What's your poison?

Nopee if we have some one here with negitive thought we tell them to go away we dont what to hear it or tell them not to be so down and not be negitive for we dont need it around us.

I have always suffered from the influance of such people. Now I have learned that if I have a positive take on everything, they stay away from me. They feed on the negative and just don't have time to bother with the positive. It makes my life so much better.

family members give me stress all the time, it wasn't my problem to deal with but i end up being stressed and feeling like their problem is my problem as well...

There are always people like this that you encounter in life. I do my best to stay away from such negativity but it can be impossible when they are in your family. I have lessened my stress considerably by moving away from the biggest causes of pain in my life.

Lets put it this way. You are also in the everyday life of other people whom may re gard you in the same token.You should be where I am.When you are aging and do not feel as you are any older than 21 or the middle 30s.We tear our hair out alot.Its doubtful that those whom may stress us out,are not also stressed.We are the ones wh o invite others into our lives.(I told all my daughters,that people only know what you tell them about you and your life).To keep this positive.(We look at ourselves and must ask,"Maybe I am the problem,and not them)Remember you are the only one who can control your feelings,and associations with other persons in your world.Surely not all other people are freaks,Bothersome,perhaps!When someone makes you feel unco mfortable,just change the subject,or move away.The silent treatment is better than saying anything to them at all.I give stress to other people,only because I am agin g,and at times,its the only misunderstanding they have of me.They do not wish to be bothered with an old man.Yet,they are always happy to see me.My wife and me,we trad e the stress back and forth.She does not always show the stress,or talk about it,I do the opposite.(My wife does feel the stress,and suffers herself.So whom is the real problem. Us or them?

Yes! There is this guy I know who is so pesimistic. We would start a nice, happy, fun conversation, and it would end with his woes of misery. Everytime. He never has any money,'according to him'. He always feels ill. He never buys a present for his family, but expects one for him. He is so depressing. I do not know why we even bother with him. We hate to see him coming up our drive way.

I have one right now. I work as a personal assistant and carer for a man with MS and his neice is supposed to be his cleaner but refuses to do anything if I or the other carer tell her! She takes days off as and when she feels like it and often leaves her work unfinished. She causes a lot of stress and problems but if he trys to be firm with her she turns on the tears and he then feels guilty. Some days I really feel like screaming! I daren't start pulling my hair out as I'd very quickly become bald!LOL

Yes. This certain person I am always walking on eggshells around her because I never know what kind of mood she will be in and how she will act and not only that, but she plays "read my mind" games with everybody. Its very frustrating. Its not that it makes my life stressful, just that makes it that way being around her.

Thank goodness I've learned to recognize the people who can prove to be "poison" to me and walk the other way! Yes, I've had people in my life who the very mention of their name brought stress through my door. When we're young, we're a lot less experienced at handling these type of folk so much of the time, the encounter for me usually left me a miserable wreck. But as I grew older, I realized that there was no one out there that was so important that it was worth my becoming miserable over so when I saw that this was the only result I was going to have when I was with this person, I decided to leave the person alone altogether.