how to make new friends
By onlydia
@onlydia (2808)
United States
October 30, 2008 5:36am CST
Ok I don't drink so I don't go to the bar's and I really don't go anywhere anymore as the people I work with drink and the only place they want to go is the bar. I hate going out alone. But was thinking maybe go somewhere. But here where do you go if you don't drink and don't like the bars? Can you all come up with something for me. As I'm lost on this and I'm sick of sitting in the house with me. You know I like me and all but I really need to get out. HELP GIVE ME IDEA'S
Thank you
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19 responses
@fluffysue (1482)
• United States
30 Oct 08
You could look for a meetup group in your area. There are groups for any interest you can think of. For example, I belong to a boardgame one, I don't participate in it often, but I know that there are people I can go play games with twice a week if I wanted to. There are more general ones too. The best way to find one is to go to meetup.com and check out what is in your area, and browse through them to find one that interests you.
Hope that helps.
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@soyporteno (406)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Hmmm, I really don't know onlydia. I make all of my friends through my wife. For the most part she makes friends at work. But all of them don't all drink either. Sometimes they do, sometimes we all meet up for happy hour. But sometimes the friends that she and I have made (through her) will go out and have dinner together. Sure, we will have a few drinks at dinner, but it is optional - you don't have to have a drink, only if you want one.
I hope that helps in some way. Maybe you can take a class or something and meet people that way.
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Yes, Drinking is a optional as well, but they seem to drink way to much and I just don't really like the fact that they drink and then drive. I just tell them no now as if I ask do you want to go and get a bite to eat after work? They are like no we are going to the bar to drink. You want to go and bring us home. Yeah no. They really get loud and kind of mean. So yeah there are a few people I know that I will go out to dinner with and they can drink and they are fine but they only have one drink. Meeting people is getting harder the older I get.But thank you for the addvise. YOur friend onlydia
@schulzie (4061)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Well, I never have alone time myself. I am married with 4 children who all vie for my attention. I would love some alone time. You could maybe join a church group and meet people there. Or, you could maybe take 1 class at a community college and you will probably meet some people there. Or maybe take up a craft class at a pottery place or something like that. It is hard to think of things. Oh, if you like reading maybe a book of the month club where everyone discusses what new books are out there and what they like or dislike about them.
I really don't know of any other ideas, sorry. I seem to be the center of attention in my situation.
Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!!
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Why thank you very much. I'm going to give the craft one some thought. I really enjoy the time I get on line at the game site as you know but it's just not the same anymore. I need to be able to see and talk to a person. My son 18 now and I hardly ever see him. I'm going though no child thing. Have a wonderful day and a great night with the kids. Happy trick or treat. your friend onlydia
@aphroditely (53)
• China
31 Oct 08
Good day! For me, I don't like to go to the bar alone and don't like drink and don't like to talk to somebody I dont know
Generally, I will go out with my current friends and they will take their friends; and then, I could know more new friends like this way; perhaps, it is an old way to know friends, but I like it
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Yes that is how I have alway's done it. But have run out of friends. As working second shift and the other friend have moved on without me. As I couldn't meet during the week anymore. So now I'm not invited at all. My one friend she is really busy but we do manage to get to see each other about once very two months or less. But I'm still working on that as well. Have a nice day. Onlydia
@sandymay16 (1617)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
Hi, I make new friends through internet or through texting
Even if I don't get to see them I still consider them as friends when we communicate with each other regularly. Who knows we might see each other personally after some time.
I also make friends in organizations or clubs.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Yes I love my internet friends as some of us have known one another for a very long time. But I want to get off comp. and go out into the world and laugh and cry with my friends. And right now I can't as they have moved on as well, as me. I want to go out and enjoy the town see things. To hear people talk and laugh. A club sounds like it mite be fun. Like what kind of clubs? Have a wonderful day. and thank you very much.
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@leopard2008 (23)
• China
31 Oct 08
i like making friends.it's a enjoyable process.and i have made friends under the introduction of my friends.the figure gradually grows .making a friend is easier,making a nice friend is really tough.internet,clubs or giant action are both good places.good luck to you!
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
30 Oct 08
It depends on what your interested in. There's church groups, youth groups, quilting groups, reading groups, all different things that you can get into. Our town has a group of ladies that get together once or twice a month that make things to give to low income families at Christmastime. Ask around and you'll be amazed at what you find.
