17 Year Old Pregnant Teen Going To Be Married.

WOW. I feel sorry for this girl. It would be different if she and the father wanted to get married. How does the guy feel about it? Does he feel he is being forced? If her parents are being that closed minded about the situation, it's no wonder she got pregnant at 17. They don't sound like the type of people who encourage open communication. If it were my daughter, I would only want her to get married if that were her desire and the father of the baby felt the same way. Whether they married or not, I would continue to help my daughter and support her so that she could get a handle on life. I wouldn't take over. She would definitely be responsible for getting up for those late night feedings, poopie diapers and colick just so that she understand how much hands on work goes into parenting. But I would make it possible for her to finish school and go to a local college or trade school and work a part-time job if it were feasable. What's the point in setting her up for failure. By doing that it's not just the failure of the daughter but of the baby as well. The funny thing is many times people who behave like that are also strongly against abortion. Go figure.

Kcbabez14 I love my daughter more than anything else on Earth. If she were to have become pregnant at 17, she is 19 now, we would most certainly have loved and supported her, as we would do now. Personally I think that it is a mistake to force people to marry at that age. They may be a perfect match, they may not, but by forcing them there is the risk of resentment to come. P1ke

First of all, what is the father's age? Then I don't think a 17 year old is responsible enough for marriage. I do wish her parents and grandparents would understand that and take care of her. If only they can support her, she will learn to live properly.

I would tell my daughter that I still love her first off. Then I would tell her not to marry this guy until she is certain that she is marring him for love, not just for the baby's sake. I would definitely support my daughter, but I would not give her a free ride. She would have to go to a teen mom program and learn that she needs to be supporting this baby.

I agree with you she shouldn't HAVE to marry the guy but since they both want to then so be it. The parents of both the kids should help them to stand on their feet right now if they don't then a few years or months from now they will both be coming home to them looking for help. Even for "seasoned" adults it's hard tomake it out here what makes them think they are going to make it, maybe that's why they are not helping them kinda a way of them saying.."See we told you it's not all fun an games" I can understand why parents would want to do that but they do need to at least help with something for the young couple not just totally cut them loose to either sink or swim they have to think of the baby that's an innocent child he or she didn't ask to be part of this grown up lesson.

I was in the same position at 17yrs. We got engaged, but I refused to get married. My parents where upset at first, but very supportive. I only got married at 23yrs just before my 3rd daughter was born. My eldest daughter has just had a baby boy (he is 9 weeks old). She was 18yrs when she first became pregnant. I was angry with her at first for making the same mistakes as me, (being a mother too young), but after a week I was excited. I never once told her to get married. I think that is not my buisness. She is young yet and maybe when she wants to she should. That is sad what you have described above. You have to help your family out too, no matter what.