Being my parents' daughter...
By tryxiness
@tryxiness (4544)
Philippines
October 26, 2008 9:15pm CST
I am of age already (like I am almost 30, duh), and yet I still have this feeling that I can not survive without having my parents around me. I mean, I basically spent most of my adolescent years with them.
Two years ago, their petition papers were approved, thus, they left the country. The idea that my parents would be miles away two years ago was quite quite hazy (and I thought back then, I'd be "matured" with my dealins in life). Also, I have this undying separation anxieties broiling in me.
Basically, within those two years, I have this weird moments crying because I am missing them.
And early today, I went to the airport to fetch them up. Tatay is finally here after two years, while Nanay is here after 5 months. And I am back to being a child again. Hehe! Sheez, this is becoming a diary already. Basically, I am excited (because at this very moment I am in the office, left my parents with my brothers and my sisters-in-law -- I have to be in the office because I will take my 4 days leave haha).
So, my question is though your in your 30s or in your 40s, 50s, 60s (or even mid-late 20s) do you still feel like a kid being with your parents? Do you still wish while you're with them that you won't be thinking of logistics or strategies? Do you still feel excited about family outing with them?
Because I do. I still am and I hope we will have a great time together.
8 responses
@iamcdy (1119)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
I do! I do! I still feel like a kid everyday - they treat me like a baby and never lets me out at night too late even if I am almost the same age as yours. Sometimes, I feel like it is the reason why I couldn't get married. I feel lost to the thought that I will have to be away for them. Sometimes, I think that even if I get married, I want to stay with them still, but of course, that's only if my my future husband will agree, 
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Being the only child left at home with my parents, I feel like I am the eldest child that they have now. I feel happy that sometimes, they ask for my opinion about something. It makes me feel old and responsible. It really helps and I know that they know that in the near future, I will have to be married, too. I sometimes feel that they are just waiting for me and boyfriend to tell them, but let them wait a little more. 
I always feel happy spending time at home with them. I even thought that the reason why I resigned from my work before is because I want to be with them at all times, especially that during that time, my brother was also leaving for abroad and I officially became the only child left at home. Even if I see them everyday, I am still looking forward to spend more time with them. They are not getting any younger and I wish to spend the rest of it happily and satisfied. 
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Being the only child left at home with my parents, I feel like I am the eldest child that they have now. I feel happy that sometimes, they ask for my opinion about something. It makes me feel old and responsible. It really helps and I know that they know that in the near future, I will have to be married, too. I sometimes feel that they are just waiting for me and boyfriend to tell them, but let them wait a little more.
I always feel happy spending time at home with them. I even thought that the reason why I resigned from my work before is because I want to be with them at all times, especially that during that time, my brother was also leaving for abroad and I officially became the only child left at home. Even if I see them everyday, I am still looking forward to spend more time with them. They are not getting any younger and I wish to spend the rest of it happily and satisfied. @tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
You are quite lucky, aside from being the youngest, you are currently holding the only child (in the Philippines) title. I am enjoying their presence, and being with them is like really fun. 
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
that was lovely, being with your parents again, well me, I grew up being independent but I still do act like a kid when I am with my mom (even though I already have kids of my own) sometimes I would as k her to scratch my back and when I am sick I still cry out loud, nanay! @tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
This is so true, when I am feeling sick (and it's getting into my system) the first person I really would look for is my nanay.
They are still here, and each day has been like a comfortable secure moment for me. I just enjoy their presence.
They are still here, and each day has been like a comfortable secure moment for me. I just enjoy their presence. 
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
Most Filipinos are like that... grown up but would rather live with their parents... when i was not yet married... i experienced living away from my parents for one year... then after that... i went abroad for two years... when i was miles aways from my mother... but just a ferry ride away from my father... but i still fell very independent and i really loved it...
I love living with my parents because they tend to do everything... but i would rather live away from them... because i love my independence... and i love taking care of myself...
@camomom (7535)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I do still feel like a kid around my mom sometimes and sometimes I don't. I have kids of my own now and I think that's when I started feeling grownup. Up until then, I still felt like I was in my teens around my mom. I'm 33 now. I think it's normal to feel that way at any age.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Oct 08
my parents are both passed. but when they were here i still felt that way about my dad.he passed when i was in my 40's but i still loved being with him. my mom passed 7yrs ago but till that day i hated being around her. she didnt like me and always had bad things to say to and about me till the day she passed. dont get me wrong. when she passed i cried till i thought id never have a tear left in my life to cry again.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
27 Oct 08
I'm told that mother and daughter relationships can be very complex.I'm sure that many of your tears were because you didi not have a good relationship with her. She could have been jealous of the relationship between you and your father. Perhaps you will never know.I have only one daughter and we are very close even though she now lives in the USA and I live in the Islands. She calls daily and when we are together we have so much fun. I never had that relationship at all with my mother. I was scared of her. Get on with your life and live it to the full. Don't dwell on this. God understands and loves you just as you are.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
I have to agree, mother-daughter relationship can be very complicated. But I am thankful that I have outgrown the phase where I think my mother is such a monster.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Oct 08
oh yes i have and just like you, i have a daughter that is so close to me everyone says she is like my little twin. she is the one always there for me and i for her. she is my heart. i always said none of my kids would feel like i did.
she is the one always there for me and i for her. she is my heart. i always said none of my kids would feel like i did. 1 person likes this
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
17 Aug 10
I can understand the way you feel..even I love my parents, they play role model for me in their love, hardwork and responsibilites!and feel lot in missing them
