Is she's a good friend?
By grace24
@grace24 (1050)
Philippines
October 29, 2008 4:39am CST
okay,,what if you have a friend that always showing that she have a really big problem when actually she doesnt have a big problem?And she always cry to have the symphaty of the other people..In my case I have a friend that is like that, she always acting like that and im tired of her. She is always emotional even in a small problem that have an easy solution. Ive noticed this kind of her attitude when the boy she likes is there. Whenever she have a problem I am helping her when she needs me but where is she when I really need her help?..She is with her other friends. She did nothing, but when she needs me im helping her even i know that she can solve her problem on her own. She always rely to the other people when doing something and cant even make it on her own. What should i do with her? she is one of my friends that ive known longer..and also i dont want to lose her because i value our friendship but she is keep on doing this..
4 responses
@missjasmine (97)
• India
8 Feb 09
I think u are victim of ur friend's attitude from quite a long time, right?
So one day u got fed up of this and took this topic in mylot for discussion. Hmmmm...personally wat i feel is grace, m sorry to say but ur friend is literally using u for her needs thats it. She dont have any great feeling of freindship for u, from the begining she is just using u for solving her problems even though she herself knows that she can solve that problem. She overacts for each and every thing though it is a small problem just because u should not deny her from ur help. This is all jus a trick of fooling u each time in the name of friendship. I agree that u consider ur friend as true friend and u respect ur friendship, but wat about her? have u ever felt that even she has the same feeling towards ur friendship that u are feeling? But buy taking into consideration wat u have told, i dont think so ur friend has any value for u or ur feelings for her friendhip. She is literally fooling u, she wil use u when she is absolutely in need of ur help and she wont even care about u when u r in need of her. What king of attitude is this? And how could u bear such an attitude all these days? If i was on ur place then i would have tolerated for few months but then one day would have bursted out and asked "why the hell u do like this with me?".
And one more thing i don understand grace, Why haven't u still broke her friendship? Is she the only friend u have? I don think so, u r such a sweet person(i felt personally from ur tolerance for ur friend), definetely u wil having more friends who are better than ur friend about whom i am discussing right now. Well you have two ways to go grace, either u talk to ur friend about ur problem, tell her that she is doing such and such things which is hurting u very much from past very long days, if she agrees her fault then u continue ur friendship with her or u straight away come out of this friendship. I am sorry to say once again, don let ur friend to use u for her needs.
@mindym (978)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Some people just like drama in their lives. I don't know why, but it must give them the attention they seek. I have a few dramatic friends...male and female. If it gets to be too overwhelming, I take a break from them...and I have done this before. I have my own stuff to deal with, I don't need a ton of extra drama added to my personal stuff.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 08
Just ignore her at once it should teaches her a lot, if she is really your friend than i think you should be emphatically , so she start to respect you as her valueable friend, make her know that she doesn't care about you when you need her ... it should open her eyes about you
@magnolia917 (112)
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30 Oct 08
Sounds like a drama queen to me. Don't know her background, but she seems to be a little dependent on someone else for her existence, which is pretty sad. Just tell her to shut up, get help, quick acting like a drama queen, and stop acting like a spoiled brat. I would have walked away a long time ago. She needs some self-confidence and, unfortunately, she can't get that anywhere but from herself.