I Need Your Opinion - What Would You Do?

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As well as my update that I promised you a few days ago but I've gotten side tracked (what's new?!) but here it is. As most of you know, my nephew is renting my parents old house. The one he wanted to buy but his newly married wife left him not even two months after the wedding so now he can't afford to buy the house. Hell, he's having a terrible time paying the rent but feels obligated to stay so that my parents can pay the mortgage payment until it sells. Majority of the time my brother, my nephew's dad helps him pay the rent but my nephew has to pay his dad back. (Gosh I wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of that bill! Whew!) Anyway, his SUV was repossessed back in Feb or March and his mother was the signer of the loan and my nephew co-signed. It should've been the other way around but it's not. Now the bank says she owes them $5,000. and it has to be paid by a certain time or she'll go to jail. Since the car belonged to my nephew, he's feeling really bad about the situation that he put his mother in and wants to help her out - as he should but can't stay in my parents house paying the rent and help her too because he doesn't make that much. He makes enough to pay the rent but nothing is left such as food, electric and heating oil that he needs so it's no wonder his dad helps him to pay the rent for he can stretch a dollar only so far. He's talking about moving out soon but hasn't said when. Mom talked to him yesterday (finally got him to call her back!) and he said he's going to stay for the month of November and doesn't know about December until that month comes up. And he told her that his cat had four more kittens (the father of these kittens are either the brother or the son) which are inbreds. She had them on the living room floor (carpet) and my nephew said he's tried to clean some of it up and will try to get the rest of it tomorrow when he has more time to work on it AND he said that when one of the male cats gets mad at him, it'll go and pee on something and that the house doesn't smell very good right now but he'll get it cleaned up. Now mom and dad say they may need to replace the carpet throughout the whole house. GREAT. Just what they need!! They're trying so hard to get rid of the house that they've come down on their asking price.... Waaaaay down but being the market is what it is, it's not selling just yet. Now there is this one girl who wants the place and is waiting for her settlement from a car wreck but it'll be another year before she gets that settlement so, waiting for her is out. About two weeks ago, my brother and I had a huge fallen out. He misunderstood me and then thought he could dominate me. Well guess what? He found out WRONG!! I'm not one to be dominated ANYMORE. I can talk to anyone all day long and still disagree with them but I will not tolerate being yelled at, ridiculed or mocked in any way shape or form and I let him know it. We're talking now but just barely however, I offered to go up to the house which is four hours away and paint the house and clean it from top to bottom so to better the chances of getting it sold quicker. My brother, my nephew's dad demanded that I not go to the house and paint while his son is still living there. Oh that ticked me off in a big way!! The reason is because I'm down here with our parents and I see them worry their heads off and I'm freaking out because with them being under such stress that could cause mom to have another stroke or dad to have another heart attack which will kill them. Mom is still recovering from the bad stroke she just had in April so to have another one especially so soon after the first is sure to be a killer for her and dad has had a few heart attacks already and the doctor has told him the next one will take him because he doesn't have much heart left. They're worried sick because they don't have the money to make the house payments if my nephew were to move out. If I painted the house, it'll have a better chance at selling.... quicker. Now because my brother and I had a fallen out, and he demanded that I not go up there to paint while his son is still living there, mom and dad don't want me to go up there for it might cause another fallen out between my brother and I if I do go. I mean, I'm wondering about my brother "What side are you on? Right or wrong?" His son is so irresponsible as hell and he's burned so many bridges that he's running out of bridges to burn now but why should I allow him to make my parents suffer more with the stress he's causing. Mom and dad know that they won't be able to sell the house with him in it because he lives in such a pigsty. So what would you do? A) Go up there anyway and paint the house and hope for the best? Hope for the best meaning, my brother won't cause a fuss and the house will get painted and hopefully sell quicker. Even when my nephew moves out and marks the place up with his moving, the paint job will be relatively new so I could go back and do some touch ups which wouldn't take long at all. OR B) Stay home and do the best I can in supporting mom and dad in their decision knowing full well I could help but didn't and watch them slowly kill themselves over the stress of it all.