how to tell your friend about her husband's infedelity the 2nd time around?

You could try and speak to your friends husband and see what he says and what his intentions are.

I wouldnt. You know how its always a messangers fault at the end. She might forgive him and you'll end up an ugly ducklin for causing the trauma between them.

I think I would tell my friend if her husband is cheating on her after his asking for a second chance. I mean asking for a second chance means he would stop doing what he is doing. I think she needs to find someone who will love her and treat her the way she deserves to be treated.

Your friend's husband doesn't deserve your friend at all. It's not easy to give a person another chance after what he'd done, but you're friend still did it. Tell your friend the truth. She deserves a better life. It's going to take a lot of courage though. She don't deserve to put up with an insensitive, philandering husband, I might add. Tell her right away, enough is enough, she needs to know the truth. The husband should go so she can start a new life with their children, if they have.