My Best Friend is getting married - But Is she really happy????

Well there is no one in here who could answer your question but your friend and you. I really think that you should air your concerns with her and try to be as frank as you could. I think she will understand it if she is your good friend at all. It is only with her that your doubts be clarified at all.

Well my friend, let's pray that whatever decision your friend make will not ruin her life. We cannot judge her lover, we don't know this guy personally, but sure your friend knew him enough to marry him i guess. So instead of some negative thoughts, maybe you can just take some rest, and help her out with this big event.

i know as a best friend you feel concerned about the friend. but let it leave on her. if she has chosen such a life partner, may b she thinks she will be happy.

none of my best friends got married yet (thank god!). but it doesn't have to be a marriage, sometimes you feel like there is something wrong with your friend's relationship. and when it happens, it really puts you in a difficult position. as a friend you have to tell her/him what you see. but on the other hand you may be accused with being jealous! but then, who cares? maybe you are right and maybe your friend was afraid to see it herself, then you will have done a great job!

Why are you worried for your friend? You should be happy for her. She chose her own path and she should be allowed to walk down that path whether or not she will regret or enjoy it for the rest of her life. Regarding fights, it is common in a married couple. I mean, people bother to quarrel and fight with each other, because they care about something and want the best for one another. Is there anything wrong with that? Plus, it is a form of discussion and hopefully the best choice would be taken. All the group-thinking will have a really negative impact on the family's development. Nobody is wrong every time. My advice? Worry not, be happy for them. :)

if i were you i would be worry about my best friend too. but marriage is decided by they both. on one is perfect in this world, if they get marrried, they should care for each other, cause love and hapiness should be built by both of them.

Actually no I have never felt this way. I have always been happy for my best friends have gotten married. How could I not? As they made a choice they think is best for them. I have always respected their choice. My best friends know I am here if they need me. The funny thing about this...if I would of listen to one of my best friends about my current husband. I would not have two beautiful children by him. Nor would I have been with him for over 12 years now.

It's a normal feeling when one of our best friends are getting married. We all care about our friends especially when thay are getting married. Marriage is very important to anyone of us , it worth deep consideration.

there are certain rights and obligations in the "best friend" status. one of which is being able to meddle in and come right out and ask bluntly the hard questions needing to be asked. my best friend is planning to get married in the spring.. and same as you, i wondered if it was something she REALLY wanted to do.. even tho theyve been together for a few years and im the one who introduced them.. so i came right out and bombarded her with questions "do you REALLY love him??" "are you SURE??" etc.. to get her to think about her decisions before it was too late to change her mind. even on the day, i will open the topic to doublecheck her decision before she takes the plunge. as her best friend, it is my duty to see to it she is walking into things with her eyes wide open.. not to sit back and just watch idly as she goes headlong into situations that might harm her later on. she does the same for me.. and i expect it, even demand it of her. one of the benefits of a "best" friend is always having someone there to catch yer back, keep you honest, keep you in line and on the right path. be a good best friend.. and sit her down and ask her the questions. its yer obligation for having the title bestowed upon you.

It's great to have best friends that enjoy and that cry with us! I think the question you have is understandeable since you love her very much. But the best friend place is to wish for her to be Happy with "HER" choice and if she is mistaken then your place as a best friend will be to be at her side to console her and make her recovery a bit easier. Enjoy the wedding!!!

Your friend are getting married. Thats a good news. Your friend has already found her life partner and they are going to build a new life as husband and wife. As a friend you should encourage her. Give her an advise that as a good wife you must obey your husband. Do not try any misunderstanding things to happen as they are going to be husband and wife. About the wedding day, there sure to some misunderstanding between them. As a friend, you mustn't blame anybody and do not interfered with their new life. Good luck.

I have to say I have not experienced such, but my older cousin did. Her friend was getting married and she was apprehensive on the fact that her friend was getting married since she knew that her friend met the guy for quite a short time, and they were just dating for a month. But later on she gave in because it's her friend's choice, and she basically wished the couples well.

its ok!~ if she is happy,i dont thing u need more then dat.dont make her sad

hello brother keep mum and wait and watch if they manage she will forget u ever if not she will call for your help at that movement you must help her out byeeeeeee

Ask her if she really is, you know her than anyone else, so sit down and talk with her and ask if she is. If she says she is then be happy for her and support her in her decision. Whether they are compatible or not, that is her choice to make. Be there for her and tell her you love her and that you wish her all the happiness in her marriage.

shankari_prabhu, Matters of the heart are simply difficult to grapple with and as much as what is deemed to be so in your eyes; may not be so at the other end. All of us are just born and raised differently and as much as we are all imperfect - we still have our on individual perspective, prerogative and inclinations. The compatibility issue is really mutual exclusive between 2 individuals, the emotions and the feel will just be different from the outer circle. So, you really need to let this be and leave it to the will of your friend and her partner. No amount of words will be able to convince her otherwise, when she is fully convinced herself. As the old adage goes: One man's meat; is another's poison. So, I would say this in a karmic way - To each and his/her own and let the world evolve and time to tell.

If she really love the person she's going to marry then I gues she is happy and excited getting married in December. Especially if the man he loves, loves her more than she do. Then there's no question about that. You should be happy for her too. Unless it's an opposite of what I have said above :(

i dont even know my friends' spouses. everyone i know finds their own mate and does what they want. i never really think about it, just hope they met the right person for them, whoever it is.

you have a right to be worried about your friend because you love her, and want the best for her.just hope she is doing the right thing by marry him i hope he knows how lucky he is to have her.just be happy for her,and hope he is the right guy.

because she is your best friend so it is natural that u worry for her and want her to be happy. i agree with you as u see it from a 3rd party perspective and that is what your best friend may not be able to see as she is the main party in the relationship. love is blind so she may not be able to see the weakness of the guy. you may be able because u see it from a neutral position. but since they are tying the knot soon, it is no point preparing for the worse but rather help your friend to ensure that her marriage is successful. give her appropriate advice and maybe the guy would chage himself when he came back. now he may be freaky cos he is working abroad. there is also a possibility that he will change once he is back and marriage may change him too. so let keep our finger cross