Hows your relationship with your sister?
By swarovski87
@swarovski87 (328)
Singapore
October 25, 2008 3:32am CST
Im wondering how you guy's relationship with your sister? Actually my relationship with my sister has not been good for the past few years but our relationship seems to improve this year mainly because as we grow, we are more matured and we no longer quarrel over some minor things. Im glad that our relationship is getting better and i hope it will continue this way! Share your views and opinions fellow lotters~
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19 responses
@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
Hello swarovski. My sister and I used to fight a lot over little things. Right now, we no longer fight with each other which is very good. I just wish we could be more open to each other.
@lalu_202001 (123)
• India
18 Nov 08
earlier when we were young we used to quarrel without any reasons.
but now life has changed in a way that we don't have to quarrel for anything.
so what i do is i wil try to behave stupid just to make her annoyed and still its hard to start a real quarrel like before. anyway ive succeded only very few times
@PRIYANK1992 (1677)
• India
1 Nov 08
My sister is my soul and also my life.She is the one Whom I love most.I like her very much.
@PRIYANK1992 (1677)
• India
30 Oct 08
Yeah I have a very good relationship with my sister.She is the one whom I love most.I would like to be live with her forever.She is my best friend.
@PrincessThinker (234)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
Hi.
We are six siblings, 3 girls and 3 boys. Our parents imposed in us division of labor on whose gonna do the laudry, cooking, cleaning, washing the dishes and the others.
I am the youngest and will sometimes not do my chores on the belief that I am too small to do work. I spend time mostly playing and playing without helping them. This, my brothers and sisters became angry and furious and believing I was the favorite for not doing home chores. But my parents still forced me to work. I can remember before, I will stay on top of a chair while washing the dishes and try as hard as I can to handle the kitchen utensils with care because Mama will whip me when anything breaks.
When I do not do my chores, I will just cry at the corner and my sister just older next to me (the 5th) will do it for me. But we always quarrel really about a lot of things. But as we grew older, we became matured and learn to give way. For now our relationship is getting smoother. We both trust each other and even open our personal secrets, problems and many more. We are bound by the same faith and attend the same church. Thanks for her prayers and for sharing me the Gospel. Through her I came to know my Savior. We share a lot of pain and suffering and persecution from our parents and other family members but we were able to make it because we are together.
We have one desire and hold on to the same promise from the Lord. He said in His Word, "Believe in the Lord Jesus and you will be saved, you and your household." No matter how long, we will not lose our hope that someday that promise will come to pass because HE WHO PROMISED IS FAITHFUL.
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 08
My relationship with my sister is never good. This is because my sister is very arrogant and I can't stand her attitude. She doesn't speak to me unless I come to her and speak. I can't tolerate this behaviour because she is 5 years younger than me, she is the one who should start the communication and respect me. Not the other way around. Whenever she is here before, I was the one who started the conversation but now I am tired and it is up to her whether she wants to speak to me or not. Then it turned out that my mother scolded me and said I didn't shake her hands (what?) when she was leaving the house.
(What?) She didn't even come to me to offer a handshake and she expects me to get up and go to her for a hand shake? What is this? Is she older or I am older? I got furious and I yelled back at my mother telling she's never fair to me.
I guess it is better that I do my own way now. And now they have realized that they can't bully me anymore because I have my own principals in life.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
29 Oct 08
I'm afraid my relationship with my sister is poor. It's so poor, that we don't even have a relationship. It has been this way most of our lives. Once she had a falling out with our mom and moved out I didn't see her for 10 years, which didn't bother me any seeing as she didn't like me anyway. Well, for our mom's sake I invited my sister to a few occasions, and surprisingly she came to my boys' birthday party back in 2001. Even though she's been snooty to me pretty much all my life I gave her the benefit of the doubt and said hi to her. That was a mistake as she snubbed me yet again. So that was the end of that. Looks like some things never change. I haven't seen or heard from her since.
