Whatever Happened To Getting Married? Is that a no no anymore?

well, i just got married last january. i do believe that married is still an important and sacred thing. here in the philippines, alot of people still prefer being married that just living together. a church wedding is better than just a civil one. i think marriage requires commitment and i think people who are just living together and don't want to get married are irresponsible because marriage entails responsibilities to your spouse and especially to your children. it also gives a chance to cheat or look for someone else. marriage is a lifetime promise to stay together. it's just sad that sometimes, couples end up being separated. it is very lonesome for their children and it can affect them greatly.

I think it is. You are not alone on this, my friend. I still think that getting married is a good thing. That is why i am happy that my daughter and her boyfriend got married recently, because they have been living together for a year. So, knowing that they got married makes me feel contented. At least now, i know that my daughter is a little secured because they are married.

[i]Hi Hatley, Getting married is a very good thing and I am happy that after my search, lol, I met a person who loves me and my family and whom I love also! It's a commitment and a big responsibility so maybe that is some of the reasons why other prefer to just live first without having any civil or church wedding! Trying to check first if their relationship will work or not! I ma very happy that in my entire family, everyone values marriage and non of my relatives and family member is living together without having the ceremony![/i]

Oh lots of people still get married. Some of them even stay married. But for some people, now that the major stigma of not being married is gone (at least here in the US), they stay unmarried for other reasons. I know one couple, retired, who didn't get married because it was financially more advantageous for them not to. Some people just don't believe in it. Some people habe been burned too many times.

Living together without marriage is still a rare concept in india and is onloy confined to the metros. marriage is still very much the done things. I believe that marriage is a very good institution and shoud be followed.

Marriage is wonderful, but too many people are getting married either, for the wrong reasons, or too quickly! These people are hooking up, moving in together, getting married and the divorcing! Now that's crazy! U wonder how can a marriage expect to last if ur getting married after a few months? The divorce rate is high, and marriage is suppose to be forever, I'd rather the common law dating marriage thing if they're going to disrespect the blessed arrangement! Taripre$

I believe in marriage. If I got married the only things that would cause me to divorce him would be if he was physically abusive, or if he cheated on me. People get married these days with the thought in the back of their mind that if things go wrong, there is always divorce. A lot of people have legit reasons for divorce. But who said marriage was easy? I would never live with someone, and it isn't just because of the old saying why buy the cow when you could get the milk for free. I'll live with a man when and if I get married. I'll have a child after I get married. I plan to do those things in order.

Well, it seems like it used to be that ppl got married and stayed married...these days it seems like ppl jump in and out of marriage on a whim. I took my time before marrying my Hubby (6 years) but I had been in a bad first marriage and wanted to be absolutely sure it was what I wanted before I did it. I think more ppl need to take their time before getting married. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]

Hello, Hatley. Marriage is not as famous as before, that is a fact. People are not getting married as often. Perhaps it is because religion is now completely different than it was at like 50 years ago. Now, more people are not following the Catholic Church, which was like a ruler a few decades ago. Okay, other religions have their own marriages, but some people are just not following any religion at all. Marriage is also used to steal money from your partner. Perhaps people are avoiding it, because when the divorce comes so many troubles appear. I believe that the main reason for people not getting marriage is insecurity. They are not sure if they are going to stay together forever, and therefore they decide not to get themselves "into trouble". Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Hi Hatley, Marriage is a commitment between two people that love each other to live, love and obey each other for a lifetime. Or at least that is what I feel it is. Living together is an experiment between two people to see if it will work out for them with out the hassle of having to go through all the legalities. It is also a sin against God. Marriage offers more security than just living together. Things are done together, towards a betterment of life for both participants. Because of a piece of paper, it is harder to get out of, so it should be something that is taken very serious and should only be undertaken by someone that is totally committed to the end result. When living together, there is no ties, either party can just get up and walk out the door for the silliest reason. Where is the investment to that unity? Divorce is bad, but so is being left by someone you thought really cared for you. There just isn't as much financial turmoil after, just a broken heart and lots of loneliness. Have a nice day...

Marriage is still around, my friend I am going to a wedding next month of one of my stepsons. As for living together, I see nothing wrong with it, I often advise people to do so, at least for awhile, just to see if they are compatible enough to get married. Some living together arrangements do work for the long haul. Look at Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell.

It seems that I am also old fashioned. I have been married for 24 years and while it was not always moonlight and roses, we still love each other very much. I think even more so now that when we were young. Our oldest son and girlfriend live together and have a child, this is hard to accept as we see that they don't respect each other and also are not commited to each other. They fight a lot and she always just phones Mommy and moves back. This is really sad, I think that when you say your vows before God, you tend to take them more seriously and try harder to compromise and commit.

So, I think marriage is a great institution. I just don't think you should jump into it with taking the partnership for a test drive. I was previously married and although we "took it for a test drive" it still didn't work. However, I currently live with my fiance and we are plannning to get married on October 31, 2009 By then we will have lived together almost 2 years!

Hi hatley, Marriage is an institution where both partner have to show not only commitment but also love and respect for each other apart from being faithfulness not only physically but also in thoughts and everything. For me i would never ever live in a live in relationship and marriage is a must . I am virgin and would be so till iget married and for me marriage would be one time thing which would last my whole life what ever it may take i would do it.

i beleive is marriage. I think that when you love somebody enough to where you want to spent the rest of your life with that person what is the point of not joining together as one. Many religions see this as a coming together as one person to make your life stronger. Just because your living together and say i love you dosen't mean that you are one. Marriage is the joining of that love. I think that since were so tempted with many other options (like divorce) people see it has a burden. Because your no longer free. No one said that you can't go out with your girlfriends on a friday night just because your married now. I have and my husband respects that. As long as he gets to do the same. We don't cheat because we love and trust one another and i think that is another issue why people don't want to get married. Hope this helps.

hi hatley! well i got married the traditional way last year. and it is only this year that i got pregnant. that is traidtional. but yeah, i agree with you, marriage is becoming less and less popular, albeit gradually. there are still women who dream of walking down the aisle in a white gown with their beloved. but well, many women have come to think that it is just another tradition that they can do without. marriage is a wonderful, sacred thing--a gift from God. but then, if you don't believe in God, how will you believe in His gifts? take care and God bless you! have a happy weekend!

I do believe that there are still healthy marriages but the media always speak about negative things. Negative things hit the news and attract people interests. A couple who had a forty or a fifty year marriage does not or rarely hits the headlines. I am against divorce as it does threaten the stability of marriage. © ronaldinu 2008

it depends the person whom to be with.i was engage my husband 3 yrs but it was not enough to know each other well.but so far we are soon 9 yrs of being each other and so far so good.marriage is a great thing if you have a proper communication to your partner.we have also ups and down but communication helps not just leave and file the divorce.talking and be good listener.i am not perfect but trying to make things better.

Hi there..:-0 Well I can say marriage is still a good thing but the problem is the people who are involved in it.Thats why they are lots of people telling that married is not good because they are marrying without knowing each other so well and that is not the marriage problem no more.If you are really tp have commitment in that particular person and if you are ready to adjust your life and leave the single life then its time for you to get marry.There is still nothing wrong in getting married and those people who are telling that marriage is not good now a days it is because they are still not ready in that level but just forcing to be and will result into divorce and look for another partner and then sooner it will make like a hobby.God bless and have a nice day..:-0

Thats why their call it "holy matrimony" God's word doesnt change.