Should I tell my ex that I'm seeing someone?

If you tell him yes, hes going to want to know who right? Yeah not a good idea to tell him anything by the way he's acting. He seems like he might try and start something.

As a guy I know I'd like to be told, so I recommed telling him If the guy can't show some backbone and grow a life outside of the relationship with you, feel free to curse him, his mother, clan and tribe, threaten to sue his a$$ if he bothers you, etc etc. Those are all fair game I think, since it's the guy's job to stfu and move on after being told it's over. However it's YOUR job to tell him that you are over him AND are seeing some, and there's no way in a million years you';d want anything to do with him. I know the mind games in your head might tell you otherwise, but from what I know, that's the easiest way for you to get him the hell out. It can be anything as an email or SMS message, if you don't feel like seeing him, but do tell him clearly, exactly whats going on. AFTER this operation, you can be considered free strangers, and if he ever whines your way again you can tell him in many colorful ways to go f*** himself :D Peace :)

No one can move on to bigger and better things if they are still clinging to an old relationship. This is for both of you. When it is over, it is over. Don't shoot yourself in the foot as far as the new relationship is concerned by thinking you can manage the old one too. Don't give the old lover false hope. It blocks his progress too. It is a kind of selfishness to hold on to what hasn't worked for you.

Stop talking to the guy. Didn't anyone ever tell you that there's no such thing as being friends with the recent ex? Sure you could be friends, but that would come after a few more years and when obviously BOTH of you are on your own path and no longer hoping for a reunion. The main reason why he's tailing you still is the fact that you still keep in touch with him. He still feels there's 'hope' because you're talking to him. The mere face that you still accept that he's there is making him feel that you still want him too. So, if I were you, you should stop all means of communication, tell him your busy if he keeps on bothering you, and it's a good idea at this time to be 'invisible' to him for a while. Like go out often, change your number if it's possible, or hang out with other friends and even take a vacation. He should understand the meaning of 'break up' if you are someone he couldn't reach anymore. About your question, should you tell him? No, you're right, it's none of his business. If you do tell him, it's like you're actually asking his permission which sums up to the assumption that you still consider him someone whom you need approval of, and I'm hoping you're not that, right? So there you go, cut all communication and remember, it's not time to be friends with your ex and maybe there's no good time for it either.

If he keeps bothering you can stuff it might be a good thing to tell him you are seeing someone else. If he asks for details you tell him it's none of his business because you are not a couple and he is making it too hard to even be friends. You might have to go as far as to change email/phone numbers/ and more. You should let him know that you are seeing someone else and remind him that he said he'd leave you alone when you started to see someone new.

Compromising situation, kinda touchy! Here's the deal, u tellm he might act out, u don't tellm he'll keep pursuing, u try n cutm off, he'll stalk u even more! Hmm, just takem out!!!! Nah, I'm kidding, jail wouldn't do any justice! Look, ur going to have to cut him off some how! Your life is none of his business, who ur seeing, what ur doing, whatever! Try to lay low, he'll get the picture! Taripre$

you dont need to see him if you dont want to.. not even from mercy to the guy.

Your ex sounds obssessed. If I were in your place, I would not tell him that you are seeing someone. You cannot really be sure what is in his mind at the moment and things can get really nasty if he decides to go after the guy that you are currently dating. The best thing to do right now is to stay as far away from your ex as possible.

You should tell him,if you will not then you are just giving him false hope that you could be together again and that will worsen the situation you are in. You should give him enough reason and cut him off, it will help him stand up and try leaving on his own. The truth really hurts but it will sets us free. Goodluck

stop communicating with him...change contact details if must...past is past...

i always tell my partners before that i will trust them and so they should also the same. i will them if i'm seeing or liking someone else. i will also tell them if someone is makin a move onto me. ive got no proble with. so that my partner won't wonder if one time he sees me with someone coincidentally which it seems to him that the guy is working on his way to get me or some kind of showing of. anyway, if i were, tell him so you won't have any trouble in the near future if in case you're turn between both of them.

Well if that's the case, if he is starting to freak you out, then don't hesitate to tell him bluntly. This is the only way to end heartbreaks, illusions, desperations, and other negative stuff about relationships. Be open, be true, be honest and be blunt. Its both for your own good.

Ultimately it's none of his business, but I would consider telling him if I were you. Sometimes hearing 'I'm seeing someone' can be the jolt that an ex needs to finally get it through his head that you two are over. Reality is that it may make matters worse for him, but better for you. I was in a 'we're still friends' situation with an ex and he was still very possessive towards me. I didn't want him around me anymore but hadn't quite figured out how to deal with it. One day he asked me outright if I was seeing someone and I said yes. Problem solved. I think it messed him up pretty bad, like he hadn't quite come to terms with the break up until that moment. But he left me alone and we were finally, officially, broken up.

I agree with everyone else that it's none of his business and you shouldn't tell him. I think you should stop replying to him and just totally cut him off. Maybe he'll then understand that you don't like him and it's over, no matter how he feels.

Even if you tell him, he sounds to me the sort that still won't take no for an answer. Nevertheless, you should tell him and, as you do, make it quite clear that you don't want to hear from him or have any attention from him again. If, after that, he appears not to understand your 'NO', you will need to warn him that you can and will take the matter further if necessary by getting legal protection from harassment. I know that might seem somewhat nasty, especially if you still have some kind feelings for him, but it is a threat that you owe it to yourself to make (whether or not you actually have to carry it out).

I agree with you on this. It's none of his darned business who you see outside your relationship with him. If it's over, it's over and he must accept that and move on with his life. You don't say how he's pestering you... whether it's by phone, physically or by letter, or whatever, but you need to get this sorted out! Tell him you have no intention of telling him what's happening in your love life, that you've moved on and you don't wish to turn back. Never mind staying his friend... drop him completely and spend time with your real friends. Then, if he's contacting you by phone, change your number(s), if by mail, throw away all letters/notes you know are from him without reading them. Distance yourself, in other words. If he persists after all this, you can take out a court injunction against his coming anywhere near you. I'd be very wary of this guy, as he sounds as though he could become a control-freak given half the chance, and you DON'T want to go there. Mental abuse is the pits! Brightest Blessings, my friend. Be happy and move on.

Well if you know its over between the two of you let it be plain to him, if you are seeing someone you have a right to your decisions if you tell good so he keep off and its strictly your business till february (no extension) did he tell you he is seeing some one? I guess No, so just distance yourself and face the person you are seeing.

Honestly, I wouldn't tell him. You may put yourself or your new b/f into danger. The old "if I can't have you, no one can" thing comes to mind. As for being afraid of him, I'd contact the local police station and look at getting a restraining order...after 5 months he isn't moving on but sounds like he's holding on even tighter. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]

Well he's your ex, it is not his business what you do or who you date, if your not friends and he keeps bothering you, you need to tell him that he needs to leave you alone, hes starting to creep you out, be up front with him make yourself the bigger person, it's your mind you need to make up if you want to tell him your seeing some one or not, if your afraid of being hurt tell him your going to put a restraining order on him if he keeps bugging you.That usually scares them off.

Yeah it is none of his business. Who would want to go back with an ex. It doesn't work. Been there. Sounds like a creepy stalker.