@LOOKOOL411 (15)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Me and my sister are cool too, I guess? We are 8 years apart and she was my baby, I had her more than my mom, so we were close growing up. She was really shy and always was clingy to me and loke to stay under me. as I got older in my early 20's I got married and my husband moved in with me at my familys home. Us being so close, I never hid nothing, never locked my door or needed privacy. When my husband moved in our closeness started to fall apart. not because I wanted it to, just because it was the way life had to go. It was hard to get my siblings(especially my sister to except my husband.) Then my husband and I moved out and
my sister would come over and stay the weekends. I thought it was o.k. and I thought she had her friends and high school life to keep her busy. I was wrong because she never talked to me about it. Everytime I saw her she would be so happy to see me. So 10 years later, in a mature discussion with my sister she tells me how she had to grow up alone, and had to take care of herself,Its always been only her(her defense for my brother calling her selfish).She was so lonely that she had to keep journals like she was in solitary confinement. She shows me the boxes of journals in her closet later on too! I cant belive how I never noticed her suffering. I was so wrapped up in my own life that I never payed attention to her life. I love my sister very much and I think that by now our love for each other is set in stone. Ive put her through a lot of stress and shes been there. the older we get the more able we are to have our "mature discussions" and I learn more about her as a adult now. Theres so much more that goes with this but there isnt enough lines...
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
29 Oct 08
Horrible. My sister, actually half-sister, is 8 years older than me and she never lived with us, so I didnt grow up with her and I never really got the chance to know her as a sister. I dont really even feel like I have a sister. I think that sisters are able to tell eachother secrets and do eachothers hair and all that. I have never done anything like that with my sister. I dont like her at all. Even though she is 8 years younger than me, she is a lot more immature.
@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
27 Oct 08
Well my sister is more like my friend. Will share every little thing with her,so would she with me. I've always respected her a lottt. I myself came to know as to how much I value her only after she got married and left to her in-law's place. My goddddd I was unable to take her seperation. She alwasys used to say that I will be her first daughter even after she gives birth to her own children. She has two kids now. Even now she keeps saying the same thing. I love her. Lucky to have got her. Owe her a lottt
Cheers
@Michaelburke (147)
• Ireland
27 Oct 08
i am the oldest of four
one brother and two sisters
we are all adults now - my brother, the youngest of us is twenty one
i have a sometimes strained relationship with my sisters party because of the fact that we live some distance apart and partly because even though i am plder than them they sometimes see me as immature and this can be a problem for us
despite our differences we are still family and are quite close although i would not be their first choice for advice or support they both still know that i am there when they need me and i know this to be true of them
@23uday (2997)
• India
29 Oct 08
Hi buddies,
Iam always very good relationship with my sister.My sister will tells all the college matters and i will also tell every thing to my sister.We grown up with
good relationship.I will always help to my sister when she is in bad suituation.
We will be their like frndss.Little quarrels will be their and again we will talk to each other.
@shell94 (990)
• Canada
27 Oct 08
I was away from my sisters for a very long time and just recently found them. Such an awesome feeling to see the love and feel it! I have learned that life is short...appreciate the good and forget the bad if u can!!!!
@Humbug25 (12540)
•
26 Oct 08
Hello swarovski87
I don't have any sisters but I have two brothers. One of my brothers who is only months older that me I get on ok with but we have grown apart over the yers. My eldest brother seems to have some issues with me and how I discipline my children or the lack of as far as he is concerned. He has got a very annoying wife too who is very opinionated. I would not tell my brother how to bring his children up and to tell him to srop letting his wife hen peck him as it is really none of my business and then deal with their own lives.
@desiree_apuli (455)
• Philippines
25 Oct 08
When we are in high school and college days we never understood each other. We always quarrel on small things. As my mom would always say "we are like cats and dogs" He! He! But as time pass by and now we are both married we always talk on things and seems are mind always meet each other. I never recall that we quarrel today. Hoping also that we will have a better relationship forever.
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
26 Oct 08
when we were younger, my sisters and i, each of us have different world but as we grew older and more mature, we get closer to each other. i could say that we are the best of friends :)