My Fiance` is looking for the worst...

There is really not much you can say or do except to continue to show your love and support to him. You obviously loved somebody enough in the past to marry the person. Yes, you divorced him but the ex-factor will always play a role. There is always that question about how hung up you still are on the ex (no matter whether you set the divorce or split into motion) and how the current one measures up to the ex. Most people don't like to be reminded that their partner has been in a long relationship with somebody else in the past. That's even worse the more insecure a person is. Your relationship is not 'old' enough to cause your boyfriend to feel safe about it. Just keep the ex out of it for now.

I would say well tell him you love him and that you are glad he took the time to read your discussions and be on mylot. Send him a referral and have him join in, other than that I do not know. I believe you that you love him and he should too

a word of advice he needs to trust you and believe you will not do anything to hurt him.i know this bother youjust knowing he feels like the reason you on mylot it.s another reason other then work.let him read them and then he will see you are just responding to question on things you know well be bless it,s going to be ok

I think that your fiance shouldn't be that insecure. Sure, you spoke about your ex for sometime because you had more experience in that, but it does not mean that you want him back or still love him. You said fiance, so if I understand you correctly, you said yes to his proposal in marriage, right? Also, you are with your fiance and not with your ex husband and I'm pretty sure that you're not communicating with your ex husband as well. And plus, I doubt you have cheated on your fiance before. Tell him to stop worrying, because there is nothing to worry about. I don't know you, but I read your discussion, and I believe and feel that you are really true to your fiance and not at all in love with your ex husband or care for him at all. Please do tell him to trust you because a relationship will not exist if trust is not there. And if he doesn't trust you, why did he even propose to you in the first place? Do tell him to read this discussion. Because believe you me, I've gone through worst scenarios, and I really know and I really do feel that you are true. I will support you through and I do believe that you want to spend your life with your fiance and you really do love him. Please advise him that for me. Do take care, and always try to work things out together because you both are in the relationship. :) Take care and god bless. I hope everything turns out well for the both of you..

ljforte1024 I hope your fiance is reading this and realizes just how much you really love him. so he wont get all sulky over your ex marriage. remind him that that is what it is, an ex marriage, he is your love now, not the ex. to your fiance trust this lady she really doeslove you, not her ex, he is her ex for a reason.Adore her for her real love of you.

hi. Tell him you don't live in the past. Your past made you a better person now and by reason of the past you are still here...in good condition and lovable in his eyes. What you are right now is what you have been before. You can never take away your experiences with your former relationship because it is a part of you. Otherwise it will be chaotic if some part of you is missing and don't know where to find them. Furthermore, it doesn't mean you don't post something about him in myLot you already don't love him. If I am your fiance, I will be more delighted because my partner is not voicing something about us. He or She is keeping our relationship a secret between us, regards it as highly confidential, not for some strangers's scrutiny. It is indeed with respect and sanctity. Love requires strong commitment. It should have a firm foundation that will not be just trampled by reason of some petty misunderstandings. Happy myLotting.

Well - if he sees this, he'll hopefully read what you posted, as well as the responses. Another thing you might want to do is have him sign up as your referral. If you are living together, or plan to live together, just make sure that you both have separate paypal or other payment processor accounts. Oh - yeah - your referral address would be: mylot.com/?ref=ljforte1024 Have him sign up from that address.

