Is it harder to be alone or with someone?

Different people may have different ideas on the problem. Some people ar customed by accompanied by others, so if yo let them stay alone, they will feel uncomfortable. To them, it is really hard to keep a single life. While to the independent person, he/she likes to make decisions by him/herself, with someone may make him/her feel losing freedom. To me, I like my single life now.

I'm in the middle here actually. I love being married and having Hubby here to talk to and spend time with but there are also times when I like having peace and quiet and just me time. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]

It would be harder for me to be with someone.I like doing things my own way and if he didn't agree, there would be a huge fight. but unlike you and your love, I don't think there would be a making up period.

hello big_paparoch, Definitely, it is much harder to be alone than with someone. Being alone and by yourself with all your life is meaningless for me for you have nobody to share with. It is so tiring, boring and lonely. Nobody will take care of you if you are sick, nobody to share your laughters, problems, food and not tp mention your treasures. Seems like it will take forever to let a day pass for nobody to talk to. Unlike with someone else, indeed there is a lot of adjustments but it's really worth. Life is more meaningful and worth living for.

It's hard to be alone, that's for sure. When you are sick, no one will take care of you. If you have a partner in life, you won't be alone and lonely. Arguments between the partner is normal, every relationship pass that. But what importsnt is you do love each other and you will know that someone truly ars for you who will be with you even when you're old.

for me its better to be with somebody than alone, but we should maintain some distance coz each & every person has his own life & privacy. a little distance keeps u and ur partner happy and realize how important u r to each other

I happen to agree with you. My gf has said after her divorce she was worried, but after a couple of days she thought this is great. One thing about being single, you can do whatever you want whenever you want. I go to ballgames and concerts alone and even though it's a little more fun going with someone, I can stay as long as I want or leave whenever I want. But I feel I could not live without her.

I think it is much harder to be with someone. It takes work to be with someone but when you are alone you only have yourself to answer to most of the time and it is much easier than having someone else that you have to plan around. You don't have to plan finances together, you don't have to plan meals together, you don't have to figure out what you are going to do when you both have a day off. It is so much easier just to go out the door or just sit there and do exactly what you want to do when you want to. I have been in 3 different relationships and never really had ANYONE who took care of me, so I guess I haven't had that experience and have found it is easier to just have myself to take care of.

I think both has its ups and downs...but I would definitely choose being with someone and going through the tough times then just being alone.

Sometimes I would like to be alone, but in the end I don't think I could handle it. I've never been alone, and I've been with my husband for over 7 years now. I like having someone to share my news with. When something good happens, the first thing I want to do is tell him. When something bad happens I want to go to him for comfort and support. When I'm bored I want to be with him, when I'm busy I want to involve him. He's in every aspect of my life. I couldn't imagine not having him to share these things with. He makes my life easier, secure, more fun, and more stable. yeah, fights happen, and they're awful, but it's good and healthy to let off that steam. It's also good to have someone to vent to at the end of the day, someone you can tell every imtimate detail to. Even your very best friend doesn't want to hear if you're having problems with a BM, but you can share that with your spouse!

For me personally I would find it harder to be with someone! I have been living alone now for a long time and I definitely prefer it this way. I have my freedom and I am able to do whatever I want to do. There's obviously the advantage to having someone around in that, you have someone waiting for you after you have finished your day's work! I prefer the single life though, I have definitely found my niche! If my situation was suddenly to change, then I would find this very difficult I think. I'm not too worried about what happens when I get old. I will cross that bridge when I come to it! Andrew

there are pros and cons on being along and being with someone else, when you are with someone else you have to of course know how he is, attend to his needs and wants and be sensitive of him and when you are alone sure it is fun, you get to go wherever you want to go, do what you want to do but there are moments that you will look for somebody else and feel the need of someone. We are born to be with someone!

it's much harder if you're with someone and yet you're not really happy being with that person anymore. What's worse is when you still be with that person coz you try to work things out and yet you can't seem to be appreciated nor being reciprocated at all.

what you said is about the relationship between boys and girls,i think if you and your friend stay together for a long time ,you are familiar with each other ,and the antinomy may come out ,so it is not the problem of tegether and along,it is the space to give each other

It's hard for me to be with someone. I can't seem to trust and I hate intimacy.. I'm feeling good alone. I can do all the things I like without anyone controlling me or telling me what I should do or shouldn't do.. Anyway, I am not exactly alone. I have my family and friends. They are better supporters than a boyfriend. I'm an independent person and do not need anyone to do things for me. Perhaps that's why I'm someone who can survive very well 'alone'.

I live alone and find that the peace and some times lonely time is better then being with someone who will not grow with you or try to rule you with hands of steel. To find that life can be a gift more valued then i ever knew is worth the time spent alone.

you know.. i am living a lonely life from my childhood itself. actually i am a fun loving guy. i like to have many true friends with me always. but to my luck i am cheated many times by many ways by all types of relations. seeing this i prefer a lonely life itself than being heart breaking by the person who we thought as our dear ones itself. i still stay loner after recent cheating from two persons whom i worshiped as my own sister. World has been changed much!

hello my fellow myLotter, as for me i would have to agree with you because i don't like to be alone. laying in the bed by yourself, no one to hold or kiss. i don't like that feeling. so for me it is harder to be alone. happy posting!

i dont know.. it is same hard to be alone and with someone.. wait,, with someone mean GF or BF right??? if alone,, i cant get care like if i with my GF,, it hard,, i fell lonley,, and another felling that i cant get from my GF.. but if i have GF,, that will seize many my time.. to type short message to her,, to think about her,, to think what she doing right now,, to think about date,, to prepare my heart if sometime we have trouble or maybe prepare to broken heart too.. huft.. all of it have a risk and profit.. i cant choose......... T.T

I think its not easy to stick out all alone without being in a relationship. I think naturally human beings need to be in relationships in order to cope with daily life difficulties.