what would you do if you lost your child
@easymoney75503 (1702)
United States
October 26, 2008 8:03pm CST
i know a lady that is a great mom sure she has her issues but she takes good care of her son. her house is clean, bills are paid, she doesnt drink, doesnt do drugs, she is on meds for being bipolar but alot of people are. she kicked her husband out cause he was doing drugs etc. she got protective orders for her and her son. she let her son go stay with his grandma she was so stressed out and the dad got him. he was calling her and telling her she would never see her son was telling her he would kill her. her son was yelling he hated her all kinds of crazy stuff and well she took a few bottles of pills. we got her help and she is ok. the state though came and took her son from the dad and now is charging her too. telling her she is unfit cause she let him go to his grandmas and cause she tried to kill herself. she cant see him talk to him or anything. she is losing it. i dont know what to do for her. i dont know how to help. they wont tell her anything and it has been over a week. she is starting to give up. she is just saying she lost him and they will never give him back. she was drinking today and that is something i have never seen her do. she doesnt drink. i am really worried. i dont know what i would do if i lost my kids.
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@annkenline (337)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I would hope that if she gets her act back together she would get her son back. This is such a tough situation. I can only hope for the best for her!
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
27 Oct 08
It sounds like the poor woman reached the end of her rope, and none of us know how we'd react if faced with the same adversity. She needs to quit allowing herself to wallow around in self-pity, though, and start acting like the caring adult that she is. If she hopes to get her child back, she needs to clean up her own act and start behaving like a responsible parent. There's no way she can give her child the best care until she gets her own life put back together. She needs to realize that the changes she wants aren't going to happen today and will take a little time to achieve. However, isn't her son worth working for?
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I don't know what I would do either. Unfortunately, she will not be able to get him back until they are sure that she is stable. She is going to have to make up her mind that she is going to get him back and step up and do what she has to.
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
27 Oct 08
I think the lady tried to protect her son by her own way, while her son may not think so. Though her husband has many problems, to her son, may be the father is not so bad. I think kicking her husband out of their ( her and her son's) life is not a wise decision, that may make her son feel unconfotable, while worrying about being deserted by his mother for his wrong behavior in the future.
I think to the lady, if she really wants her son back, she should try to make her son know that she will love him all the way in his life, no matter what he does. If she can not get him back, she has to try some other way, like by law, to et him back again.
@lovely30 (26)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
well, why thgis should happen to me, inever had vices, i care my child a lot, early in the morning a prepare a breakfast after that i take them a bath the dress up, , i. well if it really happen to me i dont know what too, well i need to make a public service if they found the child, i really seek them so that i can found them i wont let keep on crying but rather do a move so that i will found my child,
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@thedogshrink (1266)
• United States
27 Oct 08
This is terrible! I know this kind of situation happens a lot, without the mom being unfit at all! Where is she? IS she in the US? If so, what city and state?
She MUST get a lawyer -- the best place is probably LEGAL AID, community legal office or something like that.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Many states now have laws that protect the children. If a mother is abused and stays in the home, the kids can be taken from both parents because she allowed the kids to observe or even hear or be aware of her being hurt.
