Is she's a good friend?

@grace24 (1050)
Philippines
October 29, 2008 4:39am CST
okay,,what if you have a friend that always showing that she have a really big problem when actually she doesnt have a big problem?And she always cry to have the symphaty of the other people..In my case I have a friend that is like that, she always acting like that and im tired of her. She is always emotional even in a small problem that have an easy solution. Ive noticed this kind of her attitude when the boy she likes is there. Whenever she have a problem I am helping her when she needs me but where is she when I really need her help?..She is with her other friends. She did nothing, but when she needs me im helping her even i know that she can solve her problem on her own. She always rely to the other people when doing something and cant even make it on her own. What should i do with her? she is one of my friends that ive known longer..and also i dont want to lose her because i value our friendship but she is keep on doing this..
4 responses
• India
8 Feb 09
I think u are victim of ur friend's attitude from quite a long time, right? So one day u got fed up of this and took this topic in mylot for discussion. Hmmmm...personally wat i feel is grace, m sorry to say but ur friend is literally using u for her needs thats it. She dont have any great feeling of freindship for u, from the begining she is just using u for solving her problems even though she herself knows that she can solve that problem. She overacts for each and every thing though it is a small problem just because u should not deny her from ur help. This is all jus a trick of fooling u each time in the name of friendship. I agree that u consider ur friend as true friend and u respect ur friendship, but wat about her? have u ever felt that even she has the same feeling towards ur friendship that u are feeling? But buy taking into consideration wat u have told, i dont think so ur friend has any value for u or ur feelings for her friendhip. She is literally fooling u, she wil use u when she is absolutely in need of ur help and she wont even care about u when u r in need of her. What king of attitude is this? And how could u bear such an attitude all these days? If i was on ur place then i would have tolerated for few months but then one day would have bursted out and asked "why the hell u do like this with me?". And one more thing i don understand grace, Why haven't u still broke her friendship? Is she the only friend u have? I don think so, u r such a sweet person(i felt personally from ur tolerance for ur friend), definetely u wil having more friends who are better than ur friend about whom i am discussing right now. Well you have two ways to go grace, either u talk to ur friend about ur problem, tell her that she is doing such and such things which is hurting u very much from past very long days, if she agrees her fault then u continue ur friendship with her or u straight away come out of this friendship. I am sorry to say once again, don let ur friend to use u for her needs.
@mindym (978)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Some people just like drama in their lives. I don't know why, but it must give them the attention they seek. I have a few dramatic friends...male and female. If it gets to be too overwhelming, I take a break from them...and I have done this before. I have my own stuff to deal with, I don't need a ton of extra drama added to my personal stuff.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 08
Just ignore her at once it should teaches her a lot, if she is really your friend than i think you should be emphatically , so she start to respect you as her valueable friend, make her know that she doesn't care about you when you need her ... it should open her eyes about you
30 Oct 08
Sounds like a drama queen to me. Don't know her background, but she seems to be a little dependent on someone else for her existence, which is pretty sad. Just tell her to shut up, get help, quick acting like a drama queen, and stop acting like a spoiled brat. I would have walked away a long time ago. She needs some self-confidence and, unfortunately, she can't get that anywhere but from herself.