I want to go out but.....

i actually make it a point that i clean the house first before i leave. although my mom-in-law dont really bother at all. sometimes she's even the one pushing me to go out and have fun. she thinks i work too much

I am a drop and go kind of gal. Dirty dishes makes this a little harder to think about.... I don't like to come home to dirty dishes, so I'm sure I would have to at leat rinse them in the sink before leaving . But to me, life is too short and meant to be lived...... the laundry will be there when I return. I confess to a timeframe when I was in my 20s and 30s that my answer to this discussion would have been very, very different. Perfectionism ruled my life and I would have had a fleeting thought about what if someone came to my place and saw it like this before I could return fix it. But age, maturity, and the birth of my precious son has made me into a believer that life is all about the living. I would never want my son to miss experiencing something because I had laundry to finish.

My mom is a drop and go type but I am a little of both if it is something like dishes,sweeping or mopping then I will finish it but something like dusting,laundry, wall cleaning or outside chores then, I will be okay with leaving it and going back to it later. Nothing worse then leaving a sink of dirty dishes to have to do when you get home it kinda takes the joy out of coming home happy.

Hi p1kef1sh, I'm similar to your late mother in law, in this respect. As it is, I'm often quite housebound, so if the sudden opportunity to get out presents itself, I take it. I'm not nearly as spontaneous as I used to be though, for various reasons, and do prefer to plan in advance these days. If I waited for things to be perfect before I leave my house, I'd never go anywhere. I think the saying, "We have to take time to stop and smell the roses," applies in this situation. Life really is too short not to do so. Take care.

Sadly I am a drop em and go person. This is especially bad in the summer because it seems there are never enough hours in the day to have all the fun and get all the work done. I recall being up until 2 AM folding laundry because I decided spur of the moment to go swimming all day at the lake. Not to mention being too tired from all the fun that was had to worry about doing dishes. LOL But eventually all my chores will get done...I'll start on them right after I'm done online :)

I am a bit of an inbetweeny LOL. I don't mind if there is still stuff to do but I can't leave dirty dishes so they would have to be done before I went off anywhere or at least hidden in the dishwasher (very rarely use) so when I came back home there was a mess waiting for me. I cannot stand an unmade bed and make as I get up and out of it but there is always clutter which I can live with around the computer station. Huggles. Ellie :D

I don't often leave the dishes, because I hate to come back to them. I wash up as I use, so that the dishes don't pile up. However, although I won't confess to "dropping them and going", lol, I have to admit that I'm not averse to leaving other chores, like vacuuming and ironing etc, to go out and enjoy myself. I hate being indoors all the time. I like to be out exploring nature and the history of our countryside. Brightest Blessings, my friend.

i pikey my mom was like that too, so when I would take my two kids who were like 2 and3 for a walk in the little wagon my mom would have a fit because I hadnt swept the kitchen floor ,did all the dishes, and emptied the washer. Instead it was a gorgeous morning and the kids and I needed the exercise. I knew I could finish my chores when i got back. sometimes I would take the two in the stroller then let Robbie the oldest one get out and walk for awhile. they enjoyed this and I did too.there was only one negro family living in our vicinity. my son had never seen a negro so he saw this negro man working in his yard. Before I could stop robbie he had darted up to this man, said Hi, and licked his finger then brushed it on the man's forearm. Then he said, oh my it doesnt come off. I was so embarrassed and apologized all ovet the place. the man was so gracious and just laughed and said, no son it doesnt wash off. I told the poor guy that my son had never met a negro person before. He told me not to be upset about it, that he understood, and that my son was a very bright little fellow.Several times when we returned from our walk, my mom and sister would be at my house waiting for me. My mom had her own key to my house, and she had done the dishes, folded the laundry and sept my kitchen floor. talk about a stickler for work, my mom was it.

