My daughter blames everything on me when things don't go her way...
By Earthmum
@Earthmum (15)
Canada
October 27, 2008 6:03am CST
My daughter is 8. I am a stay at home mom and the primary caregiver of two children. She is the older of the two by two and a half years. Lately when anything goes wrong in her world she becomes very angry and blames it on me. I tell her that her world is her responsibility and that I will love and support her, but everything is not up to me. Does anyone else have this situation and what do you do with it?
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4 responses
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
27 Oct 08
Your daughter is too young to understand what is a blame game. Having said that, even if she blame you for everything, politely tell her that there are some little little tasks, which she is supposed to do herself and if she fails in that she should accept her mistakes, insteadof blaming you. For example, if she does any wrong in her class, she will have to take the blame or punishment, not you. YOu can tell her some examples and try to make her things clear. Best of Luck!
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
29 Oct 08
Please take it in right spirits and gradually tell her the meaning of blaming others and taking responsibility for a fault of hers. She is too young, hopefully, she will start understanding gradually.
@celticeagle (168542)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Oct 08
Who else would she blame? I think it might be of value to check out thise site:www.loveandlogic.com and you can get the books at www.amazon.com. It helped me alot and I hope the concepts are of help to you as well.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Oct 08
yeah been there and done that. now we have a nephew who blames the whole family when something don't go right.
when his last b/f.. yeah he's gay.. his ex ended beat him up with this other boy. we all got blame.. he was like it's my family fault... ok like we made him beat u up.. maybe it's because he's a jerk.
my kids tried that with me, learn it don't work for us to have pitty on them. but i guess all we can do is ask why is it my fault? what did i do? oh like i made you get that bad grade? i made that person do that too you ?
yeah ask stuipd question and make look dumb.. lol yeah i was a mean dad,
@hildas (3031)
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27 Oct 08
I have four daughters. Daughters are really hard work. My middle daughter (11yrs) seems to blame me for everthing. If things go wrong for her, she will take it out and blame me also. My two older girls where not as bad as her, so I do not no if it is a stage, they go through. I feel my daughter sees me as an embarressment to her, she tells me to go away, when I drop her off to her friends. I am cramping her style.
Maybe it is hormones with them, my older daughters went through an angry stage, 'not with me though' with the world. They hated clothes, their room, their hair everthing. Every second they moaned.
I know she is young but it just might be the hormones starting with her. Maybe girls get angry in different ways with things, and unfortunately it is you.
I would not take it too personally, she loves you really.