ljforte1024, Is your past relationship any more significant and stands much more than your present one? Is it probably the only greatest relationship to you... exclusively? Idealism! I hate to shatter this idealism, but as you are here ranting about your stagnant and even reminiscing about the golden age of your love life. Seriously on the other side of Michigan, your ex would be out there merry making, loving the woman he chose and moving on in life gratefully without your presence. It's really interesting to note when people can related so much feelings about their ex-love, when in fact, these people don't really give a damn anymore. It's like acting and directing your own epic movie, where you are the only audience in the theatre, laughing and weeping at your own script. Nobody can instigate you to move on if that isn't part of your own free will to do so. You must understand that your belief is exclusive only to you, vice versa. To change a belief/personality/character might be just a little difficult, thus the easier option is always to compromise on something that is workable in your relationship to keep it functioning. It's not so much about the work, the stress or everything else that got implicated into your relationship - it's about knowing that despite the individual differences, how is it that you are going to live harmoniously with him while understanding that you two are but separate being. Find a good time and communicate to him about your thoughts (not problems) about this issue and allow him the chance to share with you his. Perception are bound to clash, but at least when you keep this open as a known problem, you pave a opening for possible solution/compromising when the occasion calls for it. Time is always never right to do right - but you can always decide your own route in life and how you want to steer it. Take care.

Explain to your boyfriend that yea he was a part of your life in the past and he is your future. Let him know they were talking about the past and past love and that your feelings for your ex are different than the love you have for him. Send him little cards and maybe read FIve Love Languages and find out his love language them try to do things in his language....I'm guessing it might be words since he is getting upset about your words about your ex.

Im sure your boyfriend now feels so much upset about what he reads, i know he get hurt and maybe he is thinking that you are still inlove with your ex. But waht i cans ay is, explain to him and show himt hat you really love him. And next time, you will going to careful on what you going to post here and avoid too personal here. Kepp myloting and happy posting. Cheers.

well, ljforte..you wont get crazy by this. all you have to do is to talk with him..Having good communication will gonna kicked all of this problems. My suggestion to you is don't put your ex-lover into writing anymore since you finally found someone very important to you. I think he just got jealous..and feeling of jealous is just normal to everybody. Just talk to him..Don't missed communication in a day..Communication is very important for the couple.

Tell him to go screw himself before you screw go and screw SOMEBODY else!

I would just reassure him of how much you love him and not your ex-husband, everything should work out for the best.

It definately sounds like you love him but I think it is important to respect his feelings also. It sounds like you were venting regarding previous message of your ex-husband. But displaying it online probably makes him feel that you are still thinking about your ex-husband more. Tell your fiance and demonstrate to him how much you love HIM and try not to mention your ex-husbnd as much. He needs to understand too, though, that your husband is an ex for a reason and that sometimes you may need to vent. Maybe preceed such a conversation with "baby I need to vent alittle" and see what happens. Because you do not want to bottle anything up like that inside or chose to write about it without talking to him first. Remember, you all will be getting married and once it becomes official, maybe then you will be able to move on froom issues dealing with the ex. Good luck.

Hello dear lj c",) It must have been hard for you knowing that your fiance is upset about your posts here. I think what you did (posting about your ex) is not bad and that your fiance must understand that your ex is in the past. What i suggest that you should do is to talk to him and explain wholeheartedly how must you wanted him in your life. And that your past is a forgotten feeling. Let him know everything what your heart tells you. I'm sure if he love you as much he would surely understand and would trust you completely.For me without trust, there is no love.. Just a thought my friend. I hope all will be fine soon. And let him read this post too c",) Good luck for both of you and all the best!

Hi There Lj. It is normal for your boyfriend to feel jealous, curious and frustrated for some topics that you posted about your ex. Maybe he is not getting used to forums or threads like these topics... maybe he felt that he wasn't enough for you... but if you want, you can talk to him directly and tell him that you love him so much that you can't bear living without him. He is just a jealous man... make him feel you love him.. he'll get through it. Take care. Happy Mylotting!

I read a lot of the comments others made about your posts and basically I agree with them. But I have a question for you. Why did you allow your boyfriend to read your posts anyway? I would think you would like to have a place you could go to to write about things that are of concern to you and that you do especially want everyone to know about. I think it is important that a person can have something that is all their own and have a place where they can express personal feelings. You might want to ask a question about something that no one else needs to know about. Just as a women always needs to have a little money put back she as well as men need to have a litle personal space. I can already hear people commenting on how you must always be completely open and honest in relationships and I also agree with that to a degree. I think it comes down to you do not have to tell everything you know.