Delete Me...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
October 30, 2008 9:31pm CST
This is a little bit of a vent so bear with me. I’ve seen a lot of discussions, too many to count, lately about responding and replying. There are some ppl that get deeply offended if you don’t reply to their every response and they also get deeply upset if you don’t respond to every discussion they put out. Some ppl get so upset they send you rude messages telling you they are deleting you as a friend b/c basically you don’t pay them enough attention.
To those ppl I say DELETE ME. I am here to have fun, respond to what I want, reply to what I want, talk about what I want and think, say and feel what I want. If your looking to me to fill some need for attention, your looking to the wrong person. Don’t get me wrong, I love having friends here and I do respond to discussions (my activity on my profile page shows that) and I reply to ppl when I feel there’s a need to but I’m not having anyone dictate to me what I have to do on MyLot. If ppl are offended they can either delete me as a friend or they can just accept me as I am.
I am not singling out any one person but I have seen alot of this type of thing lately and I think it's time it was addressed.
Have you ever gotten told off for not paying enough attention to another member? Have you had ppl offended b/c you didn’t pay them enough personal attention? Why would you think that anyone HAS to reply to your responses or HAS to respond to your discussions?
[b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~
**AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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79 responses
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
31 Oct 08
You are right in what you're saying twoey. I try to respond to everyone on my discussion even if it takes me some days. There are times when no response is really required. If someone complained about me, I would say the same as you and I might add GET A LIFE to the end... That's a double woot!
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I am really thinking of adding a text box to my profile just to put this so that those ppl that are requesting a friendship or those that I've sent a request to know right up front that this is how I am. I have spent just about all day here today responding to posts but with so many it's hard to get to everyone. If ppl can't understand that, that's not my problem. I could see if I only had 2-3 friends on here or if there was only like 20 discussions a day but there are literally hundreds.
Besides there may be discussions that I'm not interested in...I'm not responding to one just b/c it's a friends unless I have something to say.
Sorry, just blowing off steam.
[b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~
**AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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@redkathy (3374)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Better to blow off that steam than hold it in.... you risk exploding! People need to grow up. Don't let them get to you. Look at it as you have "friends" here and then the other people. Delete all the ones that caused you such aggravation.
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@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Besides all of that, I was looking for something I wanted to respond to, so I could go to bed. I have been online almost all day and my inbox cannot even tell it. Between this site and Gather the messages come in faster than I can keep up with, so those who are unhappy with that can delete me, too. Or we can delete them first.
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Twoey, the problem is that they have too much time on their hands. I have not had anyone complain to me about not paying them enough attention on Mylot. Maybe it is not MY attention they want. Some people, once you become their Mylot friend, may think they own you. I have had this in other situations. I do the best I can do. Mylot is not my ENTIRE life. Delete me is the ideal way to handle people who do not understand that.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Well, as hard as it is for some ppl to realize I do have other things in my life other than just MyLot...geez, I have hundreds of discussions in my email and just try to get through 50 or so a day.
I'm not complaining though b/c I like having the variety but for anyone to get mad b/c your not responding to theirs or replying to their responses is unrealistic. I start discussions and not everyone responds...it's not a big deal. I post responses and not everyone replies...it's not a big deal.
I just think more ppl need to work on responding and not so much on who's doing what or how often.
[b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~
**AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I agree. That is time they could be putting into making more discussions.
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I'm with ya! I ONLY respond if I feel like it.
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
31 Oct 08
If I have ever gotten told off it was not to me directly. I have not had any private messages sent to me or any type of message telling me I don't pay them enough attention. I am the say way, I don't respond to all discussions that I get and I don't expect everyone to respond if or when I start a discussion.
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@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
31 Oct 08
twoey, I am with you 100% on this. I probably have offended some by not paying them enough attention but I havent been told that. good luck and happy posting.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Oct 08
hi twoey I have f elt bad when I read some discussions bawling us out for not answering our responses to our discussions. I do try my best but latley I have been getting a lot of responses and I have been rather busy getting ready to move on this Saturday Nov 1st. I feel that my family comes first then mylot and I had to help wherever I could. I know afterr we get moved I will have time to reply to everyone but right now i just cannot. I can only hope my friends here will forgive me. I will be off line this weekend.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Personally, it's no big deal with me. If your busy, your busy. I hope you get moved allright and when your back on then I'll be seeing your discussions again. No one should feel bad or sorry or feel they need to be forgiven, afterall it's just a site...it's not like your missing your grandchilds first birthday.
[b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~
**AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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@gewcew23 (8007)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Do not worry about me because I do the same thing. I do not have time to respond to every discussion or leave comments to those that have responded to my discussions. I wish I could and some days when I do not have a lot on my table I will try to respond to everyone. I do not get offended when someone does not respond to my discussions or respond to my comments. Anyway sometime you have to step away from MyLot anyway.
