Should A wife respect her husband First or Should a husband LOVE his wife first
@goldenapple951 (455)
United States
October 25, 2008 4:29pm CST
I believe if a husbands wants his wife to submit to him and respect him...he must Love his wife first just like Jesus....( remember the song Oh how I love Jesus" because he firsted love me)
Jesus was not abusive, but rather showed great love. A woman will automatic respect their husband easily if they love their wives..
Some disagree....
They believe respect husband first....then they will love you...I personally dont see it.
what do you all think?
5 responses
@goldenapple951 (455)
• United States
26 Oct 08
I think he meant for the husband to love his wife like christ...
and she would in turn respect him..
men seek respect and woman seek love
how can a woman respect her husband if he shows no love.
I have been very blessed I can honestly say but I have a sister in law
who says she has to respect her husband (even though he is abusive to her)
I dont see it...I think he should show her love
@agrady (20)
• United States
29 Oct 08
The husband needs to be loved just as much the wife so I don't think we can put it all on the husband to be the one to love first. In fact, I believe God and our Lord Jesus Christ are the only ones who are capable of loving first without having to receive love from us first. It is our Father that bestows love upon the hearts of man and woman -- without this, I don't believe either the man or the woman would be able to truly experience love . . . because we don't really know what love is. But if the love has been placed in our hearts, and we commit to a relationship, then that love can guide us to a lasting and fulfilling relationship.
No, if two people are fortunate enough to experience strong intimacy, warmth and respect toward each other, and they then commit to marriage, then I believe both the man and the woman are equally responsible for learning how to love each other.
@Sidnie (1)
• Australia
8 Dec 08
I believe I love my wife and I do small things to please her, compliment her and gave her flowers.... and she received it fine. But when it comes to respect, I still have not got it from her. Where have I went wrong?
For example, last weekend, we said that we will go out with the kids in the afternoon after shopping. I told her that I need a sleep before that, she got angry and took the kids out without asking me. After she got home, the kids come to me and I started to look after them and nursing our 6 months old. She just got on the net and chatting. She was avoiding me and I decide to keep quiet about it. I start to do all the cooking, bathing the kids and put them all to sleep having in my mind (actions speak louder than words) while she was sleeping on the bed. She refused to talk to me and having dinner with us. I just don't know how can I do better? What can I do to earn that respect?
@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Why one gotta do it first? If they enter into matrimony together, they should want to love and respect each other from the door. A mutual thing if you please. Of course, you have inequalities where one defers to the other(Norbit the movie was a good example)or one is getting all the love and the other isn't. Each party ought to have a give and take thing to this marriage.
@goldenapple951 (455)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Yes you make an excellent point. My reason is because my sister in law is reading a book lately and telling me respect the man,,respect the man...
well I say how can she do that when her man is abusive to her?
Would Jesus want this? I mean I think she has it backwards...
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I think husband and wife should do the same. Love and Respect each other. They should both love and respect each other to have a strong and happy relationship. Relationship is matter of give and take. Things should be balance for couple. When you love someone, you should respect them too. As easy as that. 
@goldenapple951 (455)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Yes I agree there must be balance in a marriage. Love and respect go hand in hand.
@goldenapple951 (455)
• United States
26 Oct 08
I totally agree with that...How can only the women show respect??
Shouldnt the man respect his wife? I mean I know men crave respect and
women are more emotional I we want love ...to be loved,shown love ect...
