How you view criticism done by a friend or a live ones?
By gracetreyes
@gracetreyes (529)
Philippines
October 31, 2008 7:41am CST
If criticism is done by anybody who hardly know you, I just let it past and move on. He doesn't know me to criticized me. He must be judgmental.
But if done by my love ones, I will be very much willing to really understand it.I will talk to them even if I have to argue just to understand their views. I will be very affected and will deal with it. I will value their views because I know they just love me enough to criticize me...
So how about you guys?
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9 responses
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
1 Nov 08
It all depends on how they go about and if they truly mean well as to how I will take it and handle it.
@stardustcdsd (1856)
• India
1 Nov 08
true..if u r critisised by ur loved ones,u tend to get hurt,upset.watever it is...when someone i love,misunderstands me and criticize me,all i do is stay calm,though it hurts a lil inside,and try my best to see what is his/her point of view....then i have to make them see my point too even it takes me to shout at them....in my case,i usually end up clearing everything but the worst part comes when they apologizes for misunderstanding me...that sometimes makes me feel like a jerk...i kinda hurt them while making them see my point....but thats life
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
It would depend on how one criticizes me or who is criticizing. If it is a constructive criticism then I would surely admit it but if it is a criticism that will only try to annoy me then I would surely react and tell that criticizer to explain why the criticism..........
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
it depends on what situation and how the criticism is done, if they had told me about it while we are having fun and talk about all crazy stuffs, maybe i'll take it lightly, but if im not in the mood, i would be hurt so much, and maybe i couldnt even talk about it with them...
but if the criticism was done by someone i hardly knew, i would ask the person what made him say that and he has to explain to me.
@p3pp3rmiint (19)
• Singapore
1 Nov 08
I think it depends ... If they criticise something that I myself had not know it , then I will argue with them , but if it is something i already knew , then I will just most likely let it pass (:
@ideamanx6 (45)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
A criticism done by someone who doesnt really know me are ignored.
But a criticism done by a friend or a loved one affects me a lot. Because there is really a big chance that what they are saying is indeed true. If I can argue that it is not true then I am willing to open up a discussion. But if it is true then I would just listen to their comments and advises.
In general: A criticism is something that must not be treated negatively, it must be accepted positively to fix yourself and become a better person.
A person gains more experience in mistakes rather than in success. =)
@chellymarz (408)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
hi there. for me criticism done by a friend or a love one, i will be very open to it. I would accept it because I know that the people close to me would criticize me not to put me down but to correct me. I call it positive criticism. if the things the criticize are not true or below the belt, i would tell them that it already hurts me. I wont take it against them.
@amlegend (945)
• Pakistan
31 Oct 08
i am always open for criticism and to me it is way of reviewing and accessing our behavior and to know that how others look and feel about us and then we can try to change the ones that we can as the old habits are very difficult to change.
the criticism that you will get from your friends and family is the most honest and genuine as they spend the most time with you and they are the first ones who are affected with your actions.
i will try to understand what they want to say and then it is up to me as if i think it is true or not.
good luck
@bonnojrun (46)
• Netherlands
31 Oct 08
I hate it when I'm being criticized by good friends, sometimes I just ignore it when I'm not in the mood to argue, but the other times I really want to get it out of them why they would think that way about me, or how I can fix the ideas. But on the other side, I criticize my friend to sometimes, and they act cool with that so I shouldn't make a big point of it.