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@amanda333 (739)
• France
1 Nov 08
Hi twoey68, I'm with you, sometimes i don't have time to answer all discussions and only respond to discussions that interest me, don't let it worry you, if you loose a few daft friends along the way, well there are lots more friends still here
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
3 Nov 08
I have never came across this or seen this type of post. But I am like you. I post what I want and when I want. there are times I do not have enough hours in the day to post as much as i would like. I always make pay out each month. So, that lone says I do alot of posting. I also comment on my friends discussions way more than I create them. It is not that I don't have any discussions to start. It is the time to post them all and respond to each one. I do and try and respond to each comment left on my stuff. But with everything else. Something it is hard to come up with 30 different answers to the same thing. I do not post the same comment over and over. i also do not say thank you to each comment some leaves me. As that in its self is against MyLots guidelines. I will say thou..I may not l;eave a response to every comment made on my discussions. But I do rate each one. I don't rate by what you write or opinion. But if it follows MyLot guidelines. If it voilates I give a "-". If it follows the guidleines on MyLot I give it a "+".
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
1 Nov 08
I don't remember if anyone does but if they do I would delete them
I was away from mylot for 4 months or so and since my return to mylot in July only one friend or two replied to my discussions since then
I didn't make a big fuss about it I still replied to discussions my friends started if they are interesting
so if anyone on my friends list complain I never reply to them I would rather end the friendship
I really can't stand unfairness, and I won't bow down to it even if my life is at stake
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I don't get offended and hope noone else does if I don't respond or anything. I wouldn't of accepted your friendship if I didn't like your discussions or you, twoey. 
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
31 Oct 08
This has only happened to me once in my time here, and that person wasn't rude really. They just asked if I had my notifications turned on for them, because I hadn't responded to any of their discussions in a while. I told them that yes I turn all notifications on, but I only answer the discussions that interest me and that I feel that I can make a true contribution to.
The best way to make money, have fun, and get more information in MyLot is to stick to the discussions that you have the most interest in. No one is going to have something of value to say to every discussion a friend may have, no matter how many of the same interests they have in common. I'm not a post counter, I'm not going to post to every discussion just to have my ratings rise or put more money in my pocket. This is what angers me in MyLot, responses that could have been kept to the owner. I don't want anyone saying that about me, so I will skip a discussion in a heartbeat, no matter who started it. If I don't have anything to say about it, I won't try to create any.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Well, I used to think that the point in having "friends" (which are really contacts, I guess) is that everyone replied to everyone else's stuff. But here lately, I've got 300 emails in my box and I realize that my expectations of how things work is unrealistic. We would all be doing nothing 24/7 other than sitting at our computer and typing out replies and discussions!
Have you been deleted by anyone? How would you know? Rest assured, I find your discussions interesting enough to reply to all of them that I can!
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@Carpathian (582)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I would think that anyone who got onto this site would know that a discussion site is where you pick topics that you are interested in and make a response. It is not a your my friend and I will be at you becking call site. I think if that is what you want or need then you need to get more real friends in person.
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@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
7 Apr 09
One thing that I have learned in life is that you will never please everybody regardless of what you say or do. Many people are just too thin skinned, they get mad at very small things. I just try to say what I think is right and to do what I think is right. This does not always make me very popular with a lot of people (especially those people who believe in abortion), but I want to do my best to be a good Christian.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I so totally agree with a lot of what you have said. I don't try to respond to everything that is posted. I can't. I don't have that much time available to me. If this causes an emotional problem for someone, then they should handle the situation as they see fit. So far, I have never had anyone send mean messages to me. If they did, I would report it. I have also seen several of these types of discussions. After two years, I ignore those discussions.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
I do appreciate people who respond to my discussions, and similarly to those who posted their discussions who really find the time to read and reply to my comments. But I'm not expecting that it'll be all of my comments they'd read. There are a lot of those who just don't have the time anymore and the discussions are too full that they couldn't manage regardless what they do.
But if someone did that to me (The being rude and angry if I don't reply to their discussion or threatening to delete me) [/i]Which actually never happened to me, that's why I'm kinda shocked to know from you that these do happen.[i]Then I'd say "GO AHEAD! BE MY GUEST!".
I mean, if you are so sensitive that even here online you'd need the attention [/i]maybe because no one ever gives you that in the real world[i] then I don't have anything to say to you and I don't certainly need your name on my list either.
And you're right, this is a place to have fun with and not the time to be a crybaby when you don't always get what you want. True when you said that no one should be dictating anyhow what you do in mylot. It's every person for himself or herself.
Whew, the thought really made me raise a brow. Being rude for not answering his/her discussion. Whew! That's weird. Deleting as your friend since you don't give them enough attention!!! Whew!!!!
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I'm with you twoey. I understand your vent and yes it's valid. Mylot is suppose to be a fun site and a serious one too when needed but not to be taken as a job sort of thing. None of us gets paid enough to be on here that much and even if we were, it wouldn't be as fun. Like you, I don't have the time to be on here all day long responding to everybody's discussion that comes to my email box or I'd be here 24/7 and still get behind. Not only that, but I'm not interested in every subject either! So yeah, if you're hounded like that, I can see why you'd be upset.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Oct 08
I've had that a little bit on Yuwie, not so much here. But to people like that I say, "I'm a big girl, don't tell me how to behave." If you don't like the way I interact with you (or don't interact with you), feel free to delete me. I'm pretty sure I will still sleep at night!
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@msedge (4011)
• United States
7 Apr 09
So far, i haven't recieve any rude messages yet.I don't respond to all my friend's discussions.I only respond to a topic wherein i have something to share or relate to.I have a few responses to most of the discussions i had started but i don't really mind.Thats fine with me because i could understand if they have nothing to share with it.
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