how do you cope with death
By monimo
@monimo (83)
Canada
October 25, 2008 10:25am CST
I've lost several people in my life, even though I'm pretty young.
I was never prepared for death, and when it happened when I was a young child, it devastated me, and I simply closed myself and didn't really speak to anybody about it, until now when I grew up and realzed that speaking about it helps a lot.
How do/did you guys cope with it when it happened?
Were you surprised at your own reactions?
How did you cope with it, and also who was the person who left? Was it someone close to you, who mattered a lot, or you were really affected by just knowing that someone you weren't as close to was gone?
Even though I'm not a religious person, I found it helps to really believe that the person is now in heaven and is much better off..
1 response
@jsitko (1169)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Coping with a loved one is never an easy thing to do. I have lost many in my life and it is never the same and it never gets easier. I lost one of my older brothers 14 years ago, one of my older sisters 6 years ago, my Mom 5 years ago and my Dad 3 years ago. I just lost my Father-in-Law this past July.
I talk to them almost every Day and I know they are all in Heaven looking down at us. We have also, as a family, planted trees up north on our land in their honor and that does seem to help in it's own way. I guess we all grieve in our own ways.
My husband seems to be having a hard time losing his Dad and I think it is because he really did not have any closure. His Dad passed in his sleep but was at home alone and was found 2 days after he passed. There was no viewing of the body at all due to the condition and bacteria. He is having dreams of his Dad as if he were still here dealing with the situations we are going through selling his house and dividing his land, cars and other things among the rest of his siblings.
I tell him that this is the way his father is visiting him to give him advice or to just be with him.It is getting a little easier for now, but holidays, birthdays, anniversaries will never be the same.
