NEVER. Atleast now, I can accept she's NO longer suffering. Now I can't wait to see her smiling face again!!!
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
24 Oct 08
I'm sorry for your loss, LadyM. But I'm also not sorry because your mother went the most peaceful possible way in her sleep. Just think of your mom during the good old happy days and I hope those make you smile and comforted knowing you'll always have those memories. Take care!
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@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
24 Oct 08
I am so sorry to hear that. Please accept my heart felt condolences. I am glad fo ryour mother that she has been spared the torture of bearing the agony, but a los of a parent is really bad. May god grant her peace and rest at last and may God give you strength to bear the loss.
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@lavender88 (192)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 08
So sorry for your loss but be thankful that she suffers no more. She still lives in your heart and minds - noone can take that away from you. I still missed my mum too after so many years.. Think of the lovely memories that you have shared - it will bring a smile to your lips.. Take care
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
THANK YOU for those sweet words!!!
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@peteryu12 (37)
• China
24 Oct 08
I am sorry for your loss. i think there is nothing more sad than losing one of our
dearest. i feel how useless i am when my mother live in the hosipital. i can do nothing help relieve her pain but sit aside to pray for her quick recovery. it's
the cruelest thing to see your dearest suffering from diseases. now she is FREE!
GOD BLESS YOU
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I did feel so helpless while she was so sick!!! I'd sit there holding her hand praying for God to either heal her or take her. I guess her healing was not in His plan!!!
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
24 Oct 08
My mother lost her 6 years long battle with cancer 3 months ago.
She was always for me when I needed her. I am "talking" to her everyday.
My mother was also talking about her mother few months before she die.
I understand your feelings. Loosing mother is loosing love and security.
In my mind I see my mother young and smiling. I keep her image like she would like to be seen.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I am sorry for your loss!!! Thank you for your kind words!!! Mothers are VERY SPECIAL people!!!
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
24 Oct 08
iam so sorry for your lost of your mom there is no one like your mom she was there when you was sick and unhappy and while you was happy she will be missed.-------we are like a morning mist appearing for a little while and disappearing.so we live a while and then we die.she is with god in spirit she is not in no pain anymore under the sun.may god bless you.
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@amanda333 (739)
• France
23 Oct 08
I am so so sorry for your loss ladymarissa, now she is in the arms of God, she is at peace in a wonderful place. God bless you ladymarissa and look after your self
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
23 Oct 08
Thank you amanda, that is what I'm trying to do. My hubby had promised me he would be here to help me through this terrible time. Unfortunately he passed away himself last year. So this has kind of been a double whammy for me.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Thank you juhi!!! God gave me my friends at myLot to help me through this time!!! I had NEVER heard of myLot & would NOT have joined had it not been for a friend who suddenly, out of the blue said...try this site, you'll love it. I tried it & was fortunate enough to meet some WONDERFULLY KIND people on my very first day!!! Two weeks later my Mom began to get sick. My new friends were there to help me through those initial days. Then they were there to help me rejoice when the doctor said we should have 2 years or so (that seemed like forever at the time). Then they have ALL been there as things grew worse. Now here everyone is helping me make it through my grief!!! So God has given me the friends to support me through this terrible time!!!
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@BinaryKat (735)
• United States
24 Oct 08
My condolences, LadyMarissa. I keep you and your family in prayer. May Lord watch over you during this time. You are right, she is in God's hands and she is up there watching over you and is pain free. I know when my fiancee's mom passed away last year with her battle with cancer, she passed peacefully and even though we were sadden by the fact she was gone, we know she is up there with God and her siblings that passed before her. Keep your head up.
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@corleone82 (415)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 08
Lady Marissa...
My deepest condolence to you and your whole family.
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