how to recongnize a true friend?
By annjilena
@annjilena (5618)
United States
October 30, 2008 11:22pm CST
Proverbs 18:24 says, "A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother."
Over the course of our lives, we run into an untold amount of people. Some people boast of the number of friends they have, wearing the number like a prized badge on their clothing. But what is a friend really?
A friend isn't someone that we just put a name to a face and know a few details about. That's an acquaintance, someone that we know of, but we don't really know. It's important to clarify the difference in a friend and an acquaintance because the two are very different. To have an acquaintance turn into a friend would be wonderful. But to have a friend become only an acquaintance would be a heartbreaking loss.
So how do we know who is a friend? How do we recognize them? How does a friend stand out from the throng of people that call themselves our friend, but yet really have no clue as to what a friend really is?
Friends aren't clones of each other. They disagree on things. They don't always see eye to eye on issues. They might have different religious beliefs. They might be years apart in age or they might be the same age. They might come from totally different backgrounds or lifestyles. So what binds them together in such a way that they become friends
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Nov 08
thats nice but all you call your friend is not our friend some play the roll really well to point where it,s hard to identify them they are sheep in wolves clothing.some will stab you in your back so fast you don,t know what hit you.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
31 Oct 08
i understand that but how can you recognize a true friend somtimes it can be hard to identify a friend these days.having a friend has change in a lot ways these day.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Someting in our karma gets us there a friend is wone that comesto your house and makes their self to home , One that goes to jail with you not just visit.
cry with you and know why they are crying. freinds good ones just do any thing you do not for you . Hope ya know what I mean for its hard to put in words1
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
4 Nov 08
understand that but how can you recognize a true friend somtimes it can be hard to identify a friend these days.having a friend has change in a lot ways these day.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
3 Nov 08
a friend is someone being there for you sticking closer then a brother. good friend are hard to come by their are so many dishonest people all that say they are your friend is not your friend.we have a lot of backstabber and backbiting that goes on.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Nov 08
you will know if this person is your friend they will be there for you and be trust worthy and be there for you if you need them.i had a friend we been asscoiate for16 years we started talking again i had her a party here in my home she was the guess of honor and she did not show up and i invited her to 3 other gathering to meet my family she did not show up her excuse was her boyfriend was drunk all this was a excuse so i stop calling her i had 3 of her cd,s i took them back and told her how i feel and i left and told her i will never contact her again.she said don,t be like that you can,t befriend someone don,t want to be friends so i deleted her number out my phone iam done with trying to be her friend.
@shalli17here (627)
• Indonesia
1 Nov 08
recognize a true friend..i dont know how to describe how is a true frien but i can only feel it. but, i actually never sure if ive already became a true friend for my friend coz sometimes i failed them.
ive read a quote from one friend of mine in hi5 that sounds like this ehm.. "if u love somebody, let them go. if they return, they were always yours. if they dont, they never were." i think its work with friendship too, a true friend will always return no matter how hard the problem was.
and no need to claim or make a symbolic sign for them as ur true friend, u better feel and enjoy the friendship u have, n keep it alive as long as u can, if u could make it forever..therefore, u'll have a strong true friendship..=)
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Nov 08
you will know if this person is your friend they will be there for you and be trust worthy and be there for you if you need them.i had a friend we been asscoiate for16 years we started talking again i had her a party here in my home she was the guess of honor and she did not show up and i invited her to 3 other gathering to meet my family she did not show up her excuse was her boyfriend was drunk all this was a excuse so i stop calling her i had 3 of her cd,s i took them back and told her how i feel and i left and told her i will never contact her again.she said don,t be like that you can,t befriend someone don,t want to be friends so i deleted her number out my phone iam done with trying to be her friend.
@bluemoon4ever (288)
• South Africa
31 Oct 08
ehh, this is also my problem, i always believe in people too easily and fall into their traps
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Nov 08
if they are not trust worthy are honest i don,t waste time with trying to be there frinds there is nothing worse then a dishonest person.you will also be able to see if they,re selfish as well always me,me, me never others.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Hi Annji,
The mark of a true friend is one that would be there for you no matter what. I have two friends who I know are true friends. They would do anything for me and I would do anything for them. No one is aloud to talk bad about them in my presense without answering to me and vice versa. That's how you know a true friend.
leenie
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Nov 08
thats good you feel this way and thats the way it should be because friends are hard to find. all that say they are your friend is not your friend. keep your good friends because it,s some snakes out there
@yeshuakaleo (168)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
True friends are friends that love each other no matter what.
@garfield_zhou (530)
• China
31 Oct 08
Compare to finding a true friend, recognizing a true one is much easier, I think. First time can tell us everything. Ture friends will always think about you with each other no matter how long they hvan't met, or how far their distance is. Then, the most important factor is the reactor of you friend when you are in trouble and need help. True friends will come to help you without any hesitate. The others won't. Hope you can find more true friends.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Nov 08
true friends are hard to find there true colors will be reviled on how true they really are.i do,nt have a lot of friends for bad experiences and iam happy with that because if i can,t get a friend that is honest and trust worthy i don,t need them for meit,s not what you can do for me, but i want to be treated the same way i treat you.
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
True friends can be recognize through time. Time alone can prove if a person is true to his or her friends.It is very difficult indeed to find one that is true. A person who is there for you just because he or she can get something from you is not a true friend. A person who is there only when he or she needs you is also a false one.A true friend sticks with you through thick and thin. It is not just about those happy moments that he or she is with you. It is also of those sad or down moments.
Having a true friend is like having a real brother or sister. He or she can sacrifice things or persons just to make you happy. That person is not selfish. He or she considers also your happiness and your welfare. Indeed, he or she can give his or her own life just for you.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Nov 08
friends is very hard to find the friends today will be your friend as long as you can do for them.i once had a friend she had a child and her daddy got killed there was nothing i wouldn,t do for her i treated her like my sister but when her daddy got killed he left her daughter 10,000 dollars that was over seen by the courts until she was of age she had two accounts how about the mom was using the second account for her own use it was suppose to be for the childs needs so she had spent about a 1000.00 dollars of this money ,the court called her to come in to see what happen to the money she asked me to loan her a 1000.00 dollars i didn,thave it i borrowed it so she could put the money back so after i got the money for her,i called her all in the same day couldn,t contact her,so i decide to drive where she was to see was she alright when i got there all in the same day she had took the money and bought her a airplane ticket to leave town to go home to her mom and she had sold all her furinture and moved it out and caught the plane and left town all without telling me anything and left me with a 200.00 dollars a month payment. once she got where she was going she called me, and told me she had left her husband and she will pay it back when she can how about the third day she called and had to ask me could she live with me, things are not like she thought it was going to be there my husband, told me h--- no she can,t stay here she is dirty i pleaded with him to let her stay at least one night he agree.she paid 50.00 dollars back of the loan and never paid another dime ever since then things between her and i wasn,t the same. with a friend like her who needs a ememy so iam very hard to except friends after this i couldn,t believe a person would do such a thing.