Hi p1kef1sh I am like your mother. I prefer to finish my chores I don't want to go and enjoyed myself only to go back home to a whole heap of work that was unfinished. So I think that it is advisable to follow your mother footsteps. Can you imagine go clubbing and come home to see the bed unmade the dirty dishes in the machine all that enjoyment just fade away so quickly you wonder if you really went out. What a sight you would go back home to see

Hi p1key, I don't go out very often but when I do I like to do first like washing up or vcumming before I got out so I don't have to come back to a mess. Once I had to go to my sister's for a day and I couldn't bothered to wash up the breakfast dishes and went out, we didn't get back till one in the morning and the dirtyu dishes wairting for me in the sink, I was too tired to do and left them. The next morning I had a headache and there I was washing up the dry sticky dishes, so that is why i have to do them before I go out. Hugs. Tamara

Oh, I really hate to admit this, but I will leave things to go do what I want to do. When the kids were younger, I would make sure that most everything was done before we could go out. I wanted them to understand that these things had to be done, and I KNEW that if I gave in and let them go to McDonald's before we got chores done, that they were not going to get done when we got back home, no matter how much they promised to do them later if they could just go now. I did learn, over the years that the laundry is still going to be there when I get back, the dishes are still going to be there waiting, and the vacuum cleaner will still be waiting to be used. It is just easier if I can do them in the mornings, and be done with it. Then I have the rest of the day to do whatever I want to do. But, there are times when I leave them for later in the day.

Nothing against your mum, but I like your Mother-in-Law's style. My Mom was one of those who had to finish cleaning up. Now her granddaughter remembers her as one who stayed in the kitchen ALL the time. My Mom would be devastated at that description. She wanted to be remembered as the kind, sweet old grandmother!!! I believe in spending time with your family first. One thing for sure is the mess is going nowhere. It will wait until you get back home!!!

More often than not, I am the type to make sure things I have to do are done before I even think about doing things I want to do. I prefer to have my house clean before I even go grocery shopping. This habit of mine annoys my husband who thinks I am a perfectionist. He is always telling me that things can wait. What he doesn't quite understand is that things ahve to be in order for me to enjoy myself.

I am a chore finisher. I always have to finish things before I go out. I think I am probably being too fussy and I envy the ones that just do not seen to care about chores, but if I do not finish things it eats at me. Even when I am out, I would be thinking about the pot I did not wash. I just hate going back home to a mess 'as I would call it'. When my work is complete, I can happily go out, or sit down and enjoy myself as I am not worrying that something needs to be done.

oh, i drop everything and go if the opportunity arises. My mother was like your mother. Having the house spotless and everything done was a big priority for her. If a friend called and she was in the midst of a big cleaning project or if the house wasn't quite right...she'd make excuses as to why she could not have company. The way I see it...the work will be there waiting when I come back...no little elves in my house. housework is always there and it never ends and never goes away. I never want to get old and think that I missed a moment of fun because I opted to stay home and clean...memories are everything.

I wish I was more of a drop 'em and go kind of person sometimes, but I know I'm not. I AM getting better at being more impulsive with going out and doing things, but it's taken a LOT of work. I have mental issues. I admit it. And they tend to be fear based. I am still not quite sure what I am afraid of, other than change in general. For minor things, I'm alright. For example, I'm sitting here at home tonight, watching some tv (and old "Quantum Leap" rerun lol), and typing on mylot... and my kitchen sink is full of dishes. Those dishes will stay there until tomorrow after the kids are in school. They can be done then. No big deal. I can still relax and enjoy myself, and I certainly won't lose any sleep over them. lol.

I make most of my appointments for afternoon time because that's a good time for me I reserve my mornings for coffee, chores, homeschooling my son, and then maybe some tv watching. If there is an emergency happening then I will leave everything and go to it. Like the other morning my oldest son called me at 7 30am to tell me he was in the ER and having chest pains. Well that got me going I rushed outta here like a cat with his tail on fire. All worked out well it was the beginnings of an ulcer and the Dr gave him some pain meds an antibiotics. But normally I do my chores first before I go it's very nice to come home to a clean kitchen.

Hi pikey! I am a drop 'em and go! If I get a chance to go and do something I'm gone! Whatever chore I have to do can just wait! When I was working I used to be a bit more strict with my schedule. At least with the laundry. That had to be done on the weekend. But now I will do whatever running around I can because I know that soon the weather will be getting really cold and maybe snowy and icy and then I won't be going anywhere so I might as well go while I still can!

I feel so much better after i come back home and it is to a clean house. i can really relax and just go to sleep.

I'm a chore finisher because I wouldn't be able to enjoy wherever it is I'm going thinking that I left some chores undone. And, wouldn't it be great coming home to a clean house? Wouldn't it spoil your day going home with dishes unwashed? The trick is, do what you can everytime you have a chance so that when something comes up, you'll be ready to go in a moment's notice. No guilt and pure fun.