is it ok to gossip?
By annjilena
@annjilena (5618)
United States
October 25, 2008 2:52pm CST
we all do it at one time are another but does that make it right.gossiping can be very dangerous the same as back biting is not something you want to practice it have hurt many of our friends and family members it,s not nice when people say mean things about us.how do you feel about someone who tell things that not true are telling things thats private.
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13 responses
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
26 Oct 08
i have seen couple fighting over what a person has said gossiping is not good it can destroy people lives and it can be very hurtful when it,s used against a person some people have lot their life because of what people have said so it,s not to be taken lightly gossiping.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
27 Oct 08
this is so true i know some people have lost there life behind gossiping
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
26 Oct 08
thats true lakota but a lot of people don,t have the gut to tell a person what they have to tell them in their face instead they back bite with other people about them i know a lot people who do this to master gossiping is a hard task it,s not easy when you been doing it for so long.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
27 Oct 08
that true say what you have to say but i also believe that somthing are better left unsaid.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Oct 08
I do not gossip you really don't have to, you can tell people very simply if you have an issue with this person go speak to them about it,
or I don't listen to gossip
or I don't listen to bad stuff about people,
or
if you can't say something nice about somebody to say anything at all.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
26 Oct 08
I know that I am saying this what you tell those people who come to you with gossip if you are really serious and want to stay away from it.
People don't bring gossip to me, they know that I won't listen.
I used to have a girl live with me, I told her too not to bring any gossip into my house or take any out when she is out with her friends.
Gossip leads to bad feelings, misunderstandings, lose of good friendships and serves no good at all.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
27 Oct 08
THATS TRUE but you know a lot people does it thats all iam saying
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
26 Oct 08
thats true but a lot people don,t live by that see some people have to drama in their lives gossiping about other people business is all they know don,t care who they hurt as long as it,s not them some will even add to the gossip to make it sound worse then it is.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
Oh our flesh would love to gossip especially the women but we have to avoid because you would not want to be talked about as well so let us refrain from doing to others. Same is true with back-biting. More than any other reasons I think we should really stop gossiping because the word of God states so clearly:
Proverbs 26:20
For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases
James 4:11
Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge.
Titus 3:2
To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people
1st Timothy 5:13
Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
27 Oct 08
gossiping can be a bad thing do you not realize some people have lost there life behind gossiping.gossiping lead to slander and slander leads to talecarrying and talecarrying leads to back biting it,s a system that leads up to gossiping.it.s consider to be a major sin.in some religion if you talk about your brother or sister it can be consider like eating the flesh of your own brother are sister and it so easy to do idle talk lead to gossiping.sometimes you can do it and not realize you are doing it. thanks so much for sharing
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
hi annji,
i have one friend and only one friend that i share all my gossips and stories.. she is not my best friend but she is the person who knows the people i gossip about, we have a pact or agreement and we trust each other, we gossip about anything from movies, books, newspaper, husbands, mother in law, boss and we know that we have someone to share gossips with and the matter discussed is not leaked to hurt others ... after which we go home and gossip with our husbands ...
being a woman, i belive we cant run too far away from wanting to share the news with someone, you see a married office mate with another girl at movies, you want to tell it to someone ... they may be related but for us it is a juicy story ..
i dont hurt anyone ... because i have a friend who i can trust
cheers
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
4 Nov 08
no you chat amongst your friend but are you sure your friends are keeping the information you discuss really we don,t know because we are not with our friends 24-7 so we can assume they don,t gossip about what you have told them but what if they have and you here it agian one day then what to me gossip is gossip it,s no way to put it.
@wrprofit (71)
• Indonesia
30 Oct 08
Gossip is okay as some "salt" to your community. Too much gossip is as too much salt. It's going worse. Happy MyLoting
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
4 Nov 08
really gossiping can kill if it not used in the right way it can hurt people in many ways.you heard the saying somethings are better unsaid.talking about people is not good at all i try my best to stay away from a gossiper.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
25 Oct 08
I hate gossiping and i do think that it is bad and can leave bad consequences to the others. Sometimes it is better to bite your tongue instead of talking badly on your brethren. © ronaldinu 2008
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
26 Oct 08
really gossiping can kill if it not used in the right way it can hurt people in many ways.you heard the saying somethings are better unsaid.talking about people is not good at all i try my best to stay away from a gossiper.
@missberlee (467)
•
25 Oct 08
See I don't mind the odd gossip with my girl mates, where I know it won't go any further and no one can get annoyed or hurt. What I don't like, however, is those that tell everyone people's business! I will tell a select few friends about my gossip, but those that tell everyone really hurts me, especially when they don't know all of the facts and make the rest up.
I think the odd gossip is ok, but not when it can hurt people and ruin lives!
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
26 Oct 08
i no you chat amongst your friend but are you sure your friends are keeping the information you discuss really we don,t know because we are not with our friends 24-7 so we can assume they don,t gossip about what you have told them but what if they have and you here it agian one day then what to me gossip is gossip it,s no way to put it.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
26 Oct 08
thats a good way to be but sometimes they can pull you into the conversation which you have nothing to do with it. sometimes trying to walk away is hard sometimes a lot people i know thats all they do is all in other people business wanting to know what goes on in people homes behind closed doors some people are crazy you would be surprise to what link they will go to find out your business.
@goldenapple951 (455)
• United States
26 Oct 08
No I dont think its ok...because like a pile of feathers that are scattered about..
you can not pick them all up...once they are loose they go evey which way..so its best
not to gossip because you might be able to take those hurtful things back.
@yeshuakaleo (168)
• Philippines
26 Oct 08
It's not alright to gossip. It is because you are invading the privacy of the others.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
26 Oct 08
ammend and well said it,s never a good gossiper are a bad gossiper either you do are you don,t we all can change if we do it we have to work at it no one is pointing finger we all probably have done it at one time are another but we can change it that point.
@bloodynerd (33)
• India
26 Oct 08
gossiping is not bad at all..it depnds frm person 2 person..n also it depnds on wt topic u gossipin on..u shldnt get personal while gosspin..u can..only if d person is comfortable enough while u gossipin! its fun at times..but dun get meany while gossipin! :D
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
27 Oct 08
gossiping can be a bad thing do you not realize some people have lost there life behind gossiping.gossiping lead to slander and slander leads to talecarrying and talecarrying leads to back biting it,s a system that leads up to gossiping.it.s consider to be a major sin.in some religion if you talk about your brother or sister it can be consider like eating the flesh of your own brother are sister and it so easy to do idle talk lead to gossiping.sometimes you can do it and not realize you are doing it.
