how to encourage your kids...
By Nhey16
@Nhey16 (2518)
Philippines
October 23, 2008 10:33pm CST
my son will be having a declamation contest this afternoon.
i was always telling him that for me it doesnt matter if he wins, what's important is that he would give his best in the contest.
and if he gave his best and loses, for me he's still the champion, but if he wins but he didnt give his best, would he feel happy and would he be deserving of the title?
and i was also telling him that i want him to join contests for him to have experiences and to learn from all the experiences he have.
how about you friends, i want to learn from you on how you encourage your kids?
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5 responses
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
24 Oct 08
hi nhey.
i'm not sure if i'll be good in doing that, since my son is just three years old. but if ever, i will just tell him that he do his best. as long as he is happy with what he is doing i will support him. i always tell him that whatever he whats to do he can do it. winning is not really his target but happiness is.
i think what you tell him is really encouraging, just make sure also that you are present in his contest. and after that treat him in a restaurant for a job well done, not all kids can do what he did. and tell us about the contest. ok?
take care
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@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
24 Oct 08
hello red_amethyst,
my daughter and i were the only outsiders who were there :)
and the contest went well, it's like its only for fun for the kids, its like, they were just playing.
but i was there to support my son, anyways, he wants us to be there.
i had fun watching all of the contestants...
my son didnt win, but i told him, among all grade 4 students, he was the only one who had the courage to declaim, so its an achievement for him.
well, after that, we went to pizza shop :)
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
24 Oct 08
I am not really good at encouraging people... most especially kids... mine is only two years old... so i am still trying to practice as to how to give the best encouragement... and i am slowly learning... and i hope by the time she goes to school... i will be able to give great encouragement to her...
Your style is quite good... so keep it up...
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
24 Oct 08
always let them know they are loved no matter what they do or don't do.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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24 Oct 08
Hi Nhey16,
I agree with you, you have to encourgae kids no matter what and make them feel that they are winners anyway, You are doing a good job of it and I admire you for it, if I had kids I would do the same thing as you. Love & Hugs.
Tamara
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
I have noticed we are many things in common maybe becaused we both in the same field of responsibility. Anyway, that was happened also to my daugther but she has a lot of courage that's why it is not hard for me to handle the situation. The best thing I can offer to you is, if he is still a kid please to offer him his favorite foods and try to talked to him in a manner of he is your bestfriend. Kids are too hard to please if they have tantrums. Always set an example that has hapened and tell him some stories related to the topic you want to input. You need to be imaginative. In that way your convincing power will take effect. Just try and nothing to lose, we as a mother always in a ground of battleship we need to armored a lot of patience and a sword of love. :)