[b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~
**AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Well we are in the same boat....I don't drink either.....so it's a struggle to find some where to be where there isn't the drinking...I have also joined a few organizations...but with my schedule they take too much time...I used to bowl and golf but my legs don't like all the stress anymore....and I have taken classes a while back and I am thinking of doing that again....I did meet some people there....I know you work nights too so it's even harder for you! Hope you can find a place to meet some people!
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Yes it is difficult to just up and meet people. There are times I'm really good at it. But then I say something really stupid. Or I cuss. I try not to . But it is hard for me I don't know why but it is. I try to go to this little diner by my house on the weekends it is so nice. But I want you to have a nice day and talk to you later. Your friend onlydia
@sudhajosyula50 (3808)
• India
30 Oct 08
Hi friend,
I make friends through yahoo messenger or through groups.In that way i make new friends.Some times i will look after my slam books to see the email id and add them in my messenger.In that way i try to communicate with others
Have a nice day
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Hi yes I do that already. I just want to go out and have lunch or go do something with friends. Not online nothing against people on line they have been there for me. And I really enjoy my online friends. I hope you have a great day/night. and thank you for the idea's. Onlydia
@PRIYANK1992 (1677)
• India
1 Nov 08
I don't think so that to make friends is easy.It's a difficult act really.
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@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
31 Oct 08
I do drink, but I don't go to bars. It's not my style.
I meet some new people in the coffee shop in the center of the mall. That's one of the English speakers hang outs. Small town. If I see a friend/s there I join her/ them. Other people do the same. I meet friends of friends.
I've also met many new people by joining groups, clubs, and taking classes. I'm with 2 volunteer groups right now. I've been with several others. I'm helping my community and meeting people at the same time.
I've also taken classes at the community center. I'm not taking any right now, but I will again. I have several good real friends from classes. Not just acquaintances.
I meet people walking my dog and when they are walking theirs. Don't get a dog just to meet people. Dogs are a huge responsibility, a lot of hard work, and a lifetime commitment (15-20 years). But if you have a dog people are likely to want to talk with you just because you are with a dog.
If you get busy and do things, help your community, you will meet people. You won't be sitting in the house.
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Oh no I had a dog once. And I live in a city so no I won't have a dog again. Walking a dog in the winter was no fun. Doing the give a ride to vote. If people need a ride to go vote I'm going to give them rides. Thank you for all the idea's. Have a wonderful day.
@Carpathian (582)
• United States
1 Nov 08
If you like comdey then you should check out JeffDunham.com you will like him. We are going to see him for Christmas. And, the kids love him too. He is cool. Check out on of his video's if you like him go see him he is on tour. Also, the big mexican guy in the Hawiian Shirt. I can't remember his name but you can ask someone who knows comdians.
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@Carpathian (582)
• United States
30 Oct 08
I understand how you feel. But, the only thing I can think of is to look in the local paper and see where people are gathering at in places you like. For example, fair, circus in town or ball game. Just go out to different things. Try everything at lease once. Even car shows or mud runs! You can meet some of the nicest people in the most unusual places. I met a nice lady who's grandson was in a mud run. His truck had to go across the big pit of mud and it was fun to watch them all get stuck. I had a great time. By the end of the night the grandma had interduced me to some really nice people. I have four new friends.
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@successlink (6)
• China
31 Oct 08
I really want to heip you ,but I am staying in China, please be happy my remote dear!
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@23uday (2997)
• India
31 Oct 08
Hi buddies,,,
We can make a new frnds.Once when i was gone to my frnd sisters marriage their
i met a frnd,he was a my frnd frnd. He became a my frnd and talking nicely and in
frndly nature.I met a new frnd,he was good person to me.Some times we can get a good frnd for us.
@alleroid16 (943)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
i make new friends by talking, chatting, texting them. i also want meeting new friends, but sometimes, i'm also having hard time to get along with their attitudes, so just be it. just be cheerful to them, go out with them, and have some funs with them.
@broery2081 (160)
• Indonesia
31 Oct 08
hey, i'm sorry to say this but you kinda look geeky, maybe going to a library will best suit you, as you know there are alot geek in the room to fill up even St Peters.
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
13 May 16
for making new friends get more involed with like a church group or something in the community
what your hobby see if there a club that is your hobby
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