It doesn't pay to be kind =(
By jsloh1989
@jsloh1989 (181)
Singapore
October 28, 2008 1:53am CST
This morning, on my way to work, someone popped out of nowhere and told me that her husband met with an accident and she couldn't contact her mom to get cash to register blah blah blah. So the gullible me loaned her some money, and then she disappeared into thin air.
Sigh. I lodge a police case, hopefully she gets caught and I can recover my lost money. =(.
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4 responses
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
28 Oct 08
Personally, I will never loan anyone any money for just this various reason unless I have proof that they need the $$, and why. There are too many Scammers out there to deal with to know if they are really telling the truth or not, and right now financially, I need all of the extra $$ I can get. I would just chalk it up to a lesson learned, and move on from there. I am sure the people that do these type of things will get caught in time.
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@jsloh1989 (181)
• Singapore
29 Oct 08
I am someone who is against this kind of things, but it's my character. I don't know how to say "NO". Sometimes I hate myself for being such a weakling, can't even say no. That's why people always take me for granted and take advantage of it. Sigh.
@FayeSLongo (306)
• United States
21 Nov 08
You are NOT a weakling for not saying no, you are a kind person, trying to do the right thing and unfortunately you got taken advantage of, but that does not make you a weakling!
@tapnaroy12 (875)
• India
31 Oct 08
Hi
There are fraud stars and really needy persons in our society. You helped someone. But calling yourself 'gullible' will be too harsh.
You have done the right thing by lodging a complain with the police. Hope you get back your money and scammer gets the punishment.
Personally, I don't loan someone. I know in that process i fail to support few truely needy persons. But still, I prefer to help only those who have a proof. Mostly, I support sick persons by taking them to Govt hospitals and ensure that they get necessary treatment.
I normally don't give loans to any strangers.
Enjoy mylotting.
. don't be too upset.
. don't be too upset.1 person likes this
@jsloh1989 (181)
• Singapore
31 Oct 08
Sigh, I never knew how to say no although I very much wanted to say no to her. I would have followed her to the hospital which she claimed her "husband" had been hospitalized but I didn't had the time. Not only did she cheat my money, she caused me to be late for my internship.
She provided me with her identification card with her address on it but the thing is that she ran away from home and is still on the run. Sigh. Those money are actually for my school fees. If my parents ever find out, I am going to get hell from them.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
3 Nov 08
You just have to look at this situation from another side to make youself feel better...say that the woman really did need help, and you blew her off. That would make you SO much worse than being "gullible." In some situations (like this one) it's hard to say no to people. It was very nice what you did to help the woman, even though she didn't honestly need it. But you just have to keep thinking of a time when you will help someone who really needs it, and how thankful they will be! Believe me, that will make you feel really good!
@jsloh1989 (181)
• Singapore
3 Nov 08
SIGH, but I am in need of the cash as well. Those are actually for my school fees, if my parents find out, I am sure going to get hell from them. Well, in Singapore, there are quite a lot of scammers, so it's hard to really find out who is really in need.
@cookieweber (316)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
i'm sorry to hear that...this thing happens a lot this time of the year...i hate it, but i think i'd prefer this over being held up or anything like that...at least they ask you for your money and did not get it from you forcefully, regardless of their pitiful sob stories being real or not...you did a good deed...that's what matters...karma happens you know...good and bad, might as well expect the good to come your way, right?
@jsloh1989 (181)
• Singapore
22 Nov 08
Yeap, true, Karma and retributions may really exist. It happened for about a month or so already, maybe the pinch of the money being gone isn't that strong now. I don't know, I mean, yea, I do need those money badly, and it sucks to be cheated, but that woman is an ex-convict who ran away from home (From what I know... From the police). Well, I do feel sad for her, but I feel sadder for those being cheated, especially those who are not financially independent (like me